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to not have thanked someone for a present

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sparklebutt · 27/12/2014 18:58

Hi mumsnetters will try and keep this simple, basicly i wished everyone a merry christmas on my fb status and thanked the family members that got my 2 dds christmas presents then today i recieved a call of my bil saying that my sil wasent very happy as shed seen my status and id not put her name in the message thanking her even though shed not botherd with her nieces, bil said to sil well did you get your nieces anythink? Sil says well no but its not fair i should of been thanked to. Have i missed somethink was aibu?

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BuzzardBirdRoast · 27/12/2014 21:14

Ha ha, interesting first post Grin

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 27/12/2014 21:16

Might she have sent something that didn't arrive?

whitesandstorm · 27/12/2014 21:21

What does your dh think about this.

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sparklebutt · 27/12/2014 21:25

Hi sil told me herself that she had not got her nieces anythink but she does this every year so we are used to it although we still get her dd and ds presents, am just laughing now as she expected us to thank her on fb for presents she never got Grin

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GazpachoSoup · 27/12/2014 21:26

She wants you to thank her for a present she didn't give in the first place?! Confused
Eh? Confused. If that's the case she's bonkers. Ignore and post what you like.
If it was me though (I lurve Facebook) and if I got a comment on there saying that she wanted thanking and I hadn't received anything I'd want it clearing up.
I'd have to comment something along the lines of "sorry, haven't received any present, have you sent something?"
Just to see what she said. As with the Christmas post it could have been delayed. If she'd have said yes, she's sent something, then fair enough.
If she'd have said no, but she wanted thanking anyway for a none existing present I'd file her away under 'barking' and think no more of it!
Either way I'd have cleared it up! FB can be a minefield for misunderstandings!

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sparklebutt · 27/12/2014 21:26

My dh dident say much hes very mild mannerd

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KarmaViolet · 27/12/2014 21:27

At a guess SIL feels the Facebook message was pointed & that it wasn't meant to say thank you to the people who DID buy the DDs something but to highlight the meanness of those who didn't, because her absence from the thank yous makes it publicly obvious that she didn't.

Either way it's SIL who IBU.

GazpachoSoup · 27/12/2014 21:28

Hi sil told me herself that she had not got her nieces anythink

So what's she on about then? Ignore. She's obviously a mince pie short this Christmas.

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sparklebutt · 27/12/2014 21:29

Apparently bil said to sil have you got your nieces anythink, sil said no but she still expected thanking iv come to the conclusion shes barking

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ilovesooty · 27/12/2014 21:30

The whole thing sounds bizarre.

GazpachoSoup · 27/12/2014 21:30

At a guess SIL feels the Facebook message was pointed & that it wasn't meant to say thank you to the people who DID buy the DDs something but to highlight the meanness of those who didn't, because her absence from the thank yous makes it publicly obvious that she didn't.

Even though I'm a FB addict, that's one of the aspects I don't like. If that's the case, there's always some people who will read something into the most innocuous of posts!

SamCroClaus · 27/12/2014 21:33

I dont get the bit about a shed

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sparklebutt · 27/12/2014 21:35

Thanks everyone think i shall just put it down to sil being as said short of a mince pie, il be coming of fb it seems to cause the most stupid arguments

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sparklebutt · 27/12/2014 21:37

Spelling mistake! ??

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lemisscared · 27/12/2014 21:40

turn your auto correct on! Xmas Wink

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 27/12/2014 21:41

Can someone please explain to me,as I've never understood it,why do people write 'anythink' instead of 'anything' ?

BuzzardBirdRoast · 27/12/2014 22:04

Oh come on, TripTrap. With your UN, you should know better Grin

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 27/12/2014 22:07

LOL Buzz fair point Grin but still..

CalleighDoodle · 27/12/2014 22:59

Triptrap surely it is the result of daily pronunciation of words. Like when people write 'could of' because they say could've. Drives me mad.

Tinkerball · 27/12/2014 23:05

Haha so what exactly did she want thanked for?

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 27/12/2014 23:05

It probably is,but it drives me bonkers! I never know how people can go through life thinking it's 'anythink' Blush little bugbear of mine lol

Dropdeadfred2 · 27/12/2014 23:48

I couldn't leave this..I would have to say something to her

ASunnyTiger · 28/12/2014 08:16

Some people are crazy, my MIL actually did this over our wedding. We thanked everyone for coming on the day and then I wrote out individual thankyou cards to everyone who also got us a present. Despite her not actually giving us a present she was livid and had a huge go at us for not giving her a card.

CalleighDoodle · 28/12/2014 08:24

triptrap mine is 'alot'. It is a three letter word. How do people spell it wrong?!

Op btw i ageee with you.

HoHonutty · 28/12/2014 08:32

Your SIL is a stingy cow. She never got me anythink either.