to think that fragrance/scent on a man is effeminate ?

[vienna1981]

My attitude could probably be described as old-fashioned, narrow-minded, prejudiced etc. I'm of the opinion that "smelling nice" is a woman thing and it's rather girly for men to reek like a rosebush. I'm not suggesting that anybody, man or woman, should pong of sweat and BO. Just to be hygienically neutral without added flavour, as it were.

By the way, my 89 year-old neighbour wears Old Spice. A 25 year-old workmate wears Paco Rabane, and way too much of it. Both of these products smell awful, IMO.

Over to you.

Wow.

I guess you are not a fan of the metro-sexual look then eh?

I do like some fragrances, but unfortunately, due to allergies and asthma, neither of us wear any.

Yadbu . One thing that attracted me to my dh was the fact that he wore
aftershave.

YANBU to think it stinks like crap when people overdo it.
However YABU to think its a womans thing.
If I put a post up about how liking cars is a mans thing i'd probably be jumped on for being sexist, it works both ways.

I like aftershave & find men who wear it to be quite attractive.

Also nice is a decent antiperspirant deodorant spray.

And the smell of freshly washed hair on a man.

No I love to smell a decent scent on a man.

I love my dp wearing aftershave. Of course it has to suit the man, the same as perfume has to suit a woman to be attractive.

A very nice smelling man walked past me and my sister on the TGV. We were in awe. We still refer to him fondly as "amazing smelling man".

So yeah, nice aftershave works well

I think there's nothing sexier than a huge rugby-playing hairy hulk of a man who has beautiful grooming. A very delicious mix.

I think it's ok to hate scent on a man.
It's silly to consider it effeminate.

Any product will smell awful if the person wears too much of it.

YANBU to dislike Old Spice but YABU to dismiss fragrance as effeminate.
A touch of good aftershave or fragrance on a man can be lovely, DH has always worn Eternity for Men since before we met and I love it.
(Soppy admission - he works away a lot and I've been known to give myself a quick spray from his old bottle when he's not here..)

I love a good smelling man.

I mean.. There is nothing sexier....

I also love when a sexy smelling man walks past and it turns my head and makes me want to stalk and luck them.

wonderingsoul "it turns my head and makes me want to stalk and luck them."

You can't go lucking strangers!

I meant lick... But I guess if I could luck strangers it wouldn't be a bad thing ethier.

I disagree. I always buy my husband a selection of fragrances every christmas. I hate anything musky so avoid those. I love it when he smells delicious. You are right when you admit that it is an old fashioned, narrowminded etc view, it most certainly is. I'm very glad that men tend to smell nice these days.

Also the idea that it is a woman's job to smell pretty is just an extension of the whole look pretty smell pretty sit pretty behave pretty be nice be available ... crap that disadvantages and damages women and the sooner that view is gone the happier I'll be.

Golly.

Elaborate?

Surprised?

I also love when a sexy smelling man walks past and it turns my head and makes me want to stalk and luck them.

Yuk! wonderingsoul That is exactly why I hate aftershave. If you'd started dating in the '80s and frequently ended up with a mouthful of Kouros, you'd agree.

That's why I love non-perfumed DH and out of politeness never wear scent where I want to be kissed.

I asked to be moved away from a table of men on holiday in the South of France. The mingled fumes of Chanel, YSL etc were like chemical weapons.

The waiters nodded sympathetically.

But that's power smelling, surely, where they try to outdo each other on everything including smell.

I don't like strong smells on anyone.

I didn't realise you can still get 'bay rum'! I bet dh will want to try that now!
Honestly, he has a set of bookshelves in his room and every shelf is crammed with perfume/cologne bottles, it's like a lady's boudoir. And because our friends know he's keen on scent, they get him yet more for Christmas and Birthdays.
JeannedeMontbaston, I'm the same. Most perfumes smell like pisse-de-chat on my skin. I can only have spicy, citrussy or herby ones. But oils seem to be quite stable. Rose, lavender and lily-of-the-valley oils are okay. (Typical old biddy perfumes)

I have fond memories of a Kouros scented man in the 1980s too.

I never liked Paco Man though - not precisely because of the smell but because it so quickly became an in joke for wearing too much aftershave.

Effeminate seems an odd choice of word... I suppose you can think what you like, but I doubt that use of fragrance would correlate with other things you'd consider effeminate.

In my experience, fragrance can enhance the way a man portrays his masculinity... And yes, I'm one of the people who wants to lick nice-smelling total strangers...