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AIBU Re : Plate returned from friend while on night out!!

214 replies

DurhamDurham · 02/01/2015 18:07

I made a pie for a friend, cheese,potato and onion. She was having a family party and requested I make her a pie. Very happy to oblige.
Pie was eaten and enjoyed by her family, I had a lovely text from friend who said she would give me the plate back soon, no hurry I said, we have plenty.
Skip forward to last night when we were having a girls night out. I met friend and four others in a out in town. The friend had the plate with her. She gave it me so I asked what I was supposed to do with it all night? She said well if it's that much of a problem she would carry it. We went to for a meal and then to another pub, I felt guilty about her carrying it so I suggested we just leave it in the pub. It's only a plate.
She said she would feel too guilty and carried on carrying it around looking all martyred so I took the plate off her and left it in the pub.
She then, after a few more drinks, started crying ......about the plate!!

So was ibu about making a fuss about her bringing the plate on a night out? Was friend bu in bringing the plate and insisting on carrying it around for most of the night, even after I suggested we leave it?

My husband two girls think it's hilarious, oldest daughter is getting ready to go out and came to ask me which plate goes best with her outfit. So at least some good has come out of plate-gate Grin

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kungfupannda · 03/01/2015 08:51

Squeezepast Fri 02-Jan-15 20:57:38
"Argh! This North South 'crockery on a night out' divide has got me worried. I live in the North East where, as Durham says, taking a plate for a night out is considered highly unusual. However in the next few months, I am moving to the South West and really want to fit in and make friends. Is there a southerner who could possibly summarise the crockery etiquette for me? I'm thinking is it saucer for a quiet drink, tea plate for cocktails, dinner plate for staying til last orders and serving dish for dancing on the tables til the club closes? Please help!"

I am a north-easterner now living in the south west. I have never taken a plate on a night out in either location. Although I did once see someone in a Bristol pub with an entire set of pans still in their packaging.

You might want to ring 101 for advice when you get to your new home.

FloatIsRechargedNow · 03/01/2015 09:04

If you were moving to the SE I would say definitely leave the crockery at home, they're a very judgemental bunch generally, BUT the SW is a completely different matter and I should think the biggest problem if you took a plate-accessory on a night out would be stopping randoms from 'playing' with it.

Camolips · 03/01/2015 09:19

Beware the SW! I mistakenly took a Cornish Pastie plate to an event where everyone else had Clotted Cream Tea plates! I would suggest discreetly taking along a selection until you feel secure.

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 09:21

Yes imagine the sheer embarrassment of having the WRONG plate!! A selection of sizes and designs, say about 10 plates, should cover you for most eventualities.

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 03/01/2015 10:52

Apparently the first draft of award-winning Aardman animation 'the Wrong Trousers' was called 'The Wrong Teaplate' but they changed it to trousers because they thought it wouldn't translate well oop north....

BikketBikketBikket · 03/01/2015 11:21

Durham I'd take a bowl as well - just to be on the safe side (you never know whether someone might offer you fruit salad, or cream....) Grin

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 19:57

......knife,fork and spoon in my pocket. Be a shame to miss out if food were offered! Grin

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ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:08

buy a Spork and a Swiss knife Durham
and a matching set for your friendSmile

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 20:13

Can you actually buy sporks? I thought you just got disposable one free with 'food on the go' My life could be revolutionised!!

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MarjorieMelon · 03/01/2015 20:21

Hilarious. Even dh laughed when I read the OP to him and he is a miserable git Grin

ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:24

Durham

your plate turned up in someone else's cupboard!!!!Shock

find thread Grin

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 20:25

No! Really? GrinGrinGrin

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ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:25

Can't link. it's in Active

ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:27

AIBU

to be freaked out by the plate in the cupboard I'd never seen before

Grin Grin

ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:27

*that I've

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 20:29

It's fate, it MUST be my plate. God works in mysterious ways........

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ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:31

is it white? is it Asda?
is it tear stained?
Grin

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 20:33

Yes
Yes
Yes

Praise be, my plate has found it's way home, or at least it's found a loving new home Grin

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JennieR60 · 03/01/2015 20:37

Haha this is hilarious! Why would she bring it on a night out?! If my friend had done that I too would have just left it there. So funny.

ZingTheGreat · 03/01/2015 20:37

ffs, I meant to post that on the other thread!!!!

Grin Grin Grin Grin

MinceSpy · 03/01/2015 20:38

Years ago when my dad was in the RAF we used to get posted all over the world. Often we got to our new home before our belongings so when we were invited to someone's house or they came to ours we took cup, plate, bowl and cutlery or dads took their mess tins. Maybe going out with a plate is the new thing.

Enormouse · 03/01/2015 20:39

Any chance your friend might be pregnant durham? What with the crying over the plate and all.

DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 20:42

Not pregnant, she's just a tad eccentric. Saw her today and she wanted to send me home with one of her plates........I politely declined as I literally have a cupboard full.

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DurhamDurham · 03/01/2015 20:45

Zing I thought you were giving me the description of the other plate, I got very excited Grin

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AtAmber · 03/01/2015 20:51

Durham - we have just had your cheese pie for dinner. It was delicious.