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To ask if you have ever been to a wedding where someone was "jilted"

105 replies

Mammanat222 · 15/12/2014 10:48

Was talking to MIL yesterday and she said she has been to 3 where this has happened.

One was a classic jilt - the bride didn't turn up, the other two there were issues at the ceremony. Fight between bride and groom at one ceremony and bride leaving another ceremony.

Seriously - 3??? Shock

Although she did say in her lifetime she has been to well over 100 weddings (receptions, she has been to less ceremonies)

It got me thinking that it can't be that uncommon?

Has anyone been to a wedding where this has happened?

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Marylou2 · 15/12/2014 19:35

My poor DD has been asked to be a bridesmaid twice and both couples have called it off before the big day. There were tears after the first one but when it happened a second time we found it pretty hilarious (bit mean). Perhaps 3rd time lucky?

Stormingateacup · 15/12/2014 19:35

I've posted this before but I know of a bride who on her hen night and met a stag who was on his stag night. They got together and both called off their respective weddings.

EatShitDerek · 15/12/2014 19:40

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Redglitter · 15/12/2014 19:45

A friend of mine went to an engagement party with her fiance(one of his friends got engaged) a few weeks before their wedding. within a week both engagements were off & she cancelled her wedding. She & her fiances (former) friend are very happily married now and have 4 gorgeous children. A nightmare for everyone at the time and it cost her a fortune but she knew it was the right thing to do

HeraldAngelSinging · 15/12/2014 19:49

SixToesLeft

Dear Lord! You would have cause to at least complain and if that got yu nowhere, sue for distress (if that's allowed).

HeraldAngelSinging · 15/12/2014 19:50

*you

Archangelfarchnad · 15/12/2014 19:50

My mum's wedding to her fiance (a soldier based in New Zealand, they were due to emigrate straight after the wedding) was cancelled a week or two beforehand in 1959 when it was discovered he was a wrong'un - he nicked money from his family and ran off to London. My mum ran off to join him, but her dad called the military police to come and fetch her back (which they did, although she was legally an adult). Two years later she met and married my dad. It was like a different world, then.

JoffreyBaratheon · 15/12/2014 20:16

My husband asked this q to a friend who used to be a wedding photographer. He said he had been to weddings beyond count where someone wasn't jilted but they'd go through with it, then dump them after a rousing speech at the reception. He said it happened a lot. Usually, he said, it was about the bride or groom being a bit of a shagger in the run up to the Big Day.

I have a friend who told me her first wedding - a huge, elaborate horribly expensive one and that in the 1980s when such weddings were uncommon - she got in the carriage with her dad (yes, carriage! My wedding cost me the price of the licence and a few sarnies) he could see from her face she didn't want to go through with it. But the wedding had cost thousands (she is very posh) and her mother was all excited about her marrying Mr Darcy or whoever Husband # 1 was - and she felt honour bound to go through with it. It was a miserable marriage.

MaitlandGirl · 15/12/2014 20:23

My exH disappeared the week before our wedding leaving me a note saying he couldn't go through with it. I was only 19 and 5mths pregnant :(

I had to make a phone call to his ex girlfriend to see if she knew where he might have gone and get the police involved as the note made it sound as if he was going to kill himself.

He came back and we did get married, but his work friends didn't turn up as he'd told them the week before he left that the wedding was cancelled.

I desperately wanted to call off the wedding, right up until I said my vows, but I was too scared to back out as I didn't want to be a single teenage mum.

We had a miserable marriage (would have been much better off as friends) and eventually split up 9 years later.

He's since married again, but had to postpone his first wedding date as we weren't divorced. His mum called me to tell me he'd set the date and I had to call the registrar explaining he didn't have a decree nici at that stage so he wouldn't be free to marry in 4weeks time. He'd told the registrar he was a bachelor!!!

He eventually managed to get married at 12pm on a Friday after I pushed the decree absolute through the courts just before closing on the Thursday!! I shouldn't have done as he screwed me over financially but I couldn't let his new bride have her wedding messed up again.

I'm now very happily living with my DP in Australia with 3 kids from my marriage to 'the idiot' but I do t totally regret not cancelling the wedding but fear and teenage pg hormones were a lot to overcome (and a very catholic mother!!)

Namechangeragain1234 · 15/12/2014 21:22

My dad was jilted before I was born!

He was due to marry his next door neighbour that he had got pregnant or so he thought when he was around 17/18

It wasn't on the day but sometime in the lead up to the wedding at around 7 months pregnant she admitted my dad wasn't the father, it was actually a African man and the baby was going to be mixed race!

unclerory · 15/12/2014 21:31

I've not been at a wedding where someone was jilted but I was at a wedding where the bride got very very drunk (completely out of character) and they split 6 months later. No-one else involved, her parents prized marriage above any of her career achievements (she was very highflying) and I think she went ahead with it even though she shouldn't have to gain some approval from her parents. Thankfully she went on to marry a lovely bloke a few years later.

