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To go over the teachers head?

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Bananaapplegrape · 04/02/2015 20:51

Right bit of a backstory (sorry!) DD is 11, year 6 of primary school, never been in trouble, always had brilliant school report, in top sets blah blah.. She's targeted for a 5A in maths and a 5B for literacy in the sats...

Today she came out of school hysterical (to the point where she was brought out by a TA who had found her crying in the toilets), they had a 'long write' today.. It had been marked and DD got a 5c.. Her teacher ripped the work out of her book and she is to redo it tomorrow (during break!!!!)

I went to talk to the teacher, fully expecting her to explain that DD has completely misunderstood but no.. Teacher stated that DD has potential to do better, so she has too.. I asked had DD been messing around? Nope.. Chatting? Nope.. Behaviour was absolutley fine.. But she KNOWS she could have done it better.

I completely and utterly disagree with this and told teacher so DD loves school and always works hard.. She is not reacting well to the stupid amounts of pressure that these fucking sats are placing on her (despite me telling her repeatedly that it's the school being tested not her) and today has just completed fucked up her confidence...

I've tried talking to the teacher and she is Adament its a legitimate learning approach bollocks so would IBU to go to the head?

I should add - If DD was messing around them I would have absolutley no objection to the loss of break (though still wouldn't be overly impressed by the book ripping) but to do that to a child who is already achieving over average? It just feels really wrong that she's being punished for not over achieving...

OP posts:
Feenie · 05/02/2015 18:13

Oh for fuck's sake - read the thread!

thewomaninwhite · 05/02/2015 19:10

Glad this got sorted op. I hope the teacher really thinks about this as this strategy is just so unprofessional and unhelpful for pupils. Glad the head listened to you and spoke to the teacher.

GoblinLittleOwl · 06/02/2015 17:52

Nicky Morgan needs to see this sort of correspondence, to understand why schools face such an uphill struggle as they try to raise standards.

DancingDinosaur · 06/02/2015 18:29

I said I told my son that these things happen and to rise above it and learn.

There are some things that children aren't equipped to deal with due to age and experience. And this is one of them. Which is why a responsible parent would step in to deal with it. Absolutely fine for children to know there are some things that can't be changed and deal with it. This scenario however isn't one of them.

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