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AIBU?

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Am I an evil mother?

98 replies

Tutteredboast · 29/12/2014 11:54

Sitting in a plane waiting to take off. DD and DH are sitting together. I am one extra seat away by the window. It's not busy, so the seat in between is vacant. Have just had two stewardesses with arms folded looking pityingly at DD saying, you can move, we just thought you may prefer to sit with your child.
Am I evil to want to look out of the window and sip wine today?

OP posts:

Psycobabble · 29/12/2014 12:49

Meh I'd do the same as others have said it's not like your dd can't love over to you during the flight

Wish I was off on hol ! Enjoy!!

Psycobabble · 29/12/2014 12:50

Move no love!!

Lottiedoubtie · 29/12/2014 12:54

Eh? You are one seat away? So what 60cm? And people think you're unreasonable or odd?

Am I missing something?

Number3cometome · 29/12/2014 12:54

Floggingmolly

It's nice to actually think of yourself on your birthday, rather than just 'X's Mum'

What better day to think about numero uno and enjoy it!

PhaedraIsMyName · 29/12/2014 12:56

Of course not.

however · 29/12/2014 13:29

I have to sit apart from my kids often. Never bothered me, or them.

If I had the dosh I'd go business and they could go cattle. No question.

Bumbiscuits · 29/12/2014 13:33

A seat removed from your kid? Result.

Oceanpurple · 29/12/2014 13:37

Of course yanbu. Surely if dd was sitting with you then your dh would be by himself, so it's either or. Have a lovely holiday.

NickiFury · 29/12/2014 13:38

I wouldn't do it but I do actually like being with my kids especially on special occasions.

bigbluestars · 29/12/2014 13:39

I would always give my child the window seat, it is very interesting for them.

HoHoHappyHolidays · 29/12/2014 13:43

You go girl!!! Enjoy your R&R time!

Feellikescrooge · 29/12/2014 13:45

I am defo an evil mother then. For my 50th my 2dd( 17 and 21) 2 Sis and 2 DN( 18 and 20) all went to New York. At the check in they commented they would like to upgrade me but there was only one seat. I took it and it was lush!

Lottiedoubtie · 29/12/2014 13:50

I wouldn't do it but I do actually like being with my kids especially on special occasions.
Are we both reading the same OP? You like your kids so much you can't bear to be 60cm apart from them!?!? The OP isn't saying she won't chat to the child just that there's one seat between them.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 29/12/2014 13:50

What is odd about it? Either the child is one seat away from the mother, or one seat away from the father, or everyone is pointlessly cramped.

If the stewardess is really suggesting it's bad, then it's the sort of crap that leads to dads being expected to do nothing.

NickiFury · 29/12/2014 13:52

Yes we are reading the same thread lottie .

I didn't realise the only answer required was "you go girl!".

I wouldn't do it because I would want to sit and chat with my kids on my birthday.

bigbluestars · 29/12/2014 13:57

My kids like to snuggle up to me on a plane- we usually put the armrest up.
Planes can be cold, they are sometimes nervous, or like to hold my hand with excitement.
We like to look out of the window together and talk about what we can see.
It's all part of enjoying family time on a holiday.

NickiFury · 29/12/2014 13:59

I agree bigblue .

QTPie · 29/12/2014 14:01

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at the poster's request.

NurseRoscoe · 29/12/2014 14:05

God some people are really so critical! Do you actually sit and analyse every word written in order to concoct some snidey response for your own enjoyment?

Of course the OP isn't BU! She just wants some extra space, not to be surgically attached to her child for a couple of hours, not the worst parenting crime I've come across.

youarekiddingme · 29/12/2014 14:06

I'm assuming it's a 2/3/2 or 2/4/2 seating layout? So your DD could sit by you if she wished? And if you move then there would still be an aisle between you? And your DH is a fully functioning adult?
Then YANBU.

Number3cometome · 29/12/2014 14:06

NurseRoscoe

High five!! Common sense prevails

AwfulBeryl · 29/12/2014 14:07

I have done this, I had 2 empty seats next to me, one of the Dts sat on DPs lap, the other next to him. It was only for 30 mins to 1 hour, and they didn't need me because they had their Dad. I had a bit of quiet time to read a book on my kindle, it was fine, Dts are not in therapy because of it, nor were social services called just because they sat next to their Dad on a plane for a short period of time.

NurseRoscoe · 29/12/2014 14:09

If my son was crying for mummy when I was 60cm away from him I would ask him what he wanted me to do or say that couldn't be done from 60cm away and quite frankly to get a grip. I loathe the clingy stage kids go through. Luckily my kids finally know that when they want a cuddle they can simply ask for one.

winkywinkola · 29/12/2014 14:12

Oh my. The op isn't allowed about of time to herself. Ever.

For pity's sake.

NickiFury · 29/12/2014 14:12

Who is being critical? I've said I wouldn't do it and why. Maybe rules on who is allowed to post and how should be laid down in the OP?

I'm always surprised by the hypocrisy on these kinds of threads. If you do this it's "go girl, good for you!" If you say you wouldn't then your an obsessive martyr mummy. Not very supportive on either side I would say.

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