Wedding invite asking for...

[sammysung]

A donation to the B & G honeymoon fund!
Both B & G in their 50's, both second marriage.
Good idea or grabby??

I can't understand the issue. Is it not jealousy that people would be offended to contribute to a 5 honeymoon? The fact that it is mentioned as a 5 honeymoon, rather than a 'honeymoon' would suggest the air has turned blue????

People would be happy to buy a gift from a 'gift list'. So why not, instead, put the money you WOULD have spent on a gift towards a honeymoon?

People have 'gift lists' because it is now, mainly, what they want. This couple want a honeymoon - what is the difference?? It's a gift - a holiday a different sort of 'materialistic' thing. Gift lists aren't about what is needed anymore.

We have lived together for 4 years before we got married. We had a house that was in need of repair (dream house - bought in a bit of a state because we feared it would be out of our reach in the future and would have been given the housing market). We had a flat roof with no insulation so asked people to donate to our roof fund (we needed it, a bit like people 'needing' a toaster!!!) Most donated, we didn't get the entire fund and by no means did we expect to but it contributed to the tiles! So when people come, instead of a toaster, they see roof tiles. For 'this' couple they will share a lifetime of memories through video footage and photos and stories.

Why can't people be happy for each other?

We asked for contributions to home improvements. There were some items that we specifically wanted, but not enough for a gift list. The crockery set we bought from the factory shop 10 miles away and got seconds during a sale. To us, asking for the first quality set from the high street would have been like binning 3/4 of the value that that our guests spent.

Just spend what you're comfortable with and would spend anyway, and get the couple what they would like to celebrate the start of the marriage.

Almost put this in my other post but wimped out
We asked for vouchers. In the invite, loud and proud. Argos vouchers to be precise and neither of us regret it 11 years later. Difference is that we were skint with a 2 year old and everything down to the rug was secondhand (if we were lucky).
The standing joke about our wedding was that we got married because we needed a new kettle.... Because ours was secondhand
Thing is if we had been comfortable we would still have asked for money or vouchers because it's easier.
The B&G don't usually want another vase or more towels or a wooden plaque with their names on, they want useful or lovely things that they can look back on and smile at. If sunning themselves on a beach somewhere without a care in the world for a fortnight is that thing then why not help them get there?

We didn't have a wedding list or expect anything, so we got lots of crockery and vases plus things I can't remember. Crockery and vases now all broken as I threw it all at him but seriously I would never had asked for money.