(Name change).
OK OK OK. I know IABU. I just need people to straight-talk a bit of sense into me.
We are a fairly average family, averagely happy, averagely paid, averagely sized, averagely eccentric etc. DS (18) is not average - to me at least. He is very clever, witty, great company and a lovely person that I am immensley proud of. He is going out with his first serious girlfriend. GF is very bright, gorgeous, polite, friendly and talented. All fine and lovely.
So here's the unreasonable bit. GF and her family are just too bloody perfect. Perfect GF's parents are both extremely successful (well-known, top of their respective fields - yes I've been googling them ). The family is mega wealthy (think mansion with grounds) and all the siblings (there are several) are also fantastically good looking, highly successful in a range of high-powered professions and according to ds, all great company, hilarious and interesting. To cap it all, perfect dad is also a successful member of a hobby group that ds is obsessed by.
Since October ds has spent all his spare time with perfect GF's family and I feel like he has almost dropped our family and been adopted by hers. He's included in their family get-togethers and is FB friends with them all. We, on the other hand, have met GF a sum total of twice for no more than 3 minutes each time (enough to say hello and smile and for ds to then pull her out of the room in case we embarrass him by talking to her). We have suggested to ds lots of times that he invite her to ours or she joins us on a family outing or whatever, but ds is very uncomfortable with the idea and it's never convenient.
Am I BU to be a tiny bit jealous of perfect gf's perfect family and perfect life? Is it U to feel a tiny bit sad that clearly her family can offer ds so much more than we can? Am I being a future MIL from hell to wish that DS wanted to spend some of his time with his perfect gf here in our family home instead of all their time at hers?
Yes. I know I am. Now give it to me straight.