I think I'm pregnant - WIBU to ignore and tell no one?

[PurpleCorsage]

(I've name changed but been on here for years)

I have two children, and thought I was on the same page as my DH in saying that if I were to 'accidentally' fall pregnant it wouldn't be the worst news ever.

I haven't been on the pill or anything since my second child, and have just been timing sex to be at the least fertile times. Until last month when we were drunk and it was bang in the middle of my fertile window. It took a long time to conceive my second child so I wasn't overly worried.

But now my period is 6 days late when usually like clockwork, I have sore breasts and pains in my lower back that I remember from before. I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant.

Today while shopping I was going to bring up to my DH that I might need to get a test, but a person walked by with baby twins and I said how cute, and he basically said poor them. How glad he is we're done with babies and the PND I suffered with after my second child did him in and he would never want to go through it again.

I said if I found out I was pregnant I wouldn't consider not having it, and he said that we would be on total opposite sides of that argument.

So now, I'm thinking I'm just not going to take a test, just wait and see and let time go past and be one of those people who 'discovers' their pregnancy really late. Then there's no argument, no horrible decision...

I appreciate this makes me sound like a psycho. But I'm actually thinking of doing it. I didn't buy a test. I didn't say anything.

both of you played grown-up games, so now you have to make grown-up choices. Unprotected sex for months was not wise if you or he didn't want another baby.

you need to step up to being pregnant (if you are) and start taking care of yourself. The choice of whether the pregnancy continues is yours.

he needs to support that decision. He chose to continue unprotected sex, as did you.

if you aren't pregnant - don't have sex again without real contraception unless you BOTH want another child.

Any update OP? Are you okay? X

I've had a test at the GP and I'm not pregnant... Still no AF though

Op go on a permanent form of contraception and use condoms as well. I am afraid the partner who does not want a baby trumps. Though you would be happy, your pRtner woukd not, that is important.

Or rather, inform your DH that as he really does definitely not want more children, the onus is now on him to use contraception - remind him that if he chooses not to, he is saying that he would not mind more children, and if you were to get pregnant, what would matter would be the fact that he was happy to let it happen, rather than any amount of protesting after the fact - and that you would NOT terminate.

Not read the full for thread but I did exactly this for 24 weeks of my pregnancy. Emotionally the most difficult time of my life, I wouldn't recommend anybody do it.