To think there's absolutely nothing wring with a womsn having a bubble bath with her five year old ds?

[NatJon]

A group of friends were out for lunch earlier today to catch up before the holidays. There are four of us and we were just chatting about what we were getting up to tonight.

Friend A tells us her and her ds (aged 5) always have a lovely bubble bath together on Christmas eve, get into their new pjs, watch a Christmas movie and leave out milk and cookies and a carrot before going to bed.

Friend B pulls a face and says "is he not a bit old to be seeing his mum's tits?" and "some people might think its a bit dodgy having a bath with a child as old as your ds"

Friend A was quite upset as she has done this every year since her ds was a baby. I told her to pay no attention to B and asked him what he thought he was playing at. He just shrugged and said "well I think its weird"

Poor A.:( she's had such a hard time of it lately and is very sensitive at the moment. Aibu to think B was being a knob and there's nothing wrong with this? He has upset her unnecessarily.

my DD7 loves company in a bath..more often than not with her dad as mine are lobster hot. His are more temperate.

Nothing weird- just spending nice relaxing time with a parent.

Definitely not weird but friend B is!! My DCs are 8 and 6 and when they stay at my mums they often jump in the wet room with her when she has a shower. I would be more freaked out if people suggested there was something wrong with that.

There seems to be a lot of bath threads lately
Just saying

I find it weird but if people are comfortable with their own choices they're not going to be bothered by other peoples opinions. The poster above who has her nine year old massage her in the bath would be arrested if the sexes were reversed. That's beyond weird and into creepy territory.

I have to admit a lot of these cheerful posts saying how normal it is to be sharing a bath with a pre-teen have made me

Must be repressed and weird sexually.

Celeste

The pp massaged her child's back and legs with soap.

You have a very strange mind and did not read the post correctly.

Only people with sick minds could sexualise something as simple as a bath between parent and child.
Yes.
How sad it is that some parents think it shameful for their children to see their bodies.

This is much more common than i thought (thinking its weird or strange to bath with a child) i have a group of friends who i met at an nct group and out of a group of seven i am the only one who bathes with my baby! I was assuming they all did and only mentioned it quite casually, their faces said it all!

its not at all weird to have a bath with your prepubescent kids. I thought most people did occasionally

He sounds foul. Poor A.

Friend B pulls a face and says "is he not a bit old to be seeing his mum's tits?" hmm and "some people might think its a bit dodgy having a bath with a child as old as your ds"

I knew as soon as I read that, that B would be a man. He has only sexualised ideas about women's bodies, so sees this as inappropriate, almost like he sees it as a sexual thing, rather than a bonding thing, if that makes sense.

I bet he would hate to see his wife/partner breastfeed too!

My mum, dad, brothers, and I only stopped bathing together in any combination when we got too big to fit comfortably in the bath together. But then we were not taught that our bodies were shameful or dirty, or to think that nudity was an invitation to sex.

I'm genuinely sorry for anyone who thinks that is weird.

I think there is a significant area between 'naked people = sex' and 'at a certain point nakedness becomes inappropriate.'

haphazard There is, but not on Mumsnet.

Outside of bizarre relgious sects does anyone really teach their children " bodies were shameful or dirty, or to think that nudity was an invitation to sex " ? That line is always trotted out against anyone who prefers privacy in the bathroom.

my 4 year old loves sharing my bath - the water level is higher and he gets to pour water on my head to "help" me wash my hair. Not at all dodgy!

Bathed with both of mine on occasions until they were around 10. If DS was worried about something, it was the time he'd chat about it. They stopped when they no longer felt comfortable, which is exactly how it should be.

Not weird at all, her child is still young. If you grow up not being bothered by nudity, it does tend to mean little when older. My ex and his parents plus siblings used to all pile naked into their massive hot tub. They're German and it's not a big deal at all for them.