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to move DD from her nice independent school where she has a scholarship because her brother didn't get offered one?

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middleschoolmuddle · 07/02/2015 23:23

We are not rich but nor are we poor. The school have offered us a 16% bursary for DS - it's not enough.

Would it be mean to move DD to a state school at this stage (Y9)? Has anyone done this?

I can't think straight, my mind is whirring so I'd love some perspective from those of you that have managed to use the local 'good' state schools and pass up the rather nice (best in County) independent one.

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Kundry · 09/02/2015 21:35

Errr, your son has no hope of an Eton scholarship given he couldn't get one to your local independent. You yourself admitted he wasn't top 1%.

Plus how exactly did he get interested in it? Was it you going on about it by any chance?

Obvs parents who work because they realise they have to pay the bills have no interest in seeing their kids Angry

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middleschoolmuddle · 09/02/2015 21:38

Lady, thanks for the info. What I really want to do is to write something for the DoE that will go into all schools or work on some curriculum materials.

Mum, that's interesting, I've read something similar about teachers' kids doing well in France.

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TalkinPeace · 09/02/2015 21:39

stamps foot wanting to be as deluded as the OP

ZeroFunDame · 09/02/2015 21:39

Oh Kundry I hate to squash anyone's E hopes. He might have matured between then and the end of yr 8 ...

It is much harder OP than the "regular" route from what I understand. If you say right now that your DS sent off for the prospectus off his own bat ...

Kundry · 09/02/2015 21:43

There was a documentary a few years ago about boys applying for them. The untutored boys were terrifyingly bright. The rest were tutored to within an inch of their lives and seemed miserable as the whole family were seeking validation through their sons achievements. The pressure inflicted on them was horrible.

Which brings me back to the OP...

Chippednailvarnish · 09/02/2015 21:44

I can see a flying pig about to hit the brick wall...

arna · 09/02/2015 21:50

I've just googled the NF - one recent recipient has already gained A's in GCSE AND A Level Maths before his application - I say that the standard is high!

ZeroFunDame · 09/02/2015 21:51

HmmI definitely wrote "quash"...

Kundry Ancient TV isn't necessarily helpful to decision making. The recent CBBC prog seemed quite reassuring. I do think a boy would have to be hugely self-motivated to do it in isolation so to speak.

I hope you don't have a favourite amongst your children OP ...

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 09/02/2015 21:51

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middleschoolmuddle · 09/02/2015 21:52

I called Eton (what entertainment I'm providing you all with) and enquired. I was told that they only had about 50 applicants. The boys in the CBBC show that got in where pretty much like my DS.

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middleschoolmuddle · 09/02/2015 21:53

Zero, just trying to counteract middle child syndrome

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ZeroFunDame · 09/02/2015 21:58

The boys in the CBBC show that got in were pretty much like my DS.

Which is possibly why they were used in the prog.

arna I think most boys currently preparing for the KS (yr 8) are working to at least GCSE level in most subjects. And closer to A' level in one or two.

(God help us.)

ZeroFunDame · 09/02/2015 22:01

You may be joking OP but if you're hoping for E you clearly want your DS to be able to say "sucks!" to his sister.

Why?

Whole thread started with you wanting to deprive her of something he couldn't have ...

Kundry · 09/02/2015 22:02

Whoops it was the Harrow one I saw. With the exception of the music scholars who were genuinely doing something they loved, all the rest looked like they would have been much happier kicking a football.

Hakluyt · 09/02/2015 22:09

Oh god, not Eton! Please don't tell me you're thinking of putting him in for KS!!!!

Or is that an idea he's come up with out of his own little head?

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 09/02/2015 22:14

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ZeroFunDame · 09/02/2015 22:15

It wouldn't be the KS Hak.

OP is aiming at a New Foundation (?) as her DS is at a state school.

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 09/02/2015 22:16

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Hakluyt · 09/02/2015 22:17

Oh. Right. That's OK then.

PrimalLass · 09/02/2015 22:20

Textbooks in education are usually commissioned. But if you let publishers know you are interested then you could get some work that way.

ZeroFunDame · 09/02/2015 22:21

I have a better Oxbridge degree than my KS ex-bf.Grin

Don't mean nuffink.

EdSheeran · 09/02/2015 22:41

I've been following this thread and I don't know if you're on a wind up or if you're deluded.

Southwoldpier · 09/02/2015 22:50

According to you, your YR6 DS 'passed' his 11+ for the next county's grammar but will not be getting a place.Hmm.

At the same time, he didn't perform well enough on the day to receive a scholarship of any kind at your DD's school but obviously did well enough to receive an offer and your income level is such that you applied for and was eligible for a means tested bursary.

In my world, all bursaries are means tested, different schools merely have different thresholds/sliding scales. Why on earth did you not know beforehand especially since you already have a DD there!

Haven't you already rejected the boarding option for your DD or was that merely due to expense? You are bonkers to allow your DS attempt entry to Eton when he has already failed to make the grammar school cut or gained any scholarship at your DD's school? You should take a look at all the MN threads of the 11+ bunfight in South London.

Mumtotherescueagain · 09/02/2015 22:50

And now the ds is applying to Eton whilst the Op declares she can't work as a teacher because she'll never see her kids......Hmm x 1000!

vindscreenviper · 09/02/2015 22:51

Was it the scholarship advice from Eton, over the phone, at 9.30pm that is causing you to doubt ed?