There are some of us that would gladly spend a day doing the washing by hand if we didn't have to go out to work 5 days a week and send our children to strangers before and after school just to pay the rent/mortgage.
That is a choice, not a necessity. We all get to choose where we wish to live, what we wish to do, how we wish to earn our money, and what we wish to spend it on.
There is a very different pressure involved in going to work, having 'performance assessments' every few months, having to make yourself look presentable each day, behave nicely all day, and be polite to people you really can't stand
Again, that is a free choice. If you do that, you do so because you choose to do so. There is no obligation to do any of those things. Many people earn very fine amounts of money doing whatever takes their fancy, and many others choose to do nothing at all, or very little. You choose, and you do so with far greater freedom and access to resources than at any other time in history.
Than there is being at home, and having a good old swear to yourself when the mangle cracks your buttons or you burn your arm, and not having to put on a face for 'people at work' when things are too much at home as well as work.
So do that. What is stopping you? Choose what you wish to do, how you wish to live your life, how you wish to raise you children, and how much effort you are willing to put into is, and do it. Clearly sitting on the fence and looking at how you want life to be is making you unhappy. Not being willing to, or not being able to, recognise the opportunities this world affords you, that previous generations only dreamed about (and created for us) is no excuse for denying that they actually exist, or blaming a previous generation for not taking full advantage of them.