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Original poster

To think in January the heating should be on?

73 replies

betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:03

DH keeps complaining about me having the heating on.

Aibu to think it's normal in January to have heating on as it's bloody cold!?

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MargotLovedTom · 23/01/2015 17:05

Yes, totally normal!

LadyLuck10 · 23/01/2015 17:05

Mine has been on from November Grin. Yanbu, it's definitely too cold now to keep it off.

LumpenproletariatAndProud · 23/01/2015 17:06

YABU, who puts their heating on in the middle of winter. Weirdos, surely.

Hmm
Chottie · 23/01/2015 17:06

If your DH is not going to switch the heating on in January, why do you have heating at all?!?

He is BU, why be cold when you can have the heating on?

My name is Chottie and my heating has been on every day since Winter started.

Fudgeface123 · 23/01/2015 17:06

Doesn't matter whether it's January, February or March...if it's cold the heating's going on.

Original poster
betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:06

It's freezing! I think he wants it on for a couple of hours a day but it is just so cold.

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MadamG · 23/01/2015 17:08

Unless you are in Australia you ANBU he is however being a weirdo (and possibly related to my DH).

Hatespiders · 23/01/2015 17:09

Good grief of course YANBU!
There was a very heavy frost this morning and it's well below freezing.
We've had our heating on since the end of October. Even in summer, if it's chilly in the evening it goes on for an hour.
Does your dh expect you to sit there miserable and shivering?
And if your heating isn't on you may get frozen pipes and lots of condensation, which will give rise to black mould.
Put it on at once!

cozietoesie · 23/01/2015 17:13

Darned right the heating is on - we have snow outside!

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betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:16

I think he has something wrong with him. We have a 9 month old baby and it must be cold for her, surely?

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CalicoBlue · 23/01/2015 17:18

Our heating is broken and it is freezing. We are pretty much confined to rooms that have fan heaters in. Not nice at all.

I thought it is cheaper to have the heating on a low constant heat than turning it on and off and then it has to work hard to heat a cold house.

squoosh · 23/01/2015 17:18

I can't stand people who love to show how stoic and hardy they are by refusing to put the heating on.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 23/01/2015 17:18

If he wants to sit in the cold, send him outside, meanwhile you get nice and warm having baby snuggles.

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betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:19

He's not in the house all day squoosh but I am, so why he thinks I should freeze is anybody's guess!

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Hatespiders · 23/01/2015 17:20

And you have a baby there? Of course it's cold for her!
Is this man a bit strange? He sounds horribly cruel to me. What husband and dad wants his wife and baby to be miserably cold?
Don't argue with him. Put the heating on and warm yourself and little one up.
You need a chat with him about needs and considering everyone in the house.
Bit worrying actually. Does he dominate you a lot? Controlling?

LaurieMarlow · 23/01/2015 17:20

YADNBU. it's actually freezing. What the fuck does he think the heating is for?

kaykayred · 23/01/2015 17:20

Our heating isn't on and I am absolutely freezing. I even sleep in the thickest duvet imaginable, pyjamas and a dressing gown.

It has been on once or twice, but then we inevitably switch it off again after a couple of hours.

Thing is, we have so little insulation in the house that it's pretty much like opening the window and just throwing money out.

BackforGood · 23/01/2015 17:21

It's not about being stoic and hardy, squoosh more about being able to pay the bills.

As to the heating being on- ours comes on, but it's not on all day and night.... so, depends how much you have it on I suppose, and if you have it on when you are out and if you do things like shut doors and heat living rooms but not have it blasting in the bedrooms which no-one uses throughout the day, etc.,etc.
Also, of course, what your finances are like.

Never that straight forwards.

ilovesooty · 23/01/2015 17:23

I don't have central heating but in this weather if I had and I was in all day I'd be putting it on.

Ask him why he considers it unnecessary and why he should be making the decision anyway.

SauvignonBlanche · 23/01/2015 17:25

YANBU at all.

DeliciousMonster · 23/01/2015 17:25

Does he want it on when he is at home, but not when you are at home?

If you can afford it then put it on.

Ours goes on for a couple of hours am and pm, and is left on unless we have the woodburner on. This week, I've been working at home and it's gone on earlier. It's very cold out there!

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betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:25

He just moans when he comes in and says it's too fucking hot, have you had it on all day. To which I replied OF COURSE I have had it on all day, as it's really cold.

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 23/01/2015 17:29

I've been freezing all day. Dd has been fine cuddled up on me and keeping part of me warm at least. We just can't afford to have it on all day. It goes on in the morning and evening so ds isn't too cold (now that he's too big to cuddle all day).

squoosh · 23/01/2015 17:30

BackforGood I meant the stoic and hardy who can afford to put the heating on but make it a point of pride to sit in the cold rather than be one of those wimps who quite likes a warm house.

I wasn't criticising people who would be financially crippled by the cost of high energy bills.

WeatherWatchingWitch · 23/01/2015 17:31

In the interests of economy I would tend to heat whatever room I'm mostly in, rather than heating the whole house or have it coming on and off. But if you are at home all day you and your Dc are the ones who need to be comfortable.