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To not have let this man infront of me at checkout till?

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LilMissSunshine9 · 31/12/2014 18:13

.So I was in Tesco today grabbing some items for tonight and breakfast tomorrow (its about 3pm), it was really busy and I had already been patiently in the queue for the checkout for 15 minutes. I was up next and this guy wanders over and demands that I let him go in front of me to pay for his bottle of alcohol - ok I know it is one item but I have things to do and have been patient enough to queue up plus there are plenty of self-service or 5 items and less tills. So I politely refused and he got in a right huff said the self service & 5 items less tills were too busy then called me a fat bitch and walked off. In way I am glad I didn't since he was so incredibly rude. The guy who was in front of me and just paying said well it is New Year's you should of let him.

If it was me buying one item I would just go to self service or 5 items and less and wait my turn. I just wouldn't even think to try and queue jump.

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YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 31/12/2014 20:49

I'm astounded that everyone is debating whether or not OP was wrong not to let him got first, and not mentioning the fact he called her a fat bitch!
What a complete tosser. Unless you said "no you can't go in front, you fat cunt" Smile who the fuck does he think he is?

I asked DH if he'd overheard this from the queue, what would he have done and he would have called him on being rude and told him to apologise. I would too. So there are decent people out there OP, shame they weren't in your queue.

ilovesooty · 31/12/2014 20:55

YesIDidMean you're right. I must admit I was simply considering whether his initial request/demand was reasonable.

MrsKoala · 31/12/2014 20:56

Well YANBU to say no - up to you and all that. But you did make me laugh with your puritanical sounding 'bottle of alcohol' so for that alone YAU. Grin

Clubclassic · 31/12/2014 20:57

Wouldn't have let him in. Waiting for a self service till once, man comes up with just a paper & asks very nicely if he could go next as his bus was due. Not a problem, he then proceeded to ask one of the servers to get him some cigarettes, which then needed authorisation from someone else. His transaction took so much longer than mine would have done. Didn't even get a thank you.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 21:02

The fag one has come up now Grin

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 21:03

I get pissed off that I have to queue twice in a supermaket... once to get my booze and another time to get my fags Grin I do actually!

Hurr1cane · 31/12/2014 21:08

I would have let him.... Unless he demanded, then I would have got annoyed and said no. That probably makes me a shit person

itsbetterthanabox · 31/12/2014 21:24

Yabu you weren't doing a massive shop and he was buying alcohol not something essential! Very rude and entitled. He would not have asked a man that's for certain.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 31/12/2014 21:33

Thebatterieshaverunout Please tell me you write comedy for a living! If not, you should be Grin

Lilmiss Nope sorry buy you were well within your right to tell him to sod off, oh and what a surprise he was a tosser who didn't deserve the favour. I bet he wouldn't have even approached or insulted you if you were a man though...

YonicSleighdriver · 31/12/2014 21:39

YANBU.

But even if you were BU, he lost all claim to anything with his insult.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 21:57

I bet he wouldn't have even approached or insulted you if you were a man though

Spot on! No he wouldnt...

I was in the queue the other day at TKMax... dont we all hate it, and some bloke pushed in, I said... err, i dont think so, well the pure rant that came out of him was disgusting. Yes of course I "challenged" him... it turned out I was a white nasty infadel that sucked cocks.

This isnt me embellishing anything or trying to start a fight here... it actually happened.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 22:06

The nasty English bloke would do what the OP said... called her a fat bitch... both totally unacceptable, so for you lot that actually calls "her" unreasonable then you need to get a grip.

Neither of them would have spoken to another man like that!

I rest my "feminist" case. it makes my blood boil, really it does.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 31/12/2014 22:06

Shock Tinks Wtf! How on earth some people think it's ok to verbally abuse a total stranger (especially over something so minor) like that is beyond me!

