To think "Love Bombing" sounds good at first....but then...

[MrsTawdry]

it sounds great at first but then you realise that the very first step of it is to offer your child tho choice of ANY thing they want to do at all.

How the feck is that practical?

My DD has been difficult lately and I just thought I'd google "love bombing" as I've heard it mentioned on MN a lot...i thought it would involve loads of affection or something but no...it's offering your child any time they want to spend with you doing as they choose.

My DD would choose something impossible to afford! I know she'd say "I want to go to Transylvania instead of school on Monday."

Have I got the wrong end of the stick?

Tinkly absolutely and I wasn't in any way critisising you rather the so called experts who extract cash from parents and parents who buy these books are by default good caring parents.

As you say children in families are all different.

special of course you are right and mumsnet is just so brilliant as it's free advice!

What I dislike is the taking of completely normal parenting and turning it into an ism! Like AP etc.

I apologise if I have offended anyone it was not my intention.

Special magic, no no you have taken this all the wrong way.
I am right at the front of the queue for some totally shite parenting, believe me!!!
Most of are!

Good post specialmagiclady

Any so called experts are actually quite expert in their field

Sorry, many

if you think you have. If you g to learn from anybody, or from resarch, that is pretty arrogant.

Jeez, my ipad hates me

What I meant to say was

If you think you have nothing to learn from anybody, that is pretty arrogant

No nothing to learn from someone who simply chooses to write a book.

Anyone can write a child care book. They don't have to have any qualifications at all.

The best advice I have had has been from family, friends and mumsnet. And just doing my own thing.

Oliver James, Tanya Byron, both Clinical Psychologists, with research and clinical experience.they earn money from their clinical work and disseminating it through their books.

Other parenting advisors have been midwives, breastfeeding consultants, paediatricians, nannies etc

I tried the odd book when I was a first time mum and very green behind the ears at this parenting lark. They did nothing for me. Can't even remember who by now, but I gave up when my eldest was still way less than a year old (she is 20 now). Rightly or wrongly, I just did my own thing and muddled by.

Mine all seem to have survived.