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To be irrationally annoyed that my child wasn't Mary

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TheSkiingGardener · 19/12/2014 18:48

It was a lovely Nativity, but I still can't shake this mildly miffed feeling that they weren't chosen to be Mary.

I have a son.

That's pretty precious isn't it.

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WorraLiberty · 19/12/2014 18:50

Yes Xmas Grin

VanitasVanitatum · 19/12/2014 18:52

YANBU. Discrimination.

LadyLuck10 · 19/12/2014 18:53

Yes, ridiculous to even think a boy should be Mary. You are taking the whole boy/girl issue way over the top.

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TheSkiingGardener · 19/12/2014 18:54

Hadn't thought of that. I shall engage a lawyer.

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Boomtownsurprise · 19/12/2014 18:55

It's ok. My dd was last year. I'm still secretly miffed she's not this year. Seriously best performance I've ever seen as Mary. How they overlooked a reprise I can't imagine. No talent in that stage team plainly... (Yes I'm joking.) Xmas Grin

TheBookofRuth · 19/12/2014 18:56

I am miffed by the fact that, as evidenced by DD's first nativity, Mary still goes to the blue eyed blonde.

My DD made a beautiful angel, but with her dark eyes, brown hair and olive complexion, she would have made a far more authentic Mary than the Goldilocks they cast.

CocobearSqueeze · 19/12/2014 18:57

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Chippednailvarnish · 19/12/2014 19:21

My DD was the Christmas pudding. I'm disappointed that she didn't have more than one solo.

Babiecakes11 · 19/12/2014 19:27

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OneStepCloser · 19/12/2014 19:46

My son played the triangle, but I have to say he played it better than anyone else and does appear to have musical talent which I shall naturally be nurturing. Grin

Glittery7 · 19/12/2014 19:49

The girl cast as Mary at our DD's school was also blonde. She was crap and forgot most of her few lines.

Glittery7 · 19/12/2014 19:50

To add its a multicultural school. Why a blonde (rubbish) child?

SunnaClausIsComingToTown · 19/12/2014 19:52

Mary always goes to a girl with dark hair in these parts.

I all my years of teaching and parenting, I've never seen a blonde Mary.

JuniperTisane · 19/12/2014 19:53

Ds was a shepherd. He sang very much louder than all the other children, and also joined in with all the other songs and did an littlr impromptu dance too. Our Mary was dark haired and dark eyed and loked daggers at him as he shoehorned his voice into her song Xmas Grin

Glittery7 · 19/12/2014 19:56

Really? I was surprised to see a blonde Mary chosen in a SE London primary school which boasts over 200 languages spoken by the pupils.

Even more surprised that she fluffed almost all of her lines. She was good at walking round holding the doll though.

TooHasty · 19/12/2014 19:59

When my DD was Mary there was a very hands-on Joseph who wouldn't even let her have a hold of the baby Jesus!

TooHasty · 19/12/2014 20:00

Our school always pick the eldest Y2 girl to be Mary and the eldest Y2 boy to be Joseph.I don't know what they'll do next year as (if no one else joins the school) there will be twin Marys

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 19/12/2014 20:01

My DD was Mary, with her gorgeous brown locks and deep brown eyes Grin .
However there were no lines to fluff for her. It was more of a carol concert, DD just got to parade around with Joseph and Donkey during one song then sit down next to the manger.
But she was so thrilled to be Mary, as it is usually the cute little blonde girls, not the tall brunettes with teeth missing (due to age not fighting I promise!).

3littlebadgers · 19/12/2014 20:06

Same here! Our london school has a majority of international children. Yet all of the Angels and Mary were made up of the minority blonde hair, blue eyed cohort. To be fair, mary had a great pair of lungs on her, so I'm not quite sure another child could have pulled it off quite as well. However, when a five year old child says 'shepherds have brown hair and Angels have yellow' you get a little worried!

Bulbasaur · 19/12/2014 20:06

This is blatant sexism. Make sure you get DS's best sad face to send to the Daily Mail. Grin

peasandlove · 19/12/2014 20:07

Lol such a first world problem. My dd was Mary at her daycare nativity a couple years ago. I thought it was hilarious

FlappertyFlippers · 19/12/2014 20:09

I was hugely disappointed that the cast was made up of actual characters from the nativity (Mary, Joseph, wise men, shepherds, inn keepers, etc). I had been led to believe that a modern nativity was more exotic and contains several octopus octopi ?, a turkey and a kid dressed as a tree.

HollyJollyXmas · 19/12/2014 20:11

Haha. I always thought competitive Nativity madness was something that would never, ever happen to me.

This year DD's school did a play with Santa Claus and Rudolph as the stars. DD was cast as one of a bunch of narrators AGAIN. No probs. Whatevs. Etcetera...

Then Rudolph fell ill and DD was called in as replacement and I punched the air. This is the start isnt it? I'm going to turn into a pushy showbiz mum Grin

chirrza · 19/12/2014 20:17

I'm guessing you're in the early stages of this.

You get used to it.

Mine has not had a single line to say ever in a play and she's now 9.

It's always the same ones.

Get used to getting your tree/flame/snowflake outfits together.

The good thing is - it means nothing in the long-term. I know because I have much older siblings whose dc, despite not being Mary or anything much more than a tree, turned out pretty well.

Andrewofgg · 19/12/2014 20:19

It's beginning to feel a lot like Christmas . . .