To be a bit sick of dp's sensitivity when it comes to his kids?

[BlanketBan]

The topic of dp's kids is a dangerous minefield that I could well explode myself in with the most innocent of comments. I'm finding it so tiring, it's like he waits for an excuse to jump to his kids defence whether they need it or not.

Some examples ...

Me "what's that thing you've bought on ebay for?"
Him "it's for my DS! Oh sorry I forgot I needed permission to spend anything on my lads!!"
Me "err no, I just wondered because we normally tell each other about stuff we've bought"
Him "oh Jesus! What a bastard I am!! I never realised you were with such a twat!!" [ok let's drop it eh!]

"That unused tv that is sat in dss's room (MY old tv! that nobody is currently using!) I'm going to swap it with ds's little tv so he has a bigger tv for his new xbox"
Him "oh for fucks sake!! Why does everything involve poaching off my kids??"
Me " it doesn't, it's not their tv, it has simply being put in their room and is unused, doesn't even have a plug in there!"
Him "non you can't just keep taking off my kids! I won't allow it! It's not fair!"
Me "it's an unused TV!!! It was never theirs to begin with and they don't want it anyway! Don't be ridiculous"
Him "no it's just shitting on my kids yet again!"

Him "we need candles"
Me "what for?" (Bearing in mind this was Boxing Day band we have a few christmas candles around, I assumed he meant yo replace one of these
Him "oh my god!!! What for!!?? Errr my sons birthday!!! Jesus, what for indeed!"
Me "you're going to sit and make a 19 year old man blow out candles? I assumed to meant christmas candles!"
Him "oh my poor lads! No wonder I need to protect them all the time, someone has to! What candles for fucks sake, only the poor lads birthday!"

Is it me?? It's fucking exhausting.

[FriendlyLadybird]

I've not read any of your previous threads so may be barking up the wrong tree, but, if your reporting is accurate, I think you both speak to each other in a very odd way for loving partners.

If you are not loving partners, then you should split up.

If you are loving partners, why not try conversing with each other rather than in the manner of an antagonistic interrogation? He does sound over-sensitive, but then you're not questioning him in a very gentle way, and your back is clearly up after his first reply.