Examples of weirdness from inlaws.

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Not sure if I'm posting in the right section but I'm talking about weird, unreasonable or plain bonkers behaviour from Mils, Fils, Sils....the lot.
I could write a book about mine, I don't know where to start.
One example comes to mind of Mil....she totally refused to spell any of my children's names right. When I used to tell her all she would say was "does it really matter".....
I mean what do you say to that.

Thankfully this story is about my ExMIL. My current MIL is more baffling than cruel, but I don't mind that.

My ExH and I met at university and this happened before we were married, but we'd been together a couple of years by then. This was the first time something weird had happened and it seemed to come completely out of the blue.

ExH and I had a visit organised where we travelled across country to ExPIL's house, from where we'd travel all together in the same car to ExH's Aunty & Uncles to stay overnight for a barbecue party that they'd arranged in celebration of ExH's cousin's graduation - lovely. ExH and I were both looking forwad to a nice party and trip away because I'd just finished my last exams at uni too.

As planned, we headed from ExPIL's house to the Aunty's house in one car, about another hour's drive away, deep into the countryside somewhere - I had no idea where and this was before GPS phones.

Soon after we arrived, I realised something wasn't quite right. There was a giant marquee in the grounds of their enormous house, caterers and a large live band setting up on a stage in the marquee. I was told we were going to a barbeque, but it wasn't, it was a black-tie ball with over one hundred guests.

ExMIL innocently smiled saying "Oh no, the barbeque is tomorrow lunchtime. I'm sure I told you about the black tie evening ball". She then produced from the car a tux and bow tie for my ExH, apparently that he'd left at home from his 6th form days and still fit, but I was expecting a barbeque and had no ball gown with me! I was expecting to just wear some nice trousers and top. Luckily I had a summer skirt in my bag but ended up having to wear it with a casual top and casual shoes and my hair wasn't exactly ready for a ball!

We had no way of going anywhere to get something for me because we'd travelled with ExPIL in their car and weren't even sure where we were. ExBIL then turned up with his girlfriend who had clearly received the message about the need for ballgowns. I felt so stitched up.

All the other guests gave me funny looks, some of them spoke to me in a pitying voice, clearly thinking that I couldn't afford a dress. I had to sit there all night trying not to be noticed, when it should have been my opportunity to meet all of ExH's family properly. I was completely mortified and humiliated and I don't think I ever really got over it. The most frustrating thing for me was that I'd just bought a ballgown the week before for my own graduation ball at university.

Thankfully she never did anything so cruel again after that. I think ExH gave her quite a talking to, but despite this, he still wore the tux that she brought for him rather than his casual clothes in solidarity. Bastard.

God Pippin that is just so .......horribly... calculated to make you look small.
un fucking beliveable

I used to live with my exmil - for 15 years due to my exh being an arse and not being willing to part with any cash for us to buy our own place .

When I announced I was having twins she declared that I wouldn't cope, shouldn't even attempt bfing and would be an awful mother.

My df died when my kids were 2 and dm died when they were 4. On hearing of my mother's very sudden and unexpected death, she patted my head and said 'there, there, I'll be your mum now'.

There are many other incidents, including her calling my then 10 year old dd a 'little bitch' and her regularly telling me it was my ex's right to go out getting pissed all the time because he worked (even though I was also working and paying for most things).

She's an old, frail 77 year old now. We are civil to each other when we see each other. The ex still lives with her. They hate each other but I think they thoroughly deserve one another.

Thanks Sunny. Reading it back, it sounds unbelievable but I swear to god it happened just like that. It was so mad that I was left in a bit of a daze after that weekend thinking "Did that really just happen? Did she tell ExH there was a ball and he didn't tell me? Was it all my fault?" etc. Very clever and cruel woman.

Although we had been together 3 years when we got married DH's SIL only referred to me as Aunty on cards from nephews after I was married. That was petty but always bugged me.

MIL. Hmmm I could write a book. The time we were having Sunday dinner at their house and she announced her new gravy boat. The one she had picked out of the boxes for the charity shop after my mum died.

Then the meal when she went through her peers who had or hadn't taken the bowel cancer test with TMI during meal how you do it!

Oh and the time she went through DH's drawers when we first got together, and left out the condoms and my jelly on the bed saying "you need to remember to take these home. You left them."

We aren't close as you might guess!

Actually she sounds a bit like my bro's MIL.

I was commanded by her to arrive the night before the wedding of my bro and her daughter, with my two four year olds who were to be bridesmaid/page at this massive society wedding. Put it this way, if I told you the name, you would know it.

A big party in honour of the bride was being held at the house, the night before the wedding....preparations were in full swing.

We were taken to the kitchen and given burnt sausage and mash and then told to now make our own way up the dark lane in the middle of nowhere, to a house where we would be staying with strangers....

My MIL is a wonderful, loving lady.

My mother, on the other hand is bonkers. She has decided that DS2 is an evil child who plots mischief.

He is anything but.

I wasn't allowed in family photos when my SIL got married because dh and I were not yet married. Our wedding was planned for four weeks later (SIL decided she needed to get married before us so booked her wedding before ours after we publicised our date...). Aside from one friend of the bride, who as bridesmaid made it onto the photos, there were only family members there. I didn't 'count' as family, nor friend, nor bridal party. Therefore, of the 20 guests at that wedding, I am the only one not on any photos.

Come to think of it, I was left out of photos when BIL and SIL got married. They drafted in DH's female cousin instead.

Never mind the fact we'd been together for nine years and were getting married ourselves in four months!

