AIBU to ask the neighbours to open the curtains?

[cocostrawberry]

A youngish couple with no children bought a house on our estate about a year ago. They don't get involved with any of the activities such as the summer bbq and basically seem to isolate themselves from the rest of us, their loss. However my main bug is that they NEVER have the living room curtains open and quite often leave the other ones shut also, today every single one of them are shut and I know they are home.

I've hinted a couple of times that it would be best for them to leave them open, the girl mumbled something about a projector and watching films, but they can't be watching films all the time.

AIBU to just point blank ask them to open the curtains during the day, it really depresses me to look across to their house with all the curtains closed, it doesn't look inviting and it looks odd compared to the rest of the estate, we all manage to open their curtains everyday, so why can't they? My DH thinks I'm BU and should just leave them to it but I think when it effects other people I have a right to say something?

Are you Bree Van de Kamp?

Honestly, who gives a flying fuck about whether or not someone's curtains are open? They're probably doing it to keep you from being any nosier than you already are.

Pull those judgey pants out your arse and find something useful to do with your time.

Actually I think you should go round and ask her to open her curtains for you.

Then come back and tell us what she said.

Ahh. Yes, I saw that just after adding my post here. It's all going on round here at the moment innit? (As the Sydenham kids on the bus would undoubtedly say)

coco what were you going to say to them if we had agreed with you?

What were you planning to do if they told you to leave them alone?

Wasn't there some tory politician getting all uptight about closed curtains recently? Like it's some kind of terrible social marker?

Anyway, I leave my upstairs front window curtains closed all the time because we're overlooked by a block of flats and I don't want people checking out my erotic book collection bedlinen.

I'll have you know that my curtains have very expensive lining, and I takeggreat care that the pleats hang straight when I draw them each evening. They are not scruffy.

How does it look scruffy? As a PP has said, they might work shifts. Scruffy? Could be two A&E doctors that work nights.

Oh OP, it sounds like you need a hobby. Or to stop giving anything resembling a shit about how your neighbour arrange their drapery.

Agh sound like my neighbour, am usually rushing round I morning and don't go in lounge to open curtains, plus its dark in morning and dark when home so why bother?

I love how it also matters that they're a youngish couple with no kids.

I absolutely hate closed curtains during the day, but what other people do in their own homes is nothing to do with me

This thread caught my eye, I only ever think about opening or closing the curtains in a room, when i enter it or notice that its got dark and i need to turn on a light, then i check that the curtains are closed or close them. O/H never thinks about opening them, only ever closes 'em.

My mother, in the other hand, is what I can only call obsessed with other peoples curtains, what time they open/close them, why their routine might change on any day. She even called the police when a neighbour's curtains had stayed shut all day, while her car was in the drive so obviously at home. I was a bit errrr.... about it, but it turned out that the neighbour had indeed fallen and was helpless, hence hadn't opened the curtains at the usual time. Went off to hospital in an ambulance.

Who knew that some people has such routines. I think it's because she doesn't really have anything else to do these days. I feel very sorry for her. And others like her.

Word, Germgirl.

At this time of year it's dark when I leave in the morning and when I get home. I don't particularly want my neighbours (especially any judgypant ones like OP ) looking at me as I wander about in my dressing gown trying to wake up, and I don't see why I should pay to heat the window glass and thus the street outside.

They definitely aren't A+E doctors. Clearly I'm in the minority but to me it does look scruffy, let the sun in fgs!

Are you my old landlord? Who used to drive past our house and complain that our upstairs blinds were never open to the letting agents.

Er no because the people opposite look directly into our bedroom and wtaf has it got to do with anyone else anyway?

Mind boggling.

OP I would quite gladly open my curtains for you but you'd have to cope with the sight of my naked wandering around the house.

Now which would you prefer?

I keep my curtains closed - I have nosy neighbours.

YABVU.

But if you want to, go ahead, but not without videoing their response when they rightly tell you to fuck off.

Sun? In Britain? In January?

Go and ask her if it bothers you so much. She might not mind being told how to live her life.

I can't stand being over looked by nosey people, nor can I stand being blinded by the sun.

Oh dear, I'll stick my neck out and be the one to sympathise. My neighbour leaves hers shut in a haphazard way and it drive me nuts! I clearly am nuts! I wouldn't say anything to her though.

Yes, they should open their curtains and conform to all the rest. They should do this at a time prescribed by you. And they should get some net curtains so they can twitch them in the same manner that you are obviously doing.
I should also direct them to the garden gnomes shop. And they could be encouraged to get one of those milkman boxes with an adjustable number on. Are they washing their car at the correct time on a Sunday morning? That ought to be addressed as well.
They might like a foam rubber crinoline lady to put on their spare toilet roll as a welcome gift.

The joys of Suburbia eh?

You are so NBU. You need to speak to them immediately about this. Although I have to say I don't really understand how you can tell so easily that they are closed. Are you suggesting they don't have any nets either .