AIBU to be a bit upset about my friend's reaction to no babysitter

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My closest friend recently got engaged and is planning the wedding for a couple of years time and has asked me to be MOH. Obviously she's very excited and wants to do everything now .

There's a wedding fair next weekend she wants us to go to however I've been unable to get a babysitter for my 2 year old DD. I told her this the other day but said that we could still go but DD would have to come too. I know it's not ideal but I thought it would be better than me not going at all. My friend didn't appear too happy about it, got a bit huffy and left to go home shortly afterwards (much earlier than expected).

I appreciate it's not ideal however my DD would be in her buggy and not running around etc. I don't know, just feeling a bit torn! My friend is childless so I know she won't always get how hard it can be to try and juggle everything with friends etc but I sometimes feel she thinks my child is something that's just "there" and a bit of hindrance IYSWIM.

I had only junior bridesmaids at my wedding. But DSis did a lot of the behind the scenes help - DSis wasn't bothered about walking down the aisle in a fancy dress (though my DD and DSD both were!) You could propose something similar if you do end up hugely pregnant or with a very new baby at the time - and maybe offer your DD as a (by then) 4 year old who would probably love to wear a pretty dress and be a bridesmaid.

But if you're fairly newly married and have a two year old, I think it would hardly come as a surprise to anyone if you were ttc within the next two years. Would probably be more worthy of comment if you weren't! It surely must have crossed your friend's mind?

Is there any chance that the wedding fair has a crèche? I have been to a couple of other large exhibitions that do.

If it is a quiet fair at a local hotel then I think taking your DD might be ok, particularly if you are going midweek. Big fair at an exhibition hall at a weekend? Likely to be horribly hot, crowded and miserable for her....I have been to large fairs and children in pushchairs mostly just saw people's legs and backsides.