To refuse to take back this present for Mil..

[honeypie10]

In september mil told me she wanted to buy ds a tablet (he's 2). I told her she can buy him what he likes but he may not appreciate something like that till nexy year or year after - thinking she meant along the lines of a leap pad type one.

The weekend later Dp visits and tell me when he got home shes gone and bought him a samsung one from toys r us (we have a samsung one already, she knows this yet still got another anyway) I wouldn't have bought him a tablet at all myself, dp feels the same, so anyway dp says it would be better to change it to a more age appropriate one, I even offered as i was going past the store the same weekend, she said shed lost the receipt so she would go herself and explain she needed to change it we showed her the type to get on the website but Mil is of the generation where she is terrified to take things back, my dads the same.

I've just come home from their house and they were talking about christmas and what father christmas was going to bring ds, he's obviously a bit young so hasnt really got a clue whats going on, then she announces what she plans to do is to put wrap it up to give him something on christmas day but will give me the receipt so I can take it back. This was the first we knew, she's had 3 months to take a 15 minute drive into town and swap the thing that we didnt even want in the first place.

I told her if thats what she planned dont even give it to him in the first place, as soon as he sees it he will want it, so just don't give him it until shes swapped it, she seems to think as I offered 3 months ago that offer is still open... Dp thinks im being a bit mean and said she just struggles taking things back, but I dont see why I should. aibu? I cant see how I am.

Unfortunately though damn bamboo that's not always the case. We have parental controls on at the moment.

Mine likes to play with google and speak into it, his favourite game is called balloon smasher, you pop them all over the place and they burst, at 2 he loves the noise. While searching for that even with parental controls set high, on the first page the amount of "big bouncy balloons" "See helen's Balloons and watch her get wet" was disgusting!

To get off the game you have to press the small x in the corner - the right hand corner, he doesn't know the difference so presses the 1 at the bottom, that takes him to a whole new page showing women in just knickers on some dating site. The only option to stop this is to turn the wi fi off, but then he cant play anything. And that is why we thought a Leap pad would be better for him, basic games, apps and a camera, all the things he loves to use without the hassle of us watching him every single second to see what he's on.

And as I've said it before and its not been picked up on, I did not say to Mil that's the wrong one, wail and cry and throw myself on the floor! We had a free toys r us leaflet come through the door while she was visiting. she pointed to it and said would that be ok for Christmas, I was a bit (tablet for a 2 yr old thing still irks me a bit). But said yes, buy him whatever you want. At this point she had pointed to a leap pad type device with games/apps and a camera - This he would love, taking pics is his fave thing.

When she actually showed me it I just said that's not the that was in the magazine you know, and then she realised she'd been looking at the leap pad one but accidentally picked up the other box, both the same price. Its never been an issue of her not being allowed to buy him a tablet (yes id rather she didn't, but I've not said that to her, despite what some people think I do have manners and would never say this to anyone wanting to buy ds a present).

And just to put this to bed, dp took her back to the store yesterday, they agreed to give her a store card to use in the next 3 months, so she bought a stronger case for the tablet we have now and is going to take ds herself so she can pick something he plays with in the shop. She decided this herself,before i get tons of messages saying how horrible we are forcing her into the car and holding a gun to her head making her take it back.

You do not have your parental controls set properly if that's what popped up!
I can assure you.

In fact many ISPs now (BT being one) force you to opt in (rather than opt out) of allowing pornographic content to be displayed. That shouldn't have happened, and if you set them up properly it won't again.