AIBU Re : Plate returned from friend while on night out!!

[DurhamDurham]

I made a pie for a friend, cheese,potato and onion. She was having a family party and requested I make her a pie. Very happy to oblige.
Pie was eaten and enjoyed by her family, I had a lovely text from friend who said she would give me the plate back soon, no hurry I said, we have plenty.
Skip forward to last night when we were having a girls night out. I met friend and four others in a out in town. The friend had the plate with her. She gave it me so I asked what I was supposed to do with it all night? She said well if it's that much of a problem she would carry it. We went to for a meal and then to another pub, I felt guilty about her carrying it so I suggested we just leave it in the pub. It's only a plate.
She said she would feel too guilty and carried on carrying it around looking all martyred so I took the plate off her and left it in the pub.
She then, after a few more drinks, started crying ......about the plate!!

So was ibu about making a fuss about her bringing the plate on a night out? Was friend bu in bringing the plate and insisting on carrying it around for most of the night, even after I suggested we leave it?

My husband two girls think it's hilarious, oldest daughter is getting ready to go out and came to ask me which plate goes best with her outfit. So at least some good has come out of plate-gate

[kungfupannda]

Squeezepast Fri 02-Jan-15 20:57:38
"Argh! This North South 'crockery on a night out' divide has got me worried. I live in the North East where, as Durham says, taking a plate for a night out is considered highly unusual. However in the next few months, I am moving to the South West and really want to fit in and make friends. Is there a southerner who could possibly summarise the crockery etiquette for me? I'm thinking is it saucer for a quiet drink, tea plate for cocktails, dinner plate for staying til last orders and serving dish for dancing on the tables til the club closes? Please help!"

I am a north-easterner now living in the south west. I have never taken a plate on a night out in either location. Although I did once see someone in a Bristol pub with an entire set of pans still in their packaging.

You might want to ring 101 for advice when you get to your new home.

[FloatIsRechargedNow]

If you were moving to the SE I would say definitely leave the crockery at home, they're a very judgemental bunch generally, BUT the SW is a completely different matter and I should think the biggest problem if you took a plate-accessory on a night out would be stopping randoms from 'playing' with it.

[Camolips]

Beware the SW! I mistakenly took a Cornish Pastie plate to an event where everyone else had Clotted Cream Tea plates! I would suggest discreetly taking along a selection until you feel secure.

[DurhamDurham]

Yes imagine the sheer embarrassment of having the WRONG plate!! A selection of sizes and designs, say about 10 plates, should cover you for most eventualities.

[LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett]

Apparently the first draft of award-winning Aardman animation 'the Wrong Trousers' was called 'The Wrong Teaplate' but they changed it to trousers because they thought it wouldn't translate well oop north....

[BikketBikketBikket]

Durham I'd take a bowl as well - just to be on the safe side (you never know whether someone might offer you fruit salad, or cream....)

[DurhamDurham]

......knife,fork and spoon in my pocket. Be a shame to miss out if food were offered!

[ZingTheGreat]

buy a Spork and a Swiss knife Durham
and a matching set for your friend

[DurhamDurham]

Can you actually buy sporks? I thought you just got disposable one free with 'food on the go' My life could be revolutionised!!

[MarjorieMelon]

Hilarious. Even dh laughed when I read the OP to him and he is a miserable git

[ZingTheGreat]

Durham

your plate turned up in someone else's cupboard!!!!

find thread

[DurhamDurham]

No! Really?

[ZingTheGreat]

Can't link. it's in Active

[ZingTheGreat]

AIBU

to be freaked out by the plate in the cupboard I'd never seen before

[ZingTheGreat]

*that I've

[DurhamDurham]

It's fate, it MUST be my plate. God works in mysterious ways........

[ZingTheGreat]

is it white? is it Asda?
is it tear stained?

[DurhamDurham]

Yes
Yes
Yes

Praise be, my plate has found it's way home, or at least it's found a loving new home

[JennieR60]

Haha this is hilarious! Why would she bring it on a night out?! If my friend had done that I too would have just left it there. So funny.

[ZingTheGreat]

ffs, I meant to post that on the other thread!!!!

[MinceSpy]

Years ago when my dad was in the RAF we used to get posted all over the world. Often we got to our new home before our belongings so when we were invited to someone's house or they came to ours we took cup, plate, bowl and cutlery or dads took their mess tins. Maybe going out with a plate is the new thing.

[Enormouse]

Any chance your friend might be pregnant durham? What with the crying over the plate and all.

[DurhamDurham]

Not pregnant, she's just a tad eccentric. Saw her today and she wanted to send me home with one of her plates........I politely declined as I literally have a cupboard full.

[DurhamDurham]

Zing I thought you were giving me the description of the other plate, I got very excited

[AtAmber]

Durham - we have just had your cheese pie for dinner. It was delicious.