AIBU Re : Plate returned from friend while on night out!!

[DurhamDurham]

I made a pie for a friend, cheese,potato and onion. She was having a family party and requested I make her a pie. Very happy to oblige.
Pie was eaten and enjoyed by her family, I had a lovely text from friend who said she would give me the plate back soon, no hurry I said, we have plenty.
Skip forward to last night when we were having a girls night out. I met friend and four others in a out in town. The friend had the plate with her. She gave it me so I asked what I was supposed to do with it all night? She said well if it's that much of a problem she would carry it. We went to for a meal and then to another pub, I felt guilty about her carrying it so I suggested we just leave it in the pub. It's only a plate.
She said she would feel too guilty and carried on carrying it around looking all martyred so I took the plate off her and left it in the pub.
She then, after a few more drinks, started crying ......about the plate!!

So was ibu about making a fuss about her bringing the plate on a night out? Was friend bu in bringing the plate and insisting on carrying it around for most of the night, even after I suggested we leave it?

My husband two girls think it's hilarious, oldest daughter is getting ready to go out and came to ask me which plate goes best with her outfit. So at least some good has come out of plate-gate

I wonder what the bar staff thought when they found it .

How odd , I love the pissed crying over it though . She was pissed I assume ?

Putting it in a tesco bag is funnier than just carrying it.

I would have laughed about it all night.

She had consumed a fair amount of Prosecco when she cried about the plate, I don't think she would have cried about it when sober. She hasn't been upset about crockery in the past, so far as I know.

So funny!

Loved the comment about the plate matching the outfit!

Of course she was bonkers but is totally forgiven for the laugh factor!

If you had gone for a meal, you could have eaten off it.

Plates are the big accessory for 2015.

Maybe it's the way forward. Everyone carry around a late that matches (or not ) their outfit. Could come in handy if you got peckish at the end of the night and fancied a pizza or some chips. It would make it a more refined experience.

Oh gosh. It's a real there-but-for-the-grace etc moment. I could see me doing something like this. Anxious to return plate, a million things on my mind. And then getting drunk and collapsing in tears realising how I'd messed it up. For humourous family storirs alone I'd let her off.

Why on earth would anyone think that is a good idea?

Yanbu!

Remember the fashion for chopsticks in the hair?

Perhaps we could try forks and knifes stuck in a hair bun and try for a full place setting to compliment the plate

Was it a drunk, self-indulgent 'I can't even return a plate properly' cry, because I can kind of imagine that happening to someone who is a bit knackered and hadn't really thought through the process of taking a plate on a night out!

I have been known to give people IOUs for their birthday presents if we are going out together and I think they will be sick of carrying it around. Anything big, delicate or awkward needs to be returned to someone in their home or when they are within a stone's throw of their car to avoid being a massive plate in the arse...

She has been forgiven, she phoned today and asked if she had in fact cried about the plate while in Weatherspoons. She had no recollection theta the plate was left in the pub. She offered to go and collect it today but I suggested she just leave it, possibly not worth the puzzled looks of the staff when they are asked if anyone had handed a plate in to lost property.

Was it an 'extra large plate' for piling food on at an all you can eat buffet (Alan Partridge)?

I would have asked the pub to hold on to the plate and gone back for it the next day.

It was a throughly pathetic crying episode of the ' Oh god I can't do anything right variety'. We all just hugged her and tried to make her see the funny side of it. May be we should all exchange plates on our next night out to help friend get over it.

I'm Northen, clearly with the name DurhamDurham, and I wasn't outraged as such. Just a tad out out at the expectation that I wouldn't mind .carrying around a piece of crockery on a night out which included several pubs and a restaurant. You wouldn't have minded carrying around a plate , really!?!!

Brilliant just brilliant

I don't think it has ever been deemed necessary to have a 'no plates' rule Chase, not even for 'Northerners'

Had a giggle about this, and OP, loved your husband's daughters comments about "which plate will go with my outfit" and birdsgottafly's suggestion to celebrate plate's birthday/buy it drinks .

Your dd sounds hilarious

I'm northern we don't have many rules for nights out but I would also think its a bit innapropriate carrying a plate around on a night out !

She was rude to return it to you empty.

No you are totally correct Chase, that's one of the main reasons i couldn't get my head round going out in London. I just couldn't get to grips with the plate etiquette - was this one too big? Too small? Just right? Did it, as durham's dd would say, match my outfit! And that's before you even think about accessorising with the right placcy bag. Waitrose - trying too hard? Tesco - not hard enough?

In other words, is my crockery making my night out a mockery?