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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think in January the heating should be on?

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betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:03

DH keeps complaining about me having the heating on.

Aibu to think it's normal in January to have heating on as it's bloody cold!?

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Bogeyface · 23/01/2015 18:53

Just seen the PP who said you have another thread about him being tight and controlling, so this isnt really about heating at all is it?

Summerisle1 · 23/01/2015 18:54

having it on in the day cant cost that much unless you have oil,bad insulated home etc

Some friends and I were discussing heating arrangements and costs last week. Two of these friends have completely contrasting attitudes although both have similar forms of central heating and well insulated houses.

One of them insists on strict timing control. So the house is either freezing or, eventually baking once it has warmed up. Neither of which are comfortable conditions. The other has worked out that it costs no more to keep the heating on constantly during cold weather and control the temperature it is set at rather than the time it is on. So her house is comfortable all the time - never too hot, never too cold.

ilovechristmas1 · 23/01/2015 18:58

i agree,i keep mine on low most of the time,i have individual rad controls so that helps and im always in credit

FreckledLeopard · 23/01/2015 19:04

I just saw your other thread - alarm bells are ringing. Of course it's normal to have heating on in January. It is literally freezing outside.

Anniegetyourgun · 23/01/2015 19:09

The last year I was officially still with XH I remember huddling in the lounge wearing two jerseys (among other things) with a blanket over my knees, and my hands were so cold I could hardly type. The following winter I had given him notice of divorce although we still lived under the same roof. I went to turn the boiler on and XH tried to say we couldn't afford it. I replied that as I was paying for the fucking heating (and incidentally every other household bill) I was jolly well going to put it on if I wanted to. Felt good.

hiccupgirl · 23/01/2015 19:12

The days I'm at home the heating goes back on as soon as I get home from walking DS to school. If I'm working at home I'm sat at my laptop and get cold even with jumpers, slippers etc on because I'm not moving much.

Of course you can put the heating on in January, it's damn cold out there at the mo.

Dowser · 23/01/2015 20:02

LTB!

Iggly · 23/01/2015 20:07

Why are you with such a man?

I used to have regular arguments debates with DH but ultimately I ended up taking over control of the heating and found a compromise which suited us both. This was because I knew what the children and myself needed best as I was at home more.

Dowser · 23/01/2015 20:09

Well someone had to say it.

Any man who doesn't keep his woman warm deserves to be kicked to the kerb.

Even my cheating ex wasn't a Scrooge. He'd moan a bit because he was hot but no way would he have tried to stop me having the heating on.

I've just woken up in the bedroom from a nap and OH had taken the heating controls with him to the living room.

It was 27 degrees in here! And I was already wearing a fleece jacket. I pulled on my big wooly seasalt jacket, big enough to go over just about anything and got up to have my dinner.

Lovely and comfortable!

I feel for the lady who said her house is 7 degrees. That is just harsh.

monkeyfacegrace · 23/01/2015 20:11

If DH told me to turn the heating off, I'd tell him to fuck the fuck off.

Mine has been set to 24 degs daily since about October. I'm not turning it off until March at least.

I love coming home and feeling the warmth hit me.

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betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 20:23

It took a fair amount to post in relationships and I wish I hadn't now to be honest. Please don't bring it up.

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Summerisle1 · 23/01/2015 20:28

You were very courageous to post more details elsewhere. Please don't feel that you shouldn't. I won't bring it up but I would say that the current problem you have with the heating is almost certainly indicative of a much bigger problem. You don't have to live like this you know. You really don't.

QueenInTheNorth · 23/01/2015 20:30

In my house, if its cold, the heating goes on.

hels71 · 23/01/2015 20:35

YANBU if it is cold and you have heating that you can afford to use you put it on. We have no heating and our living room was 7.1 when I got in from work today......

Dowser · 23/01/2015 20:42

March and may.

People are just being caring . No woman here wants to see another mum sat at home with her baby and no heating on.

Not only is it beyond cruel it's your partner not trying to envelop you in his love.

It's very dangerous for baby. The only time in my early life that I ever had a bout of bronchitis was when I was student living in a big draughty house with no heating on. The room was damp. Shoes turned mouldy and I actually got bronchitis. Something I'd never had.

Dowser · 23/01/2015 20:44

Hels 71 ...that must be so hard.

That's only slightly warmer than outside. It's been four degrees here.

How on earth do you cope/ manage/ keep warm?

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 23/01/2015 21:03

yanbu, it's cold so the heating needs to be on when you are at home to be comfortable.

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 23/01/2015 21:06

Te he, maybe next time he's in the shower you should sneak in and turn the water to cold? When he yelps out, tell him he can't have it both ways - don't want heating on, don't want to waste energy heating hot water!

OK, do not do this, it just amused me for a second.

Hygellig · 23/01/2015 21:08

I would not be without the heating in January! It's freezing. I would possibly leave it off from 10-4 if I worked at home and the DCs weren't here, as the study doesn't get so cold, but as it is we have it on most of the time in the day.

feckitall · 23/01/2015 21:17

My DH complains about me putting the heating on...but he is at home all day and I'm at work!
We have it on a timer for couple of hours in the morning and for the evening and only put it on in rooms regularly used.
He is disabled and fairly immobile so I worry about him getting cold or hypothermic ..he just says 'I'll put a blanket around me'
I sneak it on when he isn't looking and as he hasn't fathomed out how to turn it off it has to stay on until I get home

minionmadness · 23/01/2015 21:54

YANBU

Ours has been on 24/7 since October, although thermostat only set to 18.5. We have oil fired central heating and it's costing a small fortune but I would rather economise on everything else than live in a cold house.

MidniteScribbler · 24/01/2015 11:34

Dear god no! Heating in January? Are you crazy? I've had the air conditioning all day, and I've spent the afternoon in the pool to keep cool.

Oh wait, I forget that not everyone is from the UK.

championnibbler · 24/01/2015 19:14

How long has he been like this - i mean financially abusive?
did it start when you were pregnant or when the baby arrived or was it before?
trying to withhold or ration essentials like heat, food or money for necessities is financial abuse.

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