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To not have let this man infront of me at checkout till?

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LilMissSunshine9 · 31/12/2014 18:13

.So I was in Tesco today grabbing some items for tonight and breakfast tomorrow (its about 3pm), it was really busy and I had already been patiently in the queue for the checkout for 15 minutes. I was up next and this guy wanders over and demands that I let him go in front of me to pay for his bottle of alcohol - ok I know it is one item but I have things to do and have been patient enough to queue up plus there are plenty of self-service or 5 items and less tills. So I politely refused and he got in a right huff said the self service & 5 items less tills were too busy then called me a fat bitch and walked off. In way I am glad I didn't since he was so incredibly rude. The guy who was in front of me and just paying said well it is New Year's you should of let him.

If it was me buying one item I would just go to self service or 5 items and less and wait my turn. I just wouldn't even think to try and queue jump.

OP posts:
naty1 · 31/12/2014 19:00

How rude everyone was.
I would have said no.
He needs to queue like everyone else.
He'd clearly been in and out quicker than everyone else already.
He had probably already been drinking.
But especially as everyone behind you would have been annoyed.
I was queuing in boots yesterday - a clear group of us waiting. Lady waltses up attracts attention of staff, who had ignored everyone else.
As i was facing forward i dont even know where she came from.
I think it is up to the staff to to see the queue.

Bakeoffcakes · 31/12/2014 19:08

Imagine if everyone, in every shop felt that entitled. The whole country would be chaosXmas Shock

He's sounds a like a right twat.

ChickenMe · 31/12/2014 19:09

The adult equivalent of:
Child: "I want sweets"
Adult: "No"
Child: "I hate you mummy"

and probably should not be buying booze while he is emotionally still aged four.

WillWorkForMoney · 31/12/2014 19:10

Once in a queue with my nan - so 2 separate shopping. A man and woman behind with a basket of a few bits, probably about ten items. I had a million things to fit in after shopping and before picking kids up so didn't offer for them to go ahead as I usually do. All the way through being served I could hear the woman huffing and puffing and "she's never going to let anyone go ahead of her ever again". Had to stop myself sniggering. Oh and I know mn do not like it when this is mentioned, but they looked like a retired couple so probably not in a rush, and even if they were, why is their time more important than mine and my nans?

AntiHop · 31/12/2014 19:23

Yanbu. I've offered to let someone behind me go in front if they've only got 1 or 2 items. But I'd never let someone in front if they behaved like that.

TheBatteriesHaveRunOut · 31/12/2014 19:28

Good point expat.

I now have a fantasy in my head

wanker: oi I've got a bottle of gin, let me in front of you and everyone else
me: no, why don't you go and ask that man at the next till, the fella with the tattoos and piercings, growling lightly and chewing on his bike helmet?
wanker: you fat bitch
me: oi! fella at the next till! you with the skid lid! This bloke just called you a fat bitch

wtffgs · 31/12/2014 19:35

YANBU.

OP have a lovely NYE and 2015 WineThanks

Entitled Tesco Tosspot I hope you get knob rot and it drops off.

vienna1981 · 31/12/2014 19:36

I once witnessed a quite elderly lady take the liberty of queue-jumping without so much as a word in my local supermarket. The look on her face was priceless as the young man
she had bumped told her in no uncertain terms she was extremely rude. Silly old bat meekly took her place at the back of the queue. I've no doubt she thought she didn't survive the blitz and rationing so she would have to stand in queues.

misskangaandroo2014 · 31/12/2014 19:42

YANBU. In my fantasy land I'd have suggested if he was that desperate to satsfy his alcholism he go to a pub where that sort of instant gratification is acceptable. As to guy who suggested it was somehow the done thing on NYE. Again some remark about being quite disappointed in alcholism being socially encouraged. But I am a fucking misery guts who bloody hates the 'get pissed behave like a wanker' expectation of NYE.

southeastastra · 31/12/2014 19:43

sounds like he was desperate to drink, silly twat

MrsMarcJacobs · 31/12/2014 19:48

F him, he was rude. I wouldn't have let him and would have told that other bloke to mind his business. yes I would let nice people in front of me, not self entitled dicks like him. Self entitled Q jumpers like him give me the rage.

lem73 · 31/12/2014 19:51

The man in front told you that you could have let him in because it is New Years eve? If he thought so why didn't he let him in?
He is rude. I would never even think of asking someone if I could go first. I might consider letting someone if they asked nicely and I hadn't been waiting ages. However you had been waiting patiently so you were absolutely right. Don't doubt yourself.
I'm amazed how rude and grumpy people get in shops at this time of year. People were vile in my local m and s today.

RC1234 · 31/12/2014 19:57

He was rude. Letting people in is something that should be offered not asked for or expected. If he was carrying medicine or nappies etc I might have given way otherwise no a chance.

peggyundercrackers · 31/12/2014 20:02

If it had been a woman who asked you would you have let her through?

I would have let him through first, I don't see the big deal. You seem quite proud though that you stood your ground and you weren't going to let him go no matter what. You sound quite bitter...

BackOnlyBriefly · 31/12/2014 20:10

YANBU. There's no special 'right to queue jump'

And now you've seen how rude he can be it's a good thing you didn't. People like that don't deserve favours.

I'd love to put those who say smugly they always let people ahead to the test. Get 20 friends with one item each to ask to go first and see how long their patience lasts.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 20:16

YANBU! Its different if you offered, it has been known for me to do that on occasion a good day to a pensioner or someone with a baby.

As for him, it just went to show what an arse he is.

GretnaGreen · 31/12/2014 20:18

YWNBU. I might swap places with someone in the queue right behind me if they have less as that makes no difference to others waiting behind us iyswim. But I wouldn't let a complete stranger who hadn't queued just barge in in front of me and I would be quite annoyed if someone else did.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 20:20

Bitter? Oh for god sake Grin

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 20:26

Gretna is spot on here.

ilovesooty · 31/12/2014 20:28

I once witnessed a quite elderly lady take the liberty of queue-jumping without so much as a word in my local supermarket. The look on her face was priceless as the young man
she had bumped told her in no uncertain terms she was extremely rude. Silly old bat meekly took her place at the back of the queue. I've no doubt she thought she didn't survive the blitz and rationing so she would have to stand in queues

Her behaviour would have been rude whatever her age. And the term "silly old bat" is really unpleasant.

The OPstill hasn't defined how he "demanded" to go in front but I think she was quite within her rights to refuse.

HansieLove · 31/12/2014 20:28

I once offered to let a guy go ahead of me as he had one item. But then he wanted to cash a check and I cannot remember what else he did to gobble up time. But never again have I offered to let someone in first.

expatinscotland · 31/12/2014 20:36

The big deal is that other punters are stood behind the OP, too, and may have had fewer items than the man in question. But they were queuing up and waiting their turn.

GatoradeMeBitch · 31/12/2014 20:45

What did he actually say OP? Did he ask you politely or actually tell you to let him in? If he did literally demand, then you were right to shut him down.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 31/12/2014 20:46

I work on checkouts at another supermarket. If that happened infront of me, I'd have politely told him to join the queue. Rude twat.

Tinks42 · 31/12/2014 20:48

It was pouring with rain the other night, I parked and was purely running across the road to get a take-away for my son and I. A bloke parked literally on the same side of the road 20 paces from the place, saw me and legged it in there. Bloody twat wanker! If looks could kill he'd be dead by now Grin