MIL cut 2 year old's hair.

[SummerHouse]

MIL has DS2 one day a week and does a brilliant job. He loves going to her. He has only ever had one hair cut over a year ago. His hair is very wispy and curly so it is not that long. I am not specifically growing it but when DS1 goes to the hairdresser we ask if he wants his doing and he always says no.

MIL sent a text to me at work confessing the cut saying it was in his eyes. I got home to find she has cut a fringe but also all the back. Its still quite long but more of a he-man style bob.

I am suppressing some annoyance but AIBU to just let this go. My instinct tells me not to rock the boat as she is an incredibly stubborn woman but I also don't want her to do it again.

Hotsqushed you know what - I did let go. I was all set to say something like "you won't cut his hair again will you?" But my heart was just not in it. Then I got home that evening to find a sealed envelope labeled "dates available for grandma and grandad duties". Inside is a list of every date they can have DS1 when I am at work in the school holidays. We are lucky, lucky parents. I have decided to get that spa day for them that I have been meaning to get for ages. Its funny but this thread has really put things into perspective for me.

That is so very lovely of you. its nice when families can work like yours can.

Thanks beeray . The thing is I have a sneaking suspicion that if I did mention it it would not end well. I really don't want to be annoyed with her or have her annoyed with me. My two year old has taught me to pick my battles!

Oh bloody hell summer house! A whole mil thread where you don't froth and spit and declare you'll go nc because your mil is a complete bitch. Instead you decide to buy her a spa day! Are you a mumsnetter or a nethun?
I would not be happy if my mil or mum or anyone cut my dds hair but I hope I'd be as nice as you've been about it if it happened.

You are a much nicer person than I, op.

So glad it's never occurred to my mum to cut either of my girls hair. Think she's savvy enough to realise any attempt on her part to cut their hair would result in her totally fucking it up and utimately me taking them to my friend (a hairdresser) to rectify it.

I have enough school photos to prove that my mum, lovely though she is, is no hairdresser.

And neither am I as it goes. I used to snip dd1's hair till till she was 2 andDh told me to leave it and take to someone who knows what they are doing with a pair of scissors.

Thank you quietninja.

[Googles nethuns]

Oh I am a mumsnetter alright.

I think I was a bit shocked that she did it but in the end I have to admit it didn't really bother me. I get more upset by some of the comments on here.

Mrsits - my dad, lovely though he is, once cut my sister what he called "sideboards". Hilarious for us but not great for her. I miss the 80s.

It was only when I came on MN that I came across this "first haircut is precious" thing not to mention first visit to Father Christmas I really don't remember it when my dc were little. It really wouldn't have bothered me if my lovely MIL had cut their hair, I'd probably have been grateful tbh -so

• is it a 'new' thing (ie last 20 years) as my dc are adults? Or
• am I just weird?

Perhaps we just hear about it more because of sites light this. Maybe Grandparents have always been doing it for reasons know only to themselves. Although why they see fit to stick their nebs in is beyond me.

As I said upthread it wouldn't occur to my mum to cut my dds hair and I doubt my mil would've done such a thing despite cutting her own. Chances are they'll balls it up and make it worse.

No, keep scissors in the draw and carry on doing your grandparent thing and everyone will be happy.

Aaargh could she not have just mentioned he said his hair was in his eyes? Or combed it back. I feel for you OP. It is a MIL thing. I would have gone berserk at her. It was bad enough when MIL would start tying DD's short hair in bobbles because she looked cute. Oh I would have gone berserk at her OP!