To ask what the etiquette is when you can hear your neighbours shagging loudly through the walls?

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We live in a semi-detached house with very naice neighbours in a quiet street

They moved in about a year ago and we've had various drinks etc with them, take in parcels, get on well etc. However, we have a slight problem in that we have recently started to hear them shagging loudly through the wall.

On average, I would say that we hear them about three times a week. Only the wife and not just a little bit of noise but a LOT won't go into details for obvious reasons

It all probably seems quite funny but it's actually not, really. I am probably being incredibly precious but my 11 month old's room also shares the adjoining wall and we can hear noises in her bedroom - although not as badly as in ours - and I would really prefer for her not to be party to all of this. . In our room, we have to have the TV (yes, we are chavs) turned up to about 50 to try and drown it out, which is nearly deafening.

How do we approach this? Can we? The neighbours always appear a bit prim so the whole thing is potentially mortifying.

Met my new BF's next door neighbours once. "Oh" they said "you are X's new gf then? We've heard you."
Cue my blank look, and me saying helpfully and confused "you mean you've heard me?"
"No" NDN said, with a deathly state. "We've heard you".

I wanted to dieeee.

or maybe play that serge gainsberg song!

My friend lives in a semi. Her neighbour is a miserable cunt who emotionally abused his DW (we had no idea until recently when she moved out . He constantly complained about the noise her children made - mostly just children noises, odd tantrum and her DD playing piano. She never mentioned she could hear his 15yo DD and her Bf in DD room (which shared a wall with her DD) , until.......

He got cavity installation and she said oh so sweetly "is that so my dad doesn't have to listen to H and M having sex every night?"

Maybe you need some wall filler too?

I'd be wary of the 'recently'… This happened a few years ago with neighbours at our previous house: they suddenly started having very enthusiastic + vocal sex every night at around 2am and also 6am. It woke us (and toddler DS2) up every single time and was impossible to ignore. It had been going on for about a fortnight and we were just on the point of emailing the chap to mention it, when he came round to pick up a parcel we'd signed for and mentioned that he'd been out of the country on business for 2 weeks! Naughty GF. Funnily enough the noises stopped shortly thereafter (and we moved to a house with no human neighbours - now it's the shagging of foxes and pheasants that wakes us up ).

Downstairs neighbours do this. She is definitely faking I recently had a baby and a small part of me is rather gleeful that it will be us keeping them awake with the noise for a change (baby crying, not sex - won't be doing that ever again!!)

When Brown was Chancellor of the Exchequer, and Louise Botting was the first female financial journalist to make it high, and Cherie had recently sprogged, LB met Brown at some semi-social, semi-political function, which should have been the chance of a lifetime for her.

And she was well pissed off with herself when the first question which she thought of and blurted out was "What is it like with little Leo next door?".

And Brown said, with a deadpan face, "It was fine at first, but now it's screaming, screaming, screaming every night - and it's waking the baby!"

Can't believe folk seem to think kicking doors in and shouting expletives through walls is better behaviour than enjoying a bit of loud n' lairy carnal in your own homestead.

Unless it regularly goes on for hours in the middle of the night, surely you should accept that healthy couples have sex and get over it?

Is all perfectly natural... and not unusual, as we've heard. And as one poster upthread said, it really isn't going to corrupt your son.

I would massively object to being told to keep the noise down in my own home because my neighbours were overly precious about their little darling. In fact, I'm afraid I would ignore any such overture.

DISCLAIMER: I'm assuming we're talking 3/4 times weekly, pre-midnight / post 7am noises that don't go beyond an hour here...

Steely - no, this was night after night after night, at all hours, and as I said, I do lose sanity after a few weeks of only a few hours sleep here and there!