I'd just had my dd and my parents were round in visiting hours. DP had told mil to come half hour into visiting to stagger it. She walked in the room and shouted "whoevers got her- drop her cos nannas here now!" she then kicked off because she thought my parents were getting more time with her (they weren't, as they were leaving as she arrived) I've since discovered texts slating my family off calling them "messes", when in reality they've never done any wrong to her and are actually very nice people!

Some of these stories are staggering! Feel like giving my mil a hug now!

When I'd had dd2 we phoned Mil to give her the happy news. On hearing we'd just had a second daughter she replied "oh dear what a shame".
Another time she actually told me off for having only girls, telling me "what good are girls to you, boys are what you need". Fil actually backed her up agreeing with what she said. They thought I was being ridiculous when I explained it was out of my control and the sex of the baby was determined by the man. In their eyes I wasnt a complete woman because I didn't have a son.
When my Sil gave birth to a baby boy she was over the moon and literally gloated in front of me hoping I'd be jealous. I wasn't, but she loved to shower praise on her other Dil for having a son and then look at me in a pitying kind of way.

My BIL is 32 and has never had a passport because he 'doesn't like going to places he has never been before'.

He also eats one thing on his plate at a time: i.e, all the sausages first, then all the peas, then the potatoes - because he 'doesn't like mixing things together'.

He also has some very questionable right-wing views on 'imagrants'.

Jeez, what is it with some mothers and their sons..

When I was 19 my bfs mum bought me red lace pound shop thongs for a birthday present! She also used to buy condoms for him and when he turned 21 she gave him a box of 21 useful things... Which included a pregnancy test! The whole family were also very casually racist so it was a a relief when that relationship ended!

fortunately for me my OH was very LC with his DM before we got together. I have only seen her a handful of times in over 20 years. For those of you who remember 'Absolutely Fabulous' is a cross between Edina and Patsy but without the humour. My OH and SiL were once discussing the number of husbands/partners/boyfriends she's had that they knew about. They got beyond 50 and gave up....including a 19 year old boy when she was in her 50's.
She is utterly self absorbed and a total narc...she came to stay near us when my 2 DC were young and spent the whole time shopping even though my OH had taken time off work so he could take her and the DC out. She then proceeded to flirt, very obviously, with my Dad...my Mum just laughed. Luckily I have no real contact so she is amusing rather than anything else.

It took me years to get used to how close my husband's family are and I used to find them very nosey. However I don't come from a close family, NC, and learnt in time that they were very loving and supportive, in the main. He has 6 sisters and 3 brothers and they are very different from each other. Some I'm close to and others, less so. My mil and fil were old fashioned but very kind.

HOWEVER there is one that really gets on my goat. He's in his 50s, has always lived at home and has an incredibly entitled attitude. When mil was very ill in hospital his sisters, who had their own homes and family, would keep the house clean and take it in turns to have him for dinner. This continued after mil died and on the day of her funeral, he informed me that he would be coming to my house for dinner every Sat as, it was "only fair, you do your bit and give 'the girls' (sils) a break". My darling husband told him on no uncertain terms, he could look after himself as we were both working full time and DH only got every second Sat off and we would be spending it together. Nil then helpfully suggested whined that he could come up to "keep 'Stay' company" on the Saturdays DH was working. Not bloody likely.

My friend, a man, used to come for lunch on a Sunday and then stopped eating at ours all of a sudden. I could never work out why he would only have a coffee when he came to visit and he would say he'd already eaten. One day, before my friend stopped having lunch at mine, we had a barbecue when the builders were here and my friend was visiting. My bil arrived to visit. Turns out the prick had said to my friend "how come you're always here when there's food on the go?" He then told my friend that he was very selfish "imposing" himself on DH and Stay. It was months before I got that out of my friend and he's still too embarrassed to eat at mine in case the prick shows up again. My friend has problems and that prick has taken away one of the few enjoyments my friend had.

There are lots of examples of his selfishness but I'd be here all night. Thank goodness the rest of DHs family range from the normal to the semi normal.

Blimey that was long. sorry

FIL announces that I look " thin" thanks I say, then he says have you had an abortion! So DL says no we were just gonna tell you she is 12 weeks pregnant. What a nice man!

BIL partner had a problem with something wrong with her brain not sure what exactly but lovely FIL informed her he knew of 2 people who had died from it (all I'm front of her kids)

Also my MIL wore a long white floaty dress to my wedding

My mil would still be breast feeding DH if she could haha

Despite the fact we've known each other for almost 20 years and been together over 10 she constantly tells me 'the thing about me bubalou is' ....

All the time! This is more of an annoyance then a bad thing but it doesn't half bug me. Like she's informing me of something I don't know.

She stopped after I replied once - 'really? I hadn't noticed that after being together all these years. Thanks for telling me'.

Not me bubalou - Mr bubalou!

I wish you could edit posts!

my in laws but mil has no hobbies and is joined to fil like glue and talks in a silly voice at timed when speaking to dh.

Also my MIL wore a long white floaty dress to my wedding
Mine wore black from head to toe, she did it in an act of defiance, she honestly looked like she was going to a funeral.

I was really hurt when DS was christened, and she sent through what she called the "family photos" of the event the following week. All DHs side of the family lined up in our living room standing bolt upright & a foot apart from the next person like they were in a police line up, a red faced screaming baby DS being held very awkwardly and no me.

I had this to, Fishy. My baby was prised from my arms and a camera thrust into it, so I could take the 'whole family' shot.

Gosh, my MIL is an absolute angel compared to all these!

I have a sudden overwhelming urge to hug her and tell her how lucky I am!