To put my toddler in 2nd hand pants?

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Bit of a weird one here. My mum has some neighbours to whom she is very close; they are really kind people and coincidentally have two sons just a little older than my two. They have very generously passed on their boys' outgrown clothes for the last couple of years, since i had my toddler. I'm very grateful for all their help.

Recently, they sent a lot of underpants. My toddler son (2.8yo) is just starting potty training and so this is the first time that pants have been passed on. AIBU to feel a bit icky about putting my son in second hand pants? They are clean and have been washed, but I can't shake this slightly icky feeling about it. Im normally very happy (and grateful) for him to wear everything they send....but pants?

I wore a lot of second hand clothes growing up but pants and shoes were always new, for reasons of hygiene and fit, respectively. My mum keeps telling me that I don't need to buy my son pants as her neighbours have passed on plenty, so she definitely doesn't seem to feel icky about it. But I do! Also, I'd like to feel that at least my sons pants were his own. It seems an illogical feeling to have thiugh, so what do you think? aIBU?

We hand down swim trunks and pj's as well, many of madthing5's pj's have been worn by all four of her elder brothers, it never occurred to me not to hand them down!

Do cheap pants really let boys penises fly out? And how exactly do more expensive ones help with this.

£11 for one pair of toddler undies !! My ds has been wearing undies for 3 years now and his penis has never flown out unless he wanted it to

Why do penises fly out of pants that cost less than £7.5O a pair? I think we should be told!

Less then 100% cotton are apparently itchy hakluyt so maybe the penis deliberately jumps out to escape the discomfort

I have yet to discover the joys of buying boys' pants - ds is still in nappies - but I can't be the only parent to find there is a huge difference between makes/brands of girls' pants in terms of fit and decent gusset etc. my dds have had some shocking ones which have barely done the job. So it would not surprise me to find there is similar variance in boxers to do the job they are supposed to.

Haha ok, buy whatever pants you like. I'm just saying these are the ones we have found fit best. We tried gap and the trunks were so wide on the leg everything erm hung out.. We then tried the White company which were baggy as hell and kept disappearing either up poor ds's butt or went up to his armpits when he pulled trousers up ( baring in mind toddlers aren't great at getting dressed/ sorting themselves out straight after toilet). Hence we found the above and have stuck to them so far. Hence this thread where I said I def pass pants on

artandco sorry for the joke. I haven't had to buy boys pants for children but I kind of get where you are coming from as my partner is fussy about his pants and moans about the fit of some of the cheaper ones.

It's great that your DC have such fabulous pants Art. I just think GAP, White Stuff and Petit Bateau are not normal going rate for pants!

I reckon at Petit Bateau prices we'd have got through well over £1000 of pants for our 8 year old DD alone. Hers are mainly Asda :)

I generally stick to M&S or Tesco for kids pants. I have found Next were very much like a mini bikini bottom with almost no crutch (not my idea of a cover-up for a 4 yo!)

I found cheaper brands generally don't last so well. DS is getting to the age where I will buy the style he chooses, DD1 (7) likes the short style and DD2 (4) likes what she steals from DD1's drawers!

DD2 hates anything tight, so despite the age gap, pants, socks and tights tend to go straight from DD1 to DD2.

at having tried all the possibilities- Gap, The White Company, Petit Bateau....... How the other half lives, eh?

Logically I can see no issue if well washed (and I speak as one who works in public health). If pants retained nasty bacteria after washing you wouldn't want to put them on yourself/ child a second time round either!

I have only ever been the donor (due to relative ages and sizes of friends kids) and I admit I've hesitated to offer outgrown pants. Probably in part that by the time our (mainly M and S ones) had done duty they were pretty visually unappealing and very well worn! And they are a small readily purchasable item. I'd be similar with socks I think.

I would quite happily pay through the nose for many things for my children, and do - music lessons, football matches, toys, computer games, GAP hoodies that cost more than mine, pizza express, extra marshmallows in their already overpriced hot chocolates in Costa, etc etc etc. But £7.50 for a pair of pants? Couldn't do it I'm afraid. I've been spoilt by having bought virtually all their pants in Tescos where they are virtually free. All have been washed 100s of times and are now hapilly containing ds3 penis, even though he is a completely different size and shape (chunky, no bottom) to ds2 (very skinny, larger bottom) and ds1 (slim, prefers trucks).

The most expensive pants we've had have been the odd pack from the Disney Store before Lightning McQueen made his appearance in Tesco (too small at front, long since fallen apart, never made it to ds3) and were about £7.50 for five pairs. I also remember hunting down pants on instruction for ds1 with George Pig on them instead of Peppa in Mothercare which were OK and are still going - mainly because ds1 only wore them for about a week as some kid laughed at them on the first day of Reception and he refused to wear them thereafter.

Our pants have history! I'm actually feeling a little emotional thinking about the tiny 18m to 2y ones which have seen 3 boys through the potty training years and which are pink due to a mixed wash accident, but nobody minded at that age, now put away in a box forever.

But £7.50 for one pair of pants?!