To ask what the etiquette is when you can hear your neighbours shagging loudly through the walls?

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We live in a semi-detached house with very naice neighbours in a quiet street

They moved in about a year ago and we've had various drinks etc with them, take in parcels, get on well etc. However, we have a slight problem in that we have recently started to hear them shagging loudly through the wall.

On average, I would say that we hear them about three times a week. Only the wife and not just a little bit of noise but a LOT won't go into details for obvious reasons

It all probably seems quite funny but it's actually not, really. I am probably being incredibly precious but my 11 month old's room also shares the adjoining wall and we can hear noises in her bedroom - although not as badly as in ours - and I would really prefer for her not to be party to all of this. . In our room, we have to have the TV (yes, we are chavs) turned up to about 50 to try and drown it out, which is nearly deafening.

How do we approach this? Can we? The neighbours always appear a bit prim so the whole thing is potentially mortifying.

Pipbin hahaha love it!

As long as the washing machine had a good time too, arf arf

kowabunga !!!

Love that rofl

I had a flat mate who had a very unpleasant boyfriend. He would be rude and hostile to me and the other members of the household.

To add insult to injury, the gruesome pair had amazing sex and the rest of us were treated to rhythmic grunting, wall shaking and moans every Sunday morning.

It was awkward when our parents visited.

Purchase a supply of stout broom handles for the purpose of banging on the wall and/or ceiling. When you eventually poke a hole through you may as well have a look and see if the visuals match the sound effects.

Otherwise remember, if you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

I think I'd be shouting scores in the style of the Olympic gymnastics: "9.8 for sound, 8.6 for rhythmic motion".

Greyhound I know it's so funny.

I might be more annoyed by it if it wasn't so hilarious.

This thread is like Viz Top Tips.

@ kowabunga

I told about this to DH. he said "3Ã? a week? lucky bastard!"

Are you disturbing them by falling asleep with your tv on? I only ask 'cos our neighbours do this and since we don't have a tv in our bedroom, we have moisy sex to disturb them so they wake up and turn it off.

moisy sex? noisy sex!

If the walls are thin between houses I would assume the walls in the house are thin so your son must hear you shagging as well as the neighbours. I doubt, at his age, that he will worry. Have you tried having some really loud sex shortly after your neighbours have finished, they might realise how much can be heard and even if it makes no difference to them it will be fun for you

When we were living in a student house we had a chap one year who's girlfriend would come down basically every. single. weekend. She was a full on screamer and would wake us mostly just me I am apparently a light sleeper every two hours during the night... We all out told them that we could hear them but it made little difference... I can only assume he's that good...

I'd like to do the applause, maybe some whooping when they'd finished or even shout out some scoring in a Euro song contest foreign accent style but would probably go for a note informing them that you can clearly hear them, as can your child. You know that it's embarrassing but this will never be spoken about in RL etc..
Good luck.

If you have the TV up that loud in response then the chances are they already know and either enjoy that fact or see you as the type to never complain so they can let rip.

I used to hear neighbours having sex and the vibrator going when he was away, walls were very thin so it didn't bother me. It did bother me when she got a new partner who used the words 'gorgeous cunt' very loudly, again and again.

Next time you see them say nothing but hand them an Ann Summers bag, I'll leave it to your imagination about what could be in the bag....

I used to bang on the wall with a shoe and tell them to Shut. The. Fuck.Up as loudly and aggressively as possible. Oh and whenever we (DH and I) walked past them in the street I'd say "Really Loud Sex" as we were passing. Seemed to do the trick.

Embarrassing them in to silence should work. If you know them well enough to speak to just look them straight in the eye and say "we can hear you having sex and we don't like it" Maintain the eye contact and prolonged silence....that should do it.

I have never experienced this (thank god) but if I did I would write them a note and put it through their letter box, I would be way too embarrassed to confront them.

Oh gosh, I am laughing so hard reading this! I am not too sure what I would do....but everyone here has really made me laugh! The wifi name change is hilarious.

I guess it all depends what kind of relationship you want to have with them after they found out that you know! I would probably do something along the lines of what MassaAttack suggests: a loud noise straight after they finish, so there can be no doubt that they can hear you (and therefore that you can hear them), yet it wouldn't be too embarrassing to speak to them again afterwards...

Please let us know what you end up doing!!

We can hear next showering or using the toilet macerator in their en-suites. Also wardrobe doors being opened and shut, plus cupboards being shut! Oh, and of course the TVs in their rooms!

How about recommending Mumsnet to her right now while this thread is trending? Surely no one could read this thread without mentally checking that it couldn't be them?

My dd nearly 11 told us she heard us snogging last night and she understands we want to snog but could we put a pillow behind the headboard an 11 month old baby won't bother tbh.
Sounds like they are having fun, maybe ear plugs.

I had this problem, I explained given my xh and I were separating I could do without listening to them shag/ keeping me awake from my newly single bedroom. It seemed to work.

Play "Like a Virgin." At full blast. On repeat.

I once punched a hole in my to my neighbours wall in student halls when she kept me awake one time too many, followed by kicking the door in, telling them to shut the fuck up or Id do something awful, and storming out! I'm not very sane when kept awake night after night after night!!