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To think that a crutchless bodystocking is an awful present?!

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Mumfortoddler · 27/12/2014 12:03

I happened to peek over my boyfriends shoulder when he was ordering my christmas present, to my horror he has bought me a crutchless bodystocking. What is a reasonable reaction to have?
a) Fane affection for the said present
b) Express deep horror of being equipped with porn star style under garments erm, I am a size 12 and will look so hideous and unsexy in said underwear, and besides this is not my 'thang'.
c) Quickly shoe him out of the house before his child goes to bed, in the hope that I will delay the said present that is cringeworthy to another day, feigning prior evening engagements.
d) ANY other ideas? HELP!!!!! I have six hours to come up with a diplomatic solution.

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ZanyMobster · 05/01/2015 13:32

You sound very laid back about it all, is it a very new boyfriend?

Sounds extremely suspicious to me!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 05/01/2015 13:36

How long have you been with him?

Perhaps he bought some sex toys with the rest of his order?, ask him.

TheCowThatLaughs · 05/01/2015 13:40

That's a bit harsh Bogeyface!

WowserBowser · 05/01/2015 13:55

Is it your birthday soon? Sorry if you've said!

Bogeyface · 05/01/2015 14:08

Why is it harsh?!

He has suddenly changed behaviour, is guarding his phone with his life and there is a £50 spend on a sexy underwear site that hasnt been accounted for.

Fairly obvious whats going on I think......

TheCowThatLaughs · 05/01/2015 14:16

Sorry it was meant to be a joke about the op not looking good in the body stocking. A bit lame Blush

Bogeyface · 05/01/2015 14:30

Ah....got you!

TheCowThatLaughs · 05/01/2015 16:25

Told you it was lame!

PulpsNotFiction · 05/01/2015 16:50

Do you know for sure he spent £70?

Can you log on the website and check his order? Or see the order confirmation email?

pumpkinsweetie · 05/01/2015 17:11

Yes it isn't best present, but aside from my joke down thread, have you actually thought it's a compliment that he would like to see you wear this esemble?

I have a few netted type bits from Ann Summer's my Oh loves me wearing, i guess he fancies you, so it's all goodWink

BuzzardBird · 05/01/2015 17:12

My guess is he was ordering your Valentines gift as well so that he got the delivery paid. He would hardly order something for someone else in front of you?

pumpkinsweetie · 05/01/2015 17:13

Valentine's day maybe?

slugseatlettuce · 05/01/2015 17:18

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Thumbnutstwitchingonanopenfire · 05/01/2015 18:15

Ah yes, slugseatlettuce had the same thought as I did! I doubt the bodystocking was for you in the first place, but since you'd seen it, he had to give it to you.

Yes, I think he's having an affair.

Bogeyface · 05/01/2015 18:25

Its either an affair or its for him.

Being serious here, he wouldnt be the first man to have a penchant for dressing up in womens underwear. But the phone thing does point more towards an affair I'm afraid :(

InfinitySeven · 05/01/2015 18:27

It's possible that he ordered other stuff, but wanted to see how this went down?

Ask for his account details to look at the returns process and look at his previous orders.

CheeseBuster · 05/01/2015 18:31

Could he have ordered other stuff but not liked it and sent it back? Or ordered a few in different sizes/designs to pick one.

TiggyD · 05/01/2015 18:39

Hmmm. Forgot I modelled for that.

He might be trying to return something via the phone. I think the body stocking means he's probably settled for you.

babybarrister · 05/01/2015 18:39

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OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 05/01/2015 20:07

That site sells sex toys as well. Could have bought himself one. They make them for men now, you know.

Bogeyface · 05/01/2015 21:44

There are lots of plausible explanations for his spending on the site.

But what about his phone being glue to his side? What about him suddenly getting a lot of calls he wont answer when the OP is there? What about the OPs suspicions?

LuluJakey1 · 06/01/2015 21:19

Was that the entirety of your Christmas present? If so I'd tell him to fuck off and never darken your doorstep again.

Ok, as a joke gift perhaps but if that is the extent of his thinking about you, he does not take you seriously as a partner. Nothing thoughtful there.

brererabbit · 07/01/2015 07:38

Can't you ask him outright if he's having an affair? You seem to have enough doubts. How do you know he spent £70?
Also how old is his child? Surely it would be hard to keep an affair from a child if they are talking ect and child had met her too.
Really strange!

Original poster
Mumfortoddler · 07/01/2015 08:14

So folks...I asked him about the order from the site and it being more than he'd ordered for me, he said I was wrong and clearly just didn't see the right thing. I happen to disagree, as I saw him go through the order checkout, so basically he lied.

Anyway problem is resolved now, as I have left him! Not just because of this, he was really, really mean and intimidating to his seven year old daughter the other day when he stayed over, I went livid at him about it and at the same time as confronting him about his suspicious behaviour.

He got really defensive when I asked him about why he'd rejected taking certain calls around me, suddenly always had his phone on silent and had changed his pin on his phone- I had never checked his phone but sometimes we used his phone as a sat nav so I knew the pin. He said it was a debt management company- one of these so called calls was on Boxing day and at the weekend so to be frank I don't believe him, another at 9 in the evening. He decided that because I was raising all of this I must be looking for a reason to dump him.

We'd been going out 4 months, not an awfully long time (not time yet for bodystockings at all!), but to put it in context he was trying to convince me to move in together and was saying he wanted another child with me, get married etc. Clearly never going to happen with a temper like that on him.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 07/01/2015 08:14

How do you know he spent £70?