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To think this girl on the bus was beyond rude and selfish

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Behindthepaintedgarden · 10/02/2015 14:10

I was on the bus this morning going to work. The bus was crowded with people standing. I stood up to give a heavily pregnant woman my seat and a girl of about 20 plonked herself down immediately. I said 'sorry, I was actually standing up so that lady could sit down' pointing to the pregnant woman. The girl just shrugged her shoulders and remained sitting. Short of making a scene there was nothing I could do. Someone else stood up for the pregnant woman and I remained standing while madam made herself comfy in the seat that had been mine.

AIBU to still want to strangle the selfish brat?

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Behindthepaintedgarden · 10/02/2015 14:40

If I had a hidden disability I'd rather explain that politely than allow everyone to think I was a selfish cow hogging a seat that was intended for a heavily pregnant woman.

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ProudAS · 10/02/2015 14:40

Why do you have to be very disabled to nick a seat??? What if there is a minor health issue which could become worse through standing on a moving bus???

I'd say that this girl probably was a selfish cow but it would be wrong to jump to conclusions without knowing the full story.

Aherdofmims · 10/02/2015 14:41

I would have made a massive scene!

FGS with the hidden disabilities already. You would think half the population had them from reading mn.

If she needed the seat she could have said so. She was clearly a massive chancer and I would have made as big a scene as possible!

sliceofsoup · 10/02/2015 14:43

Oh ffs.

IME there are more rude people than there are people with an invisible disability. And given how many people are struggling with disabilities that aren't immediately visible, that's saying something. It seems every second person I meet these days is unbearably rude and self centered. Chances are she was just a selfish brat.

needaholidaynow · 10/02/2015 14:46

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angelos02 · 10/02/2015 14:59

FGS with the hidden disabilities already. You would think half the population had them from reading mn yy to this. Drives me mad.

Nameochangeo1234567 · 10/02/2015 15:01

YANBU when I was around 7 months pregnant and elderly lady came onto the tube, no one else stood up for her so I did and told her to have my seat. The man infront of me then jumped down and made himself comfortable!

Minty82 · 10/02/2015 15:05

Unbelievably rude! I'd have been seething!

angelos02 · 10/02/2015 15:05

I wonder how some people end up to be so selfish. What the hell are they thinking?

Toetallynamechanged · 10/02/2015 15:08

That's just breathtakingly rude.

tarashill · 10/02/2015 15:11

If she had a hidden disability or back problems she'd have definitely said so, why on earth wouldn't she rather than showing herself up to be rude and selfish. It's a certainty that she didn't, the shrugging of the shoulders said it all. There's no excuse.

ShirleyYoureNotSerious · 10/02/2015 15:11

MN's an interesting place. If the 20-something female had been a victim of some sort I've little doubt that by now you'd have been told off for describing the woman as a "girl".

I'm on the fence with seat offering and pregnancy. On this occasion the woman was rude but I don't think that pregnant automatically means "needs/is entitled to/should get" a seat to the exclusion of others.

Samcro · 10/02/2015 15:21

maybe she was pregnant and not showing yet

OnlyLovers · 10/02/2015 15:22

Well, I was coming on partly to say 'she's a woman, not a girl'
but regardless, she was a rude twunt. She had the opportunity to say if she needed the seat for whatever reason.

I'd have laughed out loud and said 'How selfish and silly. I gave up my seat for this woman as she's pregnant.'

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Behindthepaintedgarden · 10/02/2015 15:23

In Ireland we would usually call females in their 20s a 'girl'.

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Only1scoop · 10/02/2015 15:23

Yanbu

Selfish cah

ImperialBlether · 10/02/2015 15:23

Sam, do you really think that or are you just contrary?

LadyLuck10 · 10/02/2015 15:26

Yanbu what a selfish shit she is. And Hmmto the hidden disability excuse.

Only1scoop · 10/02/2015 15:26

Oh and of course Op a disclaimer as she was probably ....

Prg with triplets just not showing....

Her blood sugar was low and she was about to have a hypo.....

She gets motion sickness and had to sit....

Samcro · 10/02/2015 15:28

I mean it, she could be....who knows.she could be rude.
she could be anything

InQuiteAPickle · 10/02/2015 15:30

Well, if you're pregnant and not even showing then you're not really in need of a seat, are you? No more so than someone who isn't pregnant.

grimbletart · 10/02/2015 15:30

Statistically on a bus fall of people what are the odds on a 20 year old woman having a hidden disability that she preferred to shrug her shoulders about rather than explain and being a selfish person? Statistically I vote she's a selfish person.

needaholidaynow · 10/02/2015 15:31

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ClumsyNinja · 10/02/2015 15:34

Behingthepaintedgarden down Cork way, they call women 'lads'.
That really threw me the first time someone addressed my DH and I as 'lads'. My DH is 60 something and I'm not that far behind. Even the mums at the school gate refer to groups of women as 'lads'. Grin

ShirleyYoureNotSerious · 10/02/2015 15:34

"I expect that most pregnant women don't go around expecting the world to fall at their feet, so people do need to bear that in mind before they assume all pregnant women think that way"

I agree but you can't deny that the ones that do think that way are insufferable!