To think there's absolutely nothing wring with a womsn having a bubble bath with her five year old ds?

[NatJon]

A group of friends were out for lunch earlier today to catch up before the holidays. There are four of us and we were just chatting about what we were getting up to tonight.

Friend A tells us her and her ds (aged 5) always have a lovely bubble bath together on Christmas eve, get into their new pjs, watch a Christmas movie and leave out milk and cookies and a carrot before going to bed.

Friend B pulls a face and says "is he not a bit old to be seeing his mum's tits?" and "some people might think its a bit dodgy having a bath with a child as old as your ds"

Friend A was quite upset as she has done this every year since her ds was a baby. I told her to pay no attention to B and asked him what he thought he was playing at. He just shrugged and said "well I think its weird"

Poor A.:( she's had such a hard time of it lately and is very sensitive at the moment. Aibu to think B was being a knob and there's nothing wrong with this? He has upset her unnecessarily.

Unless I have a bath when everyone is out I always end up with my 7 year old son in with me! My 9 and 11 year olds would get in as well if there was room. They all see me naked and until it starts to bother them I don't see the problem.

I hope she can put his nasty comment out of her mind and enjoy her bubble bath with her son. It makes me so angry when people feel the need to make comments like this, she presumably wasn't asking his opinion.

Sounds perfectly all right to me. I would love a nice bubble bath with a nice woman. But as a middle-aged man my reasons are rather different !
Sorry to pervert the thread.

I emphasise, nothing wrong with this at all.

Friend B is a repressed idiot. I wish these people would keep their views to themselves.

WTF?! Nothing in the slightest wrong.

I bathe with my 4 yr old ds and my 2 yr old dd. I don't plan on stopping for years to come.

My 9 year old still tries to get in with me ... I'm trying to discourage it cos it's the only time I get 5 mins peace from his constant chatter (and he's got too big to fit in with me now, it's not that I'm fat at all, oh no!)

I bathed with my boys until they were about 4, after that they didn't want to any more. I bathe with my 2 year old DD and will continue to do so until she decides enough is enough (or I feel that she is actually getting to old for it)

My 9 year old boys are quite self conscious about their bodies now, but don't seem to be bothered by my nudity, I don't parade myself in front of them, but nor do I hide myself if they happen to walk in on me.

Nudity isn't an issue unless you make it one.
Obviously I will make more effort to cover up when I feel it is not appropriate in front of my boys, but for now I think it's actually healthy for them to see a womans body as it is, not as media portrays it.

Tell friend A that she has nothing to worry about and that Friend B was a plank!

Nothing wrong with it and saying it's 'dodgy' is actually a pretty horrible thing to say not surprised she feels upset.

Yanbu. I shared a bath all the time with my DS till he was nearly nine. He was getting ready to stop round about then but it was hurried along by a friend (childless) who made me feel that it was too old :-(

My two are teenagers. I have never shared a bath with either of them, ever. I don't think it occurred to me.

I am not sure I would have fancied a 5 year old Ds in the bath with me, it's not like they lie still or anything and wanted to make 'potions' out of all the shampoos.

I get invaded by DS 7 and DD 3 climbing in with me. The man sounds like he has ishoos!

Same in our house as artandco
almost daily, well actually daily, its extremely rare that me or DH get a bath to ourselves and even if DH does when kids are in bed I always sneak in with him! Our kids are ds(4) and dd(1)

Having seen mine wee in it and drink the water getting in would not be top of my Xmas to do list.

But I don't think its peado or weird like that! He's a loon.

I used to when my DS was that age- generally if I was going out and didn't have much time. Perfectly normal.

My son is younger at 15 months but he had a bath with me tonight, and I would not have a problem if he was 5 and we still did it. I don't see the big deal. We always saw our mum naked growing up, never thought anything of it.

What's so wrong with a pairs of boobs!

My DD is 7 and sees me naked and shares a bath sometimes. Shes a girl just like me and I dont want her to associate her body with sex and I dont want her to feel ashamed of her body.

I clicked on this with a sense of trepidation as I'm a single mother who still sometimes shares a bath with my 5 year old DS.

Phew! MN says it's fine

I usually bath with DS (4) and still walk around completely nude a lot. I'll probably need to stop that soon, but I'm not embarrassed about bodies.

Perfectly normal, healthy thing to do. We all have bodies, no point in pretending otherwise. Silly, repressed behaviour to be embarrassed about nudity with a 5 year old giving him weird ideas and sexualising his relationship with his mother.

My little nephew was only chattering this afternoon about his shower with daddy which seemed perfectly charming to me.

Only people with sick minds could sexualise something as simple as a bath between parent and child.

If I want a peaceful bath then I have to do it very quietly or when ds (aged 7yo) isn't around. He loves a bath with me.

When he was about 3yo I had a mat I wanted to rinse in cold water. So I put it in the bath and run a deep cold bath over it. As I turned round this naked body came flying in, shedding the clothes as he ran and was only stopped by the merest fraction from throwing himself into what he thought was a lavely warm bath with me.