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Original poster

To think in January the heating should be on?

73 replies

betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:03

DH keeps complaining about me having the heating on.

Aibu to think it's normal in January to have heating on as it's bloody cold!?

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MissYamabuki · 23/01/2015 17:31

DP is like this. I lie through my teeth:
DP: Is the heating on?
Me: Naaah, must be next door's you can hear
DP: oh OK
Bless him Grin

IME people who have known hardship and cold don't skimp on heating costs and have no time for this sort of attitude (I'm tight morally superior, only wimps have the heating on, when I was little I used to sleep in a shoe box etc).

JennieR60 · 23/01/2015 17:34

Is your husband the same man as my husband by any chance? I just put mine on then say:

"no dear the heating hasnt been on all day except this morning" [grin

Men that are out of the house all day don't realise how cold it gets while they sit all heated in there offices. Pah.

RhiWrites · 23/01/2015 17:34

I've got mine at 19.5 degrees. January is miserable enough without being cold.

Icimoi · 23/01/2015 17:37

Even if you're in the South it's around 4 degrees out there at best. Does he have the heating turned off wherever he works? If it's an office he would be breaking the law.

Theboodythatrocked · 23/01/2015 17:38

LTB! Seriously I hate being cold.

He's A nutter. ( disclaimer I am in no way insulting those with mental health issues in case certain posters read this) Grin

Original poster
betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 17:39

No, although to be fair he doesn't work in an office (hospital.)

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SocksRock · 23/01/2015 17:43

I'm in the south and it was -6deg outside when DH left for work. I don't put the heating on during the day, but the woodburner has been going all day to keep the living room warm. I snuggled down with my knitting and a drink, occasionally venturing out to do housework :-)

Blueblueblueblue · 23/01/2015 17:43

Is it possible it just hasn't occurred to him? I once caught my DH (who is lovely) turn off the heating as he left for the day. When queried he said that he always did it on the way to work - When I replied 'but not while your wife is at home with two small babies' he was totally mortified! It was part if his routine and he just sort of hadn't thought about the implications.

If you are home all day and it's cold the heating needs to be on.

BackforGood · 23/01/2015 17:48

Blimey! Well, hospitals are ALWAYS overheated, so if's he's coming from that environment, into the house and being struck by it being TOO HOT, then my suspicions are you could probably turn it down a bit, still have the heating on, and everyone's happy.

Fabulous46 · 23/01/2015 18:16

Our heating has been on since the beginning of October. We have oil fired heating so between that and the open fires it's never been off. I couldn't live in a cold house and would have a serious issue with DH if he moaned about the heat. If my DH is too hot he can go and sit in the porch to cool down. He doesn't particularly like the heat as he works outside, but he wouldn't dare moan about it. It's been -12 some mornings up here.

BoozeyTuesday · 23/01/2015 18:20

January must be the coldest month in this country so if he doesn't want it on then, when would he want it on?!

Oldraver · 23/01/2015 18:21

So I assume he works in a warm enviroment but expects you and a baby to not have the heating on ?

ChickenWireIsSharp · 23/01/2015 18:23

Totally normal!

JingleBellsJuliet · 23/01/2015 18:24

I've had my heating on with the thermostat set at 17 degrees for most of today, as I've been at home. Just had a coal delivery, so got the fire going now for the evening, and the heating is off, as the chimney breast runs up through the bedrooms, so should warm them quite nicely as well.

Patilla · 23/01/2015 18:25

Might it feel overly warm to him because he has just come in from the cold? I always find the house feels too warm when I've come in from the cold, even at temperatures i would normally find a little chilly.

Also, if you're sat playing with a child you tend to be colder than if you've just been doing physical activity like walking home.

It is worth him waiting five to ten minutes before being allowed to comment?

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 23/01/2015 18:25

Heating needs to go on as its prevents damp. Damp will cause mold.

In this house if it cold put dressing gowns on and if still cold put the heating on.

Original poster
betweenmarchandmay · 23/01/2015 18:26

He drives home - wouldn't walk.

Very annoying

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Damnautocorrect · 23/01/2015 18:29

My house has no heating, today it was 7.7. As i was filling my upteenth hot water bottle, i thought theres no way i would have a baby whilst living here.
YANBU to have it on, but it should be on so your comfortable in a jumper (not t shirt)

Unidentifieditem · 23/01/2015 18:29

You have the heating on in winter?! What the hell?! Oddball. Your clever DH realises it is something reserved for the hottest days of the year oly.
Clever man.

Nextwednesday · 23/01/2015 18:30

This ties in with your other thread about him being tight and controlling, doesn't it op?

Stand up to him and do what you like or if it's easier, tell him you've just put it on.

woodychip · 23/01/2015 18:32

So, when he is in for a full day, at the weekends or whenever...switch the heating off and see how he feels then.

Summerisle1 · 23/01/2015 18:37

Of course you should have the bloody heating on in these temperatures. I'm in the South East and it is bitterly cold here right now. Me and DH (and the dog) are currently sat around a roaring fire in the sitting room and we're still not exactly boiling. Also, we don't have a baby in the house either.

If you can afford to heat your house then for heaven's sake put the heating on! Tell your DH that you aren't prepared to risk your baby's health. In fact, tell him that the heating being on is non-negotiable! What is it with these men who seem to think they have a right to insist on everyone else being freezing cold?

ilovechristmas1 · 23/01/2015 18:43

well the way i see it,if im in all day and the dc's are at school i put the heating on,it works out cheaper than me going into town

having it on in the day cant cost that much unless you have oil,bad insulated home etc

bus fare £4 return,coffee £2 and all the other things there are to waste money on

lucky for me i pay the bill so no DP to engage with over this,but even when i did the heating went on regardless,i would rather drop my food bill than freeze

southbucks77 · 23/01/2015 18:47

We generally just have the wood burning stove on in the living room and take wheat bags to bed (kids included). However the heating definitely needs to go on once or twice a week otherwise the towels don't dry properly upstairs. As PiperIsTerrys said it prevents damp.

Bogeyface · 23/01/2015 18:53

I suggest you do as suggested above. Take you and the baby out for the day, turn the heating off and (this is the important bit) booby trap the switch.

Take a hair from your head, snip it so it is short enough to just go over the switch/dial and lick it so it sticks to the switch/dial. When he touches it the hair will come off and you will know that he turned it on Wink