.. To have wanted to tell this man to f#&k off?

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Today at work, I was on my break and eating my dinner. A regular customer who comes in every day walked past, stopped in front of my table and said 'always eating when I see you, I swear your getting fatter by the minute!'

Now, yes he's a regular and knows my name, but apart from that he doesn't know me from Eve, I am very overweight definitely.. But I do not need an elderly man to point this out to me and pass judgement on my eating habits! I guess it's a good job I'm relatively thick skinned, that being said to someone more sensitive could have caused a multitude of problems

Thinking back there's many many things I could have said, what I actually did was just fake a laugh and turn back to eating my dinner. I was actually a little shocked that people say things like this to people they don't know..!

Oh FFS ilovesooty dog with a bone much?
If she'd have said a young man in his 20's who comes in regularly would you have jumped on that?

I'm not the one who's the dog with a bone - others have leapt on it. I just think casual ageism is endemic on MN and needs challenging.
I completely accept what the OP says subsequently about why she said it.

Lumpen I would say one attempt to shut me up is your right. To continue it constitutes personal attack.

I think you should still let your boss know that he's been rude OP.

I agree with Sauvignon
The boss might not be keen to bar him but he should speak to him about his rudeness to staff.

In fact, I've changed my mind. If he does it again ask your manager to have him ejected. Any decent manager would not tolerate customers insulting their staff.

Am I the only person who is utterly sick of being told what I can or cannot say everywhere? The man was elderly - FACT. That's all, just fact. What has happened to the British right to freedom of speech ... not to be abusive certainly, but to state a fact as a fact without someone (LOTS of someones) jumping in and ticking me off like I was a five year old.

And let's be honest ... would the 'elderly man' give a sh1t?

I wasn't going to come back to this but even if people are arguing on the basis of "fact" I'd be interested to see how JuniorMumber 's post can be justified along those lines.

G4nna, there was a twenty page thread recently arguing about the word 'girly'. Only on MN.

"Was your mother unable to take the sailor cock out of her mouth long enough to teach you any manners?!"

I sincerely hope you don't ever 'use that line' with someone. WTF has his mother got to do with it?! And why shouldn't his dad have taught him any manners?

Lordy some people need to give ilovesooty a break here.

MNHQ have said they would like members to point out possible ageism as and when it occurs, and that's all she did.

The age was irrelevant and the OP agreed, so why some people needed to jump on sooty's back is beyond me.

Thanks Worra

Now, you know me, all about the peace and love, so I wouldn't advise you to tell anyone to jeff off, OP. but yy I would go with the Winston Churchill line if I was you.
We can also see that nothing
BUT may we also remind you that sooty's only doing what we asked her to with regards to ageist posts-

HTH and again, Peace and love
Thanks MNHQ

Thanks Olivia.

It's an adjective, not a term of abuse or prejudice!

That's awful OP!

I'm a vet nurse and I once had a vet ask me to help hold a lively German shepherd with the help of the owner, an 80 something year old well known battle axe. On my walking into the room this woman declared "ah, that's good, you bought the big nurse!" I'm 5ft2, so she wasn't referring to my height! I just politely smiled, but went home that night and cried.

Shortly after, I lost 2 stone for my wedding, bringing me to a healthy size 10, for her then to have the gall to tell me I looked gaunt and ill. I could have punched her!

G4nna that was covered earlier in the thread.
Interestingly there is another thread today where the OP stated ethnicity without relevance. Several people picked up on it and no one was criticised for saying so
In any case Olivia has posted, the OP didn't have a problem with my comment and I don't have a problem with her explanation.
And the later utterly offensive ageist comment on the thread has been deleted.

OP, the customer's comment was very rude and totally uncalled for. Ilovesooty well done for raising the age issue and staying calm under fire!

Nydj thanks for that.

I notice that none of the posters who gave ilovesooty such a hard time have came back on the thread to apologise...

I didn't agree with Sooty's comments but I'm not sure why I should apologise for expressing my desire to use adjectives. In fact, I think she gave others more of a hard time, and then it turned out she works for Mumsnet HQ policing the boards!

Fat shaming would be what this is called. People have no right to do it and assume that everyone with extra pounds is a binge eater, stupid, poor, lazy or all of them. It makes my blood boil, we are all human, we are all different, we all deserve respect. Just be glad knowing that he is an arsehole and you retained your self respect. X

it turned out she works for Mumsnet HQ policing the boards

What a ridiculous and unfounded allegation.