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AIBU?

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To think that my DB is taking the piss out of our parents by asking for lifts all of the time?

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JudgeyHotPants · 31/01/2015 18:10

He asks for lifts off them all of the time and it really grinds my gears (no pun intended). If it were once in a blue moon it wouldn't bother me, but it's happening almost every single Friday and Saturday night and I feel that he's taking the piss out of the now. He no longer asks me because he knows what the response will be. Sadly my parents, in particular my mum, are still a really soft touch where he is concerned. It's at the stage where they can even have a glass of wine with their evening meal because they know they will get a phone call off him asking for a bloody lift somewhere!

He's not a teenager, he's 30. He lives in his own home and drives and owns his own car. He expects lifts because he can have a drink without having the expense of paying for a taxi. It's a simple as that, but I wouldn't dream of asking anyone for a lift. I'd get a bloody taxi if I was going out at night!

I know people will say it's up to them, and it probably is, but surely this is a serious case of piss taking?

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Mintyyssockie · 31/01/2015 18:11

Well of course it is. But wtf at your mum and dad?? They have made him like this I'm afraid.

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2015 18:13

What do you mean it 'probably' is?

Of course it's up to them if they want to do it.

But I agree, he's taking the piss.

PtolemysNeedle · 31/01/2015 18:14

Of course he's taking the piss, but people will when they are invited to do so.

Why do you think your parents don't say no?

LadyLuck10 · 31/01/2015 18:14

Yanbu, but you getting upset about it is pointless though isn't it? You are getting angry at a situation you don't have control over. Your parents should deal with it if they have a problem.

betweenmarchandmay · 31/01/2015 18:16

It's taking the piss if they are unhappy.

If they are not it isn't.

I don't get threads like this (sorry OP) - they seem to amount to 'I wouldn't want to do it so how dare anyone else not mind'

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JudgeyHotPants · 31/01/2015 18:16

They have, your right, and they have both privately moaned at me about it but refuse to put their feet down and say "No". The one time my mum did this he apparently threw a strop and stormed out of the house.

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Mammanat222 · 31/01/2015 18:28

Sadly its not your battle to fight OP.

I agree your brother is a piss taking man child but as long as your parents are enabling this there is nothing you can do.

Your folks need to tell him if they aren't happy with the situation. They shouldn't be moaning to you?

pillowaddict · 31/01/2015 18:38

What you said about them having a glass of wine with their meal gives them the perfect excuse, especially initially if they want to break the habit without a confrontation: "oh sorry, we've had a drink so not able to". (Clearly this will only work in the evening and not in morning situation! ). Yes he is taking the piss but they are absolutely pandering to him and the only way he will stop is if they stop!

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 31/01/2015 18:54

Well, if they carry on doing it he'll carry on taking the piss. It's really down to them.

If they won't stop doing it, they really shouldn't be complaining about it. They are making a choice.

ilovesooty · 31/01/2015 19:00

I'd tell them not to moan at you if they aren't prepared to stand up to him.

Leeds2 · 31/01/2015 19:02

As Pillow says, get them to have a drink in the evening so that they have a ready made reason not to give him a lift, and one that they cannot be talked out of. And if he stomps off back to his own house, well tbh I would let him. They aren't actually doing him any favours.

Icimoi · 31/01/2015 19:09

But why do they care if he storms out of the house? It's not as if he lives there anyway. He'll be back soon enough next time he wants a favour.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 31/01/2015 19:21

They're pandering to a 30 year old. It wouldn't be happening if they learned how to say no.

When they next moan to you about it, just tell them to say that they can't because they've had a drink. Repeat until he gets the hint.

laughingmyarseoff · 31/01/2015 20:58

YANBU they are pandering to his bratty behaviour. You an't stop that, all you can do is when they moan you have to hold up you hand and say: stop it, he acts this way because you allow it and only you can stop it. Don't moan to me if you aren't going to do anything about it because it just makes me more and more pissed off with Dbro and more frustrated with you. So either sort it out or seethe in private.

littleleftie · 31/01/2015 21:42

Have you posted about this before, it rings a bell?

I agree with laughing you can't do anything other than stop them moaning about it to you. Point out that it is their choiceand if they want to be martyrs then they cannot complain to you about it.

madmother1 · 31/01/2015 22:08

Oh dear, I've just stopped myself having a glass of wine tonight as I'm giving my 18 year old a lift into town!! I shall have to stop when he gets older :-)

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