to of said something

[zobey]

I started training for a new job and we are in a large group for this. Every time that the trainer is talking the same group of lads sit and talk. It's really off putting and I've tried to block them out but I carnt. A few others in the group have picked up on it too. I stayed behind and in passing mentioned it to the trainer who said he has noticed and will be sorting it tomorrow. Was ibu to say something?

I'm sorry op for derailing from your post, yanbu, of course you did the right thing. I would continue to complain as well if the problem isn't sorted.

I'm sure someone will correct me but as I cannot think of a situation where I would use "to of" in any sentence, why can't blasted autocorrect actually do something useful and change it to "to have" as a default?

We might be able to have threads where the OP gets advice on their question rather than on their grammar.

And as I have promptly omitted to do just that, apologies! Yes, of course you did the right thing unspeaking to the tutor. A shame that you needed to do so.

MN at its best right here folks.

FWIW I'm a stickler for grammar in real life. On an internet forum I couldn't give a shiny shite because I don't have to read it if it bothers me that much!

OP YWNBU.

Some posters in this thread have been though.

*in speaking. I have obviously now annoyed autocorrect.

Not everyone HAS autocorrect.

It's not pedantic to correct a poster's grammar. It's just rude.

I hope the trainer gets on top of the situation today.

AIBU is not 'a conversation in real life' though, is it? (someone up-thread said you wouldn't say it in real life so why say it here) If every poster only posted things they would honestly say face to face in real life AIBU would be dull indeed

I think if a thread title is about something really sensitive or upsetting (I'm About To Kill Meself, for eg) then it is totally crass to mention grammar at all.

However if it's a big glaring mistake in a fairly innocuous thread title then it's ok to point it out - but it would be nice, (and good manners, which matters even more than grammar), to also address the issue raised by the OP at the same time :)

Hopefully the OP will have learned something from this thread - even if she's to use 'have' instead of 'of'

This thread is excellent reading. V amusing to see how an innocent mistake has quickly descended in to mud slinging

MurielWoods You will probably get blasted for your post. ;)

If the OP has just started a new job (congratulations BTW ), it would suggest that she has a perfectly satisfactory command of written English when it matters.

MurielWoods I think that may possible by the most patronising post I have ever read on MN.

The OP did not seek and does not need your help to improve herself as you see it.

So answer the question you were asked, or if you are that worried PM her and ask her would she like you 'helpful' tips and give her a chance to tell you to mind your own business.

I thought Muriel was being ironical?!

Grammar and spelling matter to me too in my professional life. On Mumsnet nah! Not at all which is evident from lots of my posts

Op you were right in fact the trainer was unreasonable not to call them out on it. I lecture and if my students talk over me I ask them politely to stop as it is distracting for me and others.

My written English in generally fantastic, but if I'm posting on my phone it can sometimes get problematical.

People need to take a step back before wading in with pedantic text corrections. It's crass at times to be so fixated on one thing yet ignore the OP's question.

OP, I hope the trainer gets the behaviour under control for you.

The thing is, the grammar issue isn't entirely irrelevant. OP is complaining about something she finds really offputting. For many people, writing "To of said something" is really offputting and gets in the way of their understanding of the post. If something like that puts you in a bad mood, it tends to colour your reaction to the substance of the post.

Really what has caused much more derailing here is all the people who are going on and on and on about the first couple of posts that mentioned this. You could simply have ignored it, OP would have duly been told she INBU, and the whole thing would have died the death within around six posts.

Apedantwrites or the posters could have ignored the thread. Unlike the OP who is unable to avoid the lads.

If it gets in their way of understanding the post, I think their time would be better spent working on their comprehension levels than nit picking someone else's post.

The thing is, the grammar issue isn't entirely irrelevant. OP is complaining about something she finds really offputting. For many people, writing "To of said something" is really offputting and gets in the way of their understanding of the post. If something like that puts you in a bad mood, it tends to colour your reaction to the substance of the post

By your logic if the poster was a non native English speaker or had dyslexia for example she deserved to get the non helpful replies for the question she asked. I don't agree and I think it says something to me about the posters who commented on it rather than just answer the question.