I mean, I'm realistic, I'm sure most people have a little moan in their head/under their breath if something doesn't go their way but to go on like that is scary.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 22:09

I know! it was pretty gobsmacking, but i live in London so not that unbelievable unfortunately Sad

Aeroflotgirl · 31/12/2014 22:13

Yanbu at all, he should queue like everybody else.

Original poster
LilMissSunshine9 · 01/01/2015 02:19

Sorry just got back from watching the fireworks in london. So the guy walks up and says Im just jumping in here as I only have one item Ill be really quick.

I wrote bottle of alcohol cos I couldn't remember what it was I think it was jack daniels lol it was a square shape

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GatoradeMeBitch · 01/01/2015 02:42

Then you were definitely reasonable. He was clearly a knob anyway from what you told us, but anyone asking a favour from a stranger should at least know to ASK it! Entitled little prick, I hope it took him ages to get served!

itsbetterthanabox · 01/01/2015 07:43

It's way back but I meant yaNbu!

KatieKaye · 01/01/2015 08:19

It's always up to you whether or not you let someone go ahead - in this instant, as you'd already waited for ages, YWNU.

He was a total prat.

Last time this happened to me, I politely said "No." Woman protested that she only had 4 items. I pointed out that I only had 2 items. She said she was needed to catch a bus. Funnily enough, so did I.

Some people just try it on.

BTW - she caught the bus (same one as me). It runs every 10 minutes, so not exactly a big deal.

Andrewofgg · 01/01/2015 08:24

The answer to I'm just jumping in here is No you're not. End of.

Tinks42 The chap who got to the takeaway before you did was just lucky. The one in T K Maxx is beneath contempt!

expatinscotland · 01/01/2015 10:18

He was a chancer. And a prick.

youarekiddingme · 01/01/2015 10:30

The reason these people react badly is because they are usually the ones who word things in a way that gets them what they want and aren't used to 'no'

"I'm just jumping in here as I only have 1 item". Not even the manners to ask. Temper tantrum ensures when they are told no.

We should feel sorry for these people really that look like 20+ yos but who are actually 2.

oldgrandmama · 01/01/2015 18:35

I have a rule. If I've got quite a few items in my basket/trolley, and someone behind me in the checkout queue has just one to three items, I will suggest that she goes before me. But note: I said 'SHE'. I will never ever let a man go first, because in my loooong experience (I'm in my seventies) I have NEVER experienced, or seen, a man let someone go in front of him with just one or two things. It's only women who do it to others. But I did make an occasional exception, if it's a very old man, as happened in M & S mad checkout queue recently. The guy thanked me effusively.

Anyway, I digress ... OP, good for you.
(I once wrote a letter to the Daily Telegraph about this - and it was published! Blush at outing myself as a DT reader!

Original poster
LilMissSunshine9 · 01/01/2015 19:12

aww thanks for all your support; someone asked if I would do the same if it was a women - well yes I would of behaved the same.

I do some nice things quite often for other esp at the cinema (bit of a film fan so go alot) when I know I still have 20 mins for trailers and overhear a person directly behind me is running late then I let him ahead of me as I don't mind missing the trailers (once this included a father and son - poor kid was so worried about missing Frozen and getting a decent seat)

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FryOneFatManic · 01/01/2015 19:23

I had a woman try to push in once. She breezed up to the till I was waiting at, pushed my trolley out the way and plonked her 2 bags of rolls on the conveyor belt.

So I picked them up and put them on the end of the conveyor belt and started putting my stuff down. She got stroppy. I said nothing and just gave her a hard stare then totally ignored her. I think it was the ignoring that really got to her, her strop just sort of tailed off.

Luckily, it's not the sort of thing that happens to me much. I'm happy to let people in if I've got a lot and they've only got one or two items, but I'm not going to meekly stand by and let people push others out like this one tried to do.

I also recall one rather fraught Xmas eve in Tesco, where they had staff monitoring the queues to keep tempers from fraying. I don't recall anyone trying to jump the queue that day.

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