Help - DS paralytic

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DH and I have got him home, and to bed. He's been sick, but is now either asleep or comatose in bed on his side, surrounded by plastic and bowls.

DH and I are going to take turns sitting up with him, but what do I need to look out for? Are there other dangers apart from inhaling his own vomit?

Why is it sad?

Why is it sad, reeky?

Cold coke and hula hoops will be his best friend today.

sniggers at the appropriateness of Chunderella's name on this thread

Reekypear Lots of youngsters get paralytic, it's almost a rite of passage at that age. Some learn from the experience, others don't. It would have been "really sad" if the parents hadn't given a shit and not kept an eye on him. Teenager got very drunk, parents stayed up half the night to care for him. It happens.

You are a great parent, OP! I got into some states at that age (and younger) but in much dodgier and more risky situations because I wouldn't ever have dared let my parents find out. You kept your boy safe and hopefully he'll think twice before getting so shitfaced again (possibly not, but we all have to learn somehow).

Water is what he needs, dioralyte is also good... hangover is caused by dehydration, and vomiting won't have helped.

he needs to wake up, drink a pint of water and then go back to bed for a bit!

I have held DD's hair whilst she throws up over the toilet... it happens.

The annoying thing is, he might well wake up and feel bright as a button. The resilience of youth! He'll be fine I'm sure - big fry up needed. Not sure why this is sad - it's a caring Mum and Dad looking after a DS who is young and pushing the boundaries. Can't work out what's sad about that!

OP, was he alright? Hope so.

Personally, I am of the opinion that you don't learn to recognise the point at which you should stop drinking if you haven't gone past it and suffered the aftermath. I wouldn't be able to read my children the riot act having been guilty of drinking far too much in my youth, I would just give them some pointers on how to be sensible about alcohol.

OP, I hope your DS is suitably remorseful today.!

i agree soup. i think it did this twice, and then learned not to go passed a certain point!

These days i even say to people that once you get to your limit, carrying on passed it is a waste of money, because you don't get drunker, you just get sick!

Dioralyte first. A pint of, slowly.
Followed by coke and crisps when he perks up a little.
And a big old dinner later on.

(A lot of experience)

He's up and about, and remarkably bright eyed and bushy tailed - if very shamefaced. Especially when DD, who was awake when we got home teased him about some of things she heard us saying to him.

He was going to get passport photos done today, but seeing as he did a face plant off a low wall he was sitting on, today's photo would not be a good one to have to live with for the net 10 years. (although it would serve him right).

I'm ashamed to say I've been like that a fair amount of times. Knowing my limit but still exceeding because it was too early to leave wherever we were and joining in with shots when I was already past drunk. The majority of us have done it and our kids will learn themselves. I hope his heads not too sore this morning. Bread and fizzy drinks ease it for me!

Bless him!

My drunk-as-a-skunk teen was up making himself bacon sandwiches at 8am today!

Aw, I remember doing the same at his age (only a few times)! Am now 26 and rarely drink anything possibly because the hangovers put me off!

You sound lovely OP, my parents were very understanding and nice when I came in off my face. I remember having an epic hangover one morning and she tucked me up on the sofa with a pint of water and some toast and kept my younger siblings out the way. Later in the day when I felt better they all took the piss out of me of course

My sister is now 19 and she occasionally comes home in an absolute state, bless her!

I have to agree with reeky I've never in my life got drunk let alone enough to vomit and have a hangover or worse and be In the state the OP's son is in and I'm in my 20's so optimal drinking age apparently.

We weren't even allowed in the house if we were drunk (not an issue for me obviously) but she made my brother sleep outside in the shed, covered in his own vomit because he got so disgustingly drunk

If it was my son id read him the riot act nobody should get drunk enough to not remember the night before In My opinion let alone their mum has to check they're breathing properly that they haven't got alcohol poisoning and sit with them all night that's what I find the sad bit btw

I think it's quite sad too.

I appreciate that lots of people/their children get very drunk, and I also appreciate why you shouldn't start a shouting match over this - but I do hope you didn't make him breakfast this morning (as it seemed you would last night) and I also hope he cleaned up his own mess today too.

she made my brother sleep outside in the shed, covered in his own vomit because he got so disgustingly drunk

Now that is something I think is sad and utterly irresponsible. And I'm not talking about your brother.

It is dangerous to shrug your shoulders and just say "it happens". Marinating your brain and organs in alcohol will inevitably cause damage. And far too many young people die or get irretrievable brain damage from alcohol poisoning or inhaling their own vomit. An ambulance man once told me that they also pick up far too many young people who have been attacked, raped and robbed because, whilst pissed, they were such an easy target.

OP knows her son and says that he's going to be embarrassed today.
So I agree that he needs a talking to, and to have the piss taken out of him, and that he needs to clean up stuff, but reading the riot act to him?
Less effective than the former choices I think.
OP, you said his friends were sober, did they look after him and bring him home? It's the role that DD and DS often take on as both are far more moderate drinkers than I ever was at their age. Responsible friends are a good thing.

Soup

He has never gotten drunk again. I wouldn't of let him In the house to vomit and Piss everywhere. He was warned not to get drunk and new the consequences. His own fault imo. Far to many people are seeing this as normal now and going there there poor you, and it's not if you choose to get so drunk you are incoherent and can vomit and piss all over yourself you're not coming near me for a start or my home and you're certainly not getting any sympathy

I don't think anyone who would leave a person in a scenario where they could actually die is in any position to make moral judgements. I am appalled that someone could do that to a family member or think it at all acceptable.

If he had choked on his vomit and died he would also never have got drunk again so I guess that would have taught him

Well Soup, I found with most of my relatives that early 20s was the best age for being very confident with moral judgements on everything, and being absolutely certain that they were right.
It's more worrying that the parent thought it was fine to leave their son in a vomitous heap. If he'd died, I wonder if Wrapped would be of the same opinion.
But then I'm old, have had an occasionally disreputable past and am living with three models of outstanding virtue and strong opinions, so I may be biased.