Aibu Christmas stockings

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First time poster Aibu thinking gps shouldn't do Christmas stockings and expect the gc to open them before Christmas?

Mehitabel6 Say NO and the problem's solved to, and with a lot less hassle for the next 10 years of christmas's.

As Santa doesn't actually exist said Funky

Sod off (in the nicest possible MN way, of course).

Sod off (in the nicest possible MN way, of course).

Yes, indeed.

YABU.

Yes the GPs had their turn at bringing up kids, but those kids were either you or your DH. How about a bit of pay back for all the Christmases they provided you ( or DH) with as children?

My mum is bringing the kids presents over on Christmas Eve and I've said they can open them in front of her as they won't see her on the day. I can guarantee this won't take the shine off their faces on christmas morning and it's a kind of thank you to my Mum who always gave us magical Christmases as children.

One day your parents won't be there at Christmas and you will be sad.

YANBU.

I'm a firm believer in the "they've had their turn" thing.

My dad died this year and I'm sad he won't be here at Christmas.

Still doesn't mean I think grandparents shouldn't have to respect boundaries.

YANBU.

Santa leaves the stockings to be opened on Christmas Day.

Are they this interfering and controlling in other areas OP? What would happen if you said you wanted to spend Christmas Day just you, DH and DC?

I would start muttering about spending Christmas in the Caribbean next year if they kick of about it.

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*Are they this interfering and controlling in other areas OP? What would happen if you said you wanted to spend Christmas Day just you, DH and DC?

I would start muttering about spending Christmas in the Caribbean next year if they kick of about it.*

How mean! These are loving parents and grandparents, not villains or criminals!

Oh Dear Miss B has someone left you out of their Christmas plans this year?

Most young families I know like to star their own family traditions and like to spend Christmas Day with their own nucelar family. The relationships and AIBU boards are littered with posters who feel bullied into spending Christmas with extended family they don't want to be with.

This OP may indeed have lovely PILS which is why I asked the question. Sadly many are not.

No Little Donkey, My kids are still at primary. I just thinks its mean to treat GPs like the enemy who must be stopped.

i couldn't get worked about this at all. They want a bit of special time with their grandchildren and it won't spoil things for Christmas morning. Might even become a special Christmas memory for your dc in years to come.

I suspect the OPS PILS did not have to suffer interfering GPS who told them how/when/where to give their DC stocking presents.

Some PILS just do not care know where the boundary line is, and need to be fucking told gently guided and advised that their time as matriarch/patriarch is OVER

I understand about difficult GPs who try and take over, but in this case, the GPs bought Christmas Stockings, they didn't insist on everyone travelling to Scotland every year for Christmas morning or anything.

You only need one stocking tho- which is traditionally left Xmas Eve and opened Xmas morning.

What's the point in having two- other than to pacify overbearing grandparents? It just takes the magic away from the "real" one.

Are they your parents or DH? Did they let you/DH open gifts from other relatives before Christmas morning? I'm willing to bet they didn't!

YANBU, and I'm surprised at all those saying you are. Why should you give in if its not how you want to do things? If people want to see your children open the gifts they've bought for them, they can come and see you on Christmas Day with their gifts. No way would my children be opening gifts before Christmas.

Say no. Your children, your family christmas, your decision.

Why don't you make it like a 'Grandparent Stocking' tradition so it's clear that the gifts are from relatives without spoiling the illusion of Santa?Whatever your reasons are for not wanting the kids the open presents before Christmas - explain them to the grandparents. It's your house, they're your children, so it's up to you and your partner when presents should be opened. x

This really is such a non issue. I dislike the whole attitude of parents being the only ones who can make choices for their children. Sometimes people need to put aside their own tunnel vision of what Christmas 'should' be and see the wider picture. This has the makings of a very lovely Christmas tradition between DCs and GPs. The overall impression I get from the OPs comments are that it will mess with what she feels she wants, not what the DCs will enjoy. This doesn't need to be a situation where pulling rank overrides all.

TidyDancer It's also an entirely non-issue if the parents say no, and given that their imposing a load of hassle on the parents, then it's perfectly reasonable to do so.

Not seeing a load of hassle imposed on the parents at all, Fred. That's not what the OP has said the issue is.

Can't two stockings just be explained away by Santa having TWO legs?

i tell you what is embarrassing. i am in my late twenties and get THREE stockings

one from dp, one from my parents, and one from dp's parents (he gets the same)

we are very spoilt! but there are no grandchildren yet

What about St Nicholas day stockings?

I wish we had thrm as well as xmas ones!

"This has the makings of a very lovely Christmas tradition between DCs and GPs."

No it doesn't. It has the makings of an overbearing grandparent who can't bear to not be the star of the show.

There are so many other things GPs can do if they demand want to create their own traditions.

Making up a stocking and giving it to the child before they get their real one on Xmas day is a bit pathetic.

Yanbu!
Father Christmas fills stocking on Christmas Eve. Grandparents might get to contribute a couple of things but it's parents job to make sure they are filled. Stockings aren't just a means of presenting a bunch of gifts! And of course gifts wait til Christmas Day, that's obvious surely!
They are being pains.