MIL threads. AIBU?

[chilephilly]

I feel as if I have read so many threads about MILs.
Christmas is a stressful time, no 2 ways about it.
BUT
I wish I had a MIL.
That's all.

I do too. I think about it all the time. It's not fucking fair.

For those who would like a MIL I can offer up my dad's. (My grandmother.)

My parents were due to marry straight out of university and she did not approve of the wedding so she phoned up the place that my dad was due to start his first job in 2 weeks after the wedding and told a pack of lies to try to get them not to employ him. In the hope that he would lose the job and she'd be able to persuade my mum not to marry him. (Just for the record he worked there for over 40 years until he retired and he and my mum have now been married for over 43 years.)

So roll up, roll up - who would like a MIL who actively tries to ruin your life????

Personally I get on fine with my MIL - she's a bit annoying sometimes when I stay with her / she stays with me but then so is my own mum!

Have my manipulative, clingy pain in the arse if you like!

My ex-MIL was awesome. She lived in a different country, didn't speak a word of English and was an excellent cook.

I don't miss my ex-husband but have fond memories of my kind, headscarf-wearing MIL

I certainly wouldn't want any future partner of my child to think of me, as I think of my MIL. But then I wouldn't behave as she does. For example, throwing DH out when his JSA ended, basically ignoring us for several years, then coming round so much after DD was born that DH and I nearly split up. Forcing the door open & damaging the pram than was behind it - at this point we started locking the doors full time. Spending so much cuddling DD when she was newborn that DH and I couldn't settle her ourselves. On the couple of occasions we told her that her (uninvited, impromptu) visits were not convenient, she and FIL threw an actual tantrum outside the door, then refused to speak to us for several days. She has chased the HV, my boss, and my family out of the house, all of whom were on planned visits & with whom I had specific issues I wanted to discuss. Ignoring me if DH or other people aren't there to witness it, and mocking my accent, and DD's, as it's different to MIL's accent. Giving DD age inappropriate & dangerous toys (eg wooden barbecue skewers for a newly walking 14 month old), then calling me precious when I walked in & freaked out when I saw what DD was holding as she tottered along.