To accept this very large tip ?

[BreakfastAtStephanies]

I work in a profession ( am not a doctor or lawyer ). A client came to see me today who I have known for years. 80 + years old, funny, great character, likes things done her way and I make sure they are. I get on well with her, we have a laugh. She is landed gentry with a title and manor house. She has recently been very ill ( almost died ) but has recovered.

Today at the end of her time with me she produced a thick wad of banknotes, peeled off a crisp £ 50 and tried to give it to me.

I protested, tried to dissuade her, politely declining but she insisted: " Buy something that you like or take your husband out to dinner ". In the end it seemed rude to continue to refuse so I pocketed it and thanked her. I said that I didn't know what to say. She said not to say anything just give her a hug. So I did !

WIBU to accept the largest tip I have been given in 25 years of work ? Should I have made her put her money away ? What tips/ things in kind have you received for your hard graft ?

I think that is wise. It is really nice of both of you. I think if she had her facilities about her, she would not have tipped you, you aren't a waitress or taxi driver. :)

I have it written in my contract about accepting gifts. Its not allowed but obviously if the client insists it must be declared.

Mrsstarlord, just because you use healthcare services does not make a person vulnerable and unable to think for themselves. Op has to be the judge of that as she knows her client, not us.

Actually, legally speaking most people who access healthcare are considered vulnerable in the sense that they need healthcare for some sort of disability or illness and also the acknowledgment that professionals are in a position of power. The 'unable to think for themselves' is the mental capacity act which is different. All that said the OP isn't working in traditional healthcare but in universal services - hence the later post.

I wouldn't risk it. Your employer would have to take some kind of action if they found out. It's a boundaries issue. If money exchanges hands it could change the nature of the professional relationship.I would declare it to my superior and ask what they would like me to do, explaining that the client is 80 plus and wouldn't take no for an answer. That way decision is taken out of your hands, and you don't have to keep something "secret". Like Fight said, you have to protect yourself. Shame though as I'm sure she just wants you to have a treat!