aibu in wanting financial assistance with childcare?

[judgejudithjudy]

I have a 2 year old and serve disabilities which mean I have 3/4 hospital appointments a week so have to put lo in a childminders. I only receive £22.50 a week dla & my child costs are double this.

If I don't go to my appointments, I will never get well but struggling to pay for her to be cares for.

I have no family & my few friends work.

How do the dla expect you to live?

How come you get £22.50 when the rate for low care is £21.55?

presumably you also aren't riding any more and wont be for some time which will also save you some money in the meantime

You mean in the meantime while she's paralysed and disabled? Yes, I assume saving money on horse riding will be a huge plus!

Look, I get the OP said something really stupid with the back pain comment (and I'm sure she'll coming to realise in time how damaging those kind of attitudes are to people with disabilities) but she also sounds to me to be incredibly upset/at the end of her tether, after going through something horrific and life-changing.

But no, she's just a "whinger." Because that's not an awful thing to say to someone in this situation or anything.

I'm sure she will read the great advice offered, but carry it out where she can, but give her a chance.

"Did you not have insurance with such a dangerous hobby knowing there were children to be supported if something happened?"

That's not very helpful, Snow White.

I know these people that claim & they have no qualms in boasting about getting supported as back pain is one pain you can fake.

People have to be unable to walk 50 meters without assistance from another person to qualify for high rate mobility and that isn't something easy to prove if you are faking back pain. Somebody with back pain who could walk 50 meters using walking aids and dosed up on painkillers would not qualify for high rate mobility.
You sound very bitter.
It isn't the governments fault that you fell off a horse and are now disabled as a result. It was an accident.
I had to give up my job to care for a disabled child (because he needs round the clock 1:1 care) and I gave up my wage and now get £61 weekly carers allowance. My mortgage is the same and my DH wages are the same but it's just the way it is and there is no point in me going around blaming others or accusing others of claiming falsely. I have just had to learn to live within our new budget. Sometimes life deals you a hard blow and you have to find a way to cope.
Regardless of whether I feel that disability and carers allowance are too low I know that I am fortunate that health care is free at the point of use as many people around the world with disabilities are far less fortunate.
Have you looked into tax credits? If your DH income is low you will get child tax credits and childcare tax credits. If his income is too high for these then you are deemed to have Enough income to manage.

You mentioned needing to move. Depending on partners income, equity in house etc consider that you could still maybe buy a cheaper house with a small mortgage rather than rent. If home ownership is important to you.

it's pointless asking if the op is getting esa,tax credit etc as she ignores all ?? about it

i take from that that she is fully aware and claiming what she is entitled to,she just thinks she should be entitled to an open cheque book where her curcumstances are concerned

op in previous threads you have claimed DLA and got it for your son if i read correctly so you know how hard it is to claim,if you really feel your award was wrong then re apply,if your injuries and disabilities are genuine you have nothing to loose

I am in a similar position to inthedark I get carers allowance to look after my disabled daughter. Its nowhere near what I could be earning if I had a healthy sixteen year old but moaning about things you can't change just gets you down. You have to get on with it and be thankful for what you do have. Things for us as a family could have been a lot worse, i found that out when I spent a long time with my daughter in ICU. At least I still have my daughter, others there weren't that lucky. Think about that OP, at least you are still here. No matter how hard life is I always think its preferable to the alternative.