To be this anxious?

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Partner has planned to start work at 5am this week for some out of hours stuff. He has to get up/leave at 04.15 to get there on time.

I can't sleep now he's gone. What if there is an accident because he's tired? Or he doesn't let me know he got there ok, and the office phones don't activate till 9am ... I'll panic then. Just what if in general.

I KNOW I'm being unreasonable to feel aggrieved that he planned it this way (all week with no sleep?! when it could have been done from home ). But seriously, wtf is wrong with me??

Try not to worry. Has he got a mobile. Can you ring him when you think he'll be there? My old phone had an SOS function, you pressed the middle button 4 times when the keypad was locked and it sent an emergency text to preselected numbers. Tomorrow, if his phone does that, could you ask him to set it up? If he went to bed early he should be fine.

Is he having no sleep? Surely he can have an early night and get up early and be ok?

It's one week out of 52. I don't know if this will help or not but my dh starts at this time every week, has been doing it all his working life and has never had an accident. My dh is also the tiredest man in the world, can fall asleep at the drop of a hat and yet has managed to never fall asleep at the wheel of a car.

Just what if in general.

What if it's all fine? And dandy? You've wasted all that anxious energy on nothing.

Why does it mean no sleep? What time does he go to bed? My DH regularly gets up at that time with DD but sleeps well from 10pm ish so is fine for work.