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AIBU?

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to be fed up of living in a deprived neighbourhood?

385 replies

fluffymouse · 06/02/2015 19:38

We moved neighbourhoods in London to up size. Quite simply we could only afford a place big enough for us as a family in London in a dodgy neighbourhood. By any conventional marker the area is very deprived. It has a rather notorious reputation too, and has meant some people have been reluctant to visit us.

I have tried being positive about the area (it is on the up, like all areas of London that are not already up!). I am starting to think it would be nice to just move out to a nice village now.

Pros of our area:
Good community feel
Crime rate acceptable by London standards
Feels safe for the most part
Diverse neighbourhood - good ethnic foods

Cons:
Drug dealing neighbours who have been verbally abusive and threatening
Antisocial behaviour issues
Very few of the parents at dd's preschool speak English - limiting opportunities for play dates
Local schools - most do well considering, but children starting with attainment well below average, high turnover of pupils, and lots of pupils at early stage of English language acquisition
Very poor provision for children despite there being lots of children in the area - put simply no one bothers to provide as it wouldn't be taken up for the most part. No ballet, gym etc. Even the children centres offer very little.

WIBU to move us all out to a beautiful village up north where we can get a 4 bed house for the price of a bedsit here?

OP posts:
Methe · 06/02/2015 20:09

Pretty sure, yes.

MrsTawdry · 06/02/2015 20:12

Move. Come to Cheshire. It's lovely here and you can get a lovely three bed house in a nice village for about half of what your house is probably worth.

FannyFifer · 06/02/2015 20:16

You would get a fab house for that up here in Scotland. I live in a beautiful wee village in a pretty big Victorian house that cost half that. Grin

TinklyLittleLaugh · 06/02/2015 20:17

Come to West Lacashire, it is very naice, (and cheap). We are in between Liverpool and Manchester, so not too far from decent shops a bit of culture.

BeeBawBabbity · 06/02/2015 20:17

Wales? Cardiff is a lovely city. Lots of towns close by. Lots of public sector jobs.

Siennasun · 06/02/2015 20:25

We live affluent suburb in NW England. Low crime, very safe, lots of nice stuff for kids. It's not London but there's still ok facilities - ethnic food shops, etc. You could get a 4 bed here for £300k.

Siennasun · 06/02/2015 20:28

We've got nice, friendly neighbours too. When DS was born several people came round with gifts and money despite barely knowing us. Smile

2minsofyourtime · 06/02/2015 20:29

Isn't that an Urban Myth? The lone speaker of English in a classroom?

Of course it's not a myth there are lots school in London were English isn't the first language of any if the children.

2minsofyourtime · 06/02/2015 20:29

Where

HyperThread · 06/02/2015 20:29

Sienna, may I ask which which area it is please? Could you PM me possibly please? Smile Looking into good areas in NW to move to.

ilovesooty · 06/02/2015 20:32

Where are the lots of schools in London which have 100% ESL students?

Ubik1 · 06/02/2015 20:32

Well why not start applying for other jobs?

Living in a rough part of town can be pretty grim and it's not like you get a medal for living there.

Glasgow is nice.

wowfudge · 06/02/2015 20:36

I'd say Sienna is somewhere like Didsbury, Manchester.

Guitargirl · 06/02/2015 20:36

IME in London you can move from 'dodgy' to 'gentrified' within a few streets. If you aren't happy and your jobs mean you can move elsewhere then I don't really understand why you have to ask Confused. What did you think people were going to say- no, stay where you are, continue living in a shithole?

For your budget you could get a decent property in most parts of the country I would say.

wowfudge · 06/02/2015 20:37

Or Chorlton. A friend is a teacher up here. Her primary school has 90% pupils not from English speaking homes.

Storm15 · 06/02/2015 20:37

Maybe the South-West? You could get a 4 bed for 300k in Somerset / Devon pretty easily.

Siennasun · 06/02/2015 20:38

Good guess wowfudge!!

wowfudge · 06/02/2015 20:41

It doesn't take a genius - the ethnic shops bit ruled out Hale/Bowdon/Altrincham.

madmomma · 06/02/2015 20:45

I'm in Manchester andreally recommend it. Great house prices - you'd definitely get 4 bedrooms for 300k in a nice area, and there is so much going on here for all ages.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 06/02/2015 20:47

We wanted to move years ago when round here started to declined into an epic shithole. It's still not great but the kids are happy and doing well at the local school, we have friends here as do they as well as family. Where I ideally would like to live there isn't the jobs going and we haven't got enough savings to live off while we look for work.

So we're are staying put.

Siennasun · 06/02/2015 20:49
Grin Could've been Prestwich? or somewhere in Liverpool?
wowfudge · 06/02/2015 20:50

I agree madmomma. But then I would, as a native. Plenty of good places to live, good schools, good shopping, theatres, museums, etc, etc.

Also excellent transport links although public transport isn't as good as London.

Azquilith · 06/02/2015 20:51

Move. I've just moved from SW11 to NW. love London, but not to raise my kids unless I'm a millionaire.

wowfudge · 06/02/2015 20:53

Nah - I'd never describe Prestwich as an affluent suburb and somehow I don't think you'd have used the description you did about somewhere in Liverpool.

Plus here on MN Didsbury and chuffing Chorlton and Hale are the be all and end all, it seems, when it comes to Manchester!

Hoppinggreen · 06/02/2015 20:54

Come on oop North to Yorkshire.
£300k will get you a nice 4 bed in a decent area with good schools and lots of lovely people.
London is all well and good for a visit but when I scuttle back up here I feel like I can breathe again