AIBU to expect MIL to get my dd's name right?

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My dd is 14. FOURTEEN. And yet MIL insists on getting her name wrong. For clarity, and I don't think I will out myself, her name is Joanna, and Mil calls her Joanne. My DP said 'come on mum, get her name right' and she replied 'oh, she knows what I mean'
WIBU to call MIL by another name to see how she likes it?

I have this with pils. My dd does have an unusual name to look at and its quite rare in the UK however, to pronounce it is two very common syllables. They just won't say it right. It does my head in.

My grandparents frequently call me by the wrong name. They do have 10 grand daughters though. And have taken to just rattling off all our names when they see us. It's easier for them and means they will get it right.

I know it's not quite the same, as she didn't know her in person of course, but my Nanna always used to call Princess Diana "Diane". It's like she couldn't quite cope with the extra syllable on the end, or maybe she thought it was pretentious or something, I don't know (Nanna wasn't really that sort of person though).

My aunt addressed my DD's Christmas card to Rebecca.... She's called Jessica... I have no idea where that came from. She also spells my name wrong and my other DD's name wrong too.
This is a lady in her 40's too not an elderly person!! Makes me angry

Your DD is 14. Is she upset by your MIL's inability to get her name right? If she's upset, she's old enough to say something. If she's not bothered, you don't need to be bothered either.

My GM told my Dparents that she did not like my name so would call me the Spanish version of it. A bit random considering we are not Spanish. That made me stabby also.

A neighbour told me that he did not like our Ds'sname so would call him by his first two intitials..... think 'AJ'. Um, NO.

People can be arses.

Although, mind you, I suspect a whole lot of MN threads could be summarised with 'People can be arses'.

My grandma used to call my auntie, her daughter, Diane when her name was Diana

'For goodness sake mother, it's got an A at the end, you should know, you gave it to me' was trotted out at many family occasions

Yet another Joanna here, who used to get called Joanne! It annoyed me so much I changed to being known as Jo when I went to sixth form college, and am still that now 30 years later. Now I just have to put up with people spelling it Joe

My dd is called Bethan (not unusual in Wales at all)

My (welsh speaking) GM called her Bethany til the day she died.

She just calls herself Beth now.

Definitely not unreasonable OP. My SIL always spells my 3yo sons (well known) name wrong it's one of those with a male/female spelling and she always writes the girls version. Pisses me off which I think may be the point!

fatowl- I used to teach a Bethan (in England) and every other teacher in the school would write Bethany on her report! I was also her form tutor so I had to send each report back to be corrected. I always got it right but I am Welsh!

My daughter is called Bronwen but everyone calls her Bron-WIN it make me very stabby.

Last Christmas my dad sent individual cards to me & my newborn DTs. one was addressed to Daniel. We don't have a Daniel. We have a Samuel. I know he'd only had 3m to learn their names but I still can't believe he got it so wrong!

My grandad used to call me Anne which is my middle name. He didn't like my first name because is was French!

Why can't your DD just correct her if she is 14yrs? My friend Julia used to get this with someone who called her Julie -and every time she said 'a'. It worked eventually.

Oops I must upset people. I really struggle with names like Julie and Julia etc it is not because I am being deliberately rude I just really struggle with them like some people do with numbers and writing. I struggle with all names but ones with a small change esp at the end get me in a real mess sometimes it is so difficult I just avoid calling them. On the other hand my name can be changed in a similar way has never bothered me.

YANBU. It is just rude.

This happens persistently with one of my dcs at school. I corrected the headmaster the other day, but dc is too polite to do that.

The XH had an aunt that for the 20+ years of our marriage insisted that I was called Rhonda. My name does have some of those letters in it, but that is not my name. I never answered when she called me that and she would get quite offended. She was even more offended when I bumped into her at the hospital with DD1 and she called me that, and DD1 piped up 'but that's not mum's name.' Apparently that was rude! Yeah? and so is not calling me by my name!

My DM can't spell my name properly; I honestly think she does it to be awkward

I like to think once I get the hang of names, I am pretty good at remembering to pronounce them correctly.

Except my friend, let's call him David Ronaldson - I keep wanting to call him Ronald, and always have to think about it before I address him. Thankfully he has a good sense of humour and is patient with me. Just as well. I've known him nearly 10 years.

My Joanna had this a lot when she was younger and, with family, we encouraged her to say 'A' very loudly if anyone called her Joanne. Now she is 40 and has been Jo for many years. Fwiw my name is Valerie and my dad used to call me Valeria for a joke. It misfired as I thought anything was better than Valerie!

Is your dd your dp's?

Sorry if that's a nosey question. But I have 2 dd with my H plus a ds from a prev marriage and MIL still doesn't get his name right and can't spell it either. Yet she gets dd names right makes me fume

I have a daughter Lauren and sister Laura. DH's sister cannot or will not get them the right way round. Drives me nuts.