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 15/12/2014 21:37

I know someone who didn't make it through the whole honeymoon and went back to her parents.

I don't know if he was an arse (she of course says he was) but they were obviously not right together and she is now happily married to someone else.

jamdonut · 15/12/2014 22:12

I think over 100 weddings is a lot to have been to! I'm 50 and have only ever been to about 10, and 2 of those were my parents re-marrying!

The last wedding was 5 years ago when our niece got married.

mummytowillow · 15/12/2014 22:50

Not jilted but my best friend met someone mid December one year, he proposed on New Years Eve after knowing each other for two weeks.

They married 8 months later, night before wedding I could tell she didn't want to go through with it.

Both her dad and I said she didn't have to, but she did!

They slept in separate beds on honeymoon, and she moved to the sofa the day they got back. He moved out weeks later Shock

BackforGood · 15/12/2014 22:54

Really jamdonut - don't you know many people ? Grin

vivideye · 15/12/2014 23:52

I went out with a man who'd been jilted a couple of weeks before his wedding (if that can still be described as jilting). It had been 5 years ago but he wasn't really over her. He dumped me after a couple of months, claiming he was 'broken on the inside' whatever that's supposed to mean. Anyhow, turns out they got back together a few months after we broke up, after 5 years of no contact whatsoever, once she'd been dumped by the man she started seeing when she left him. As far as I'm aware, they are still together and I've got to say I'm grateful to be well shot of him: I like a man with self-respect.

Darkandstormynight · 16/12/2014 00:42

Not right at the wedding, but less than two weeks before. One bride I knew from work and her friend also from work was a Bridesmaid. He called it off a week before.

The Ex-bridesmaid also had it happen to Her two weeks before the wedding She was jilted. The really odd thing was that another women we worked with was supposed to be in Both weddings!

First jilted bride never married. She was a natural beauty but her personality just put off grooms. She had taken to date only married men where she'd always have an excuse if a man dropped her (excuse:wife).

Second jilted bride married 5 years later only to have Dh cheat on her twice, they had with two young children.

She was absolutely gorgeous too, not that it matters really.

musicalendorphins2 · 16/12/2014 03:02

Sort of. I wasn't there, but my mom and stepdad went to my uncles wedding. He and his wife-to-be both arrived drunk and had an argument and called the wedding off. They married a month later.

TeenageWildlife · 16/12/2014 03:49

Long before I was born,a cousin of my mother's was a young bride who had a heart attack and died right in the middle of her own wedding.

Somehow the story caused roars of laughter amongst us children....

AcrossthePond55 · 16/12/2014 04:10

Not exactly jilted at the altar, but a former friend used me to broadcast that she was canceling her wedding. I had organized and sent invites for her bridal shower. About 2 days before the shower her mother called me to let me know my friend was calling off the wedding and that I'd need to call the shower guests and let them know that the shower (and obviously the wedding) was cancelled, but refused to give me a reason or let me talk to my friend. I made two or so calls and got the 3rd degree each time and ended up calling my friend's mother back and said that I wasn't going to field all these questions for her and that she could call everyone and explain. My friend later admitted that she knew she was going to cancel the wedding and didn't want to have to deal with the fallout, so decided to let me take the heat for her.

Turns out she was cheating on her fiancé. At least she had the good grace not to marry him.

DuchessDisaster · 16/12/2014 07:44

My oldest friend called off her big, cathedral wedding about 5 weeks beforehand. She did marry a few years later, same cathedral, cast of thousands etc. but has now been divorced for some years.
My oldest schoolfriend was caught up in a whirlwind romance with someone she met when crewing at Cowes one year. Date set for the following year. It was only when I rang to ask if she'd sent the invitations that she told me it was all off. Chap in question "couldn't commit". I think she had a lucky escape, but she has never married :-(
I have been at a wedding reception and whitnessed the moment the groom fell in love with one of the guests, a colleague of his. They are both psychologists (so you would think they'd be a bit more clued up). It was a bit messy, but he and the colleague got together and had a family.
An ex-boyfriend of mine was engaged twice, each time he bunked off to Australia before the wedding. Very glad I had no matrimonial intentions there!

GreatAuntDinah · 16/12/2014 08:15

I've told this here before and elsewhere, but after my ex left for OW he jilted her not once but twice, once a week or so before the wedding, then a couple of months later on the day itself. He eventually went through with it the third time, about ten days later. He was mad, she was desperate.

CakeAndWineAreAFoodGroup · 16/12/2014 09:27

Good lord. I've only been to 5 weddings including my own.

Some of these tales do sound a bit urban legend though. Great reading Grin

Oh and the book I was reading last night had a jilting at the altar. That was fun too.

306235388 · 16/12/2014 09:56

A close colleague of mine was getting married on the same day as me and also lived just round the corner. Her fiancé called the wedding off with days to go. Obviously I still went on to get married and go on honeymoon when she should've been on hers too. She was so lovely too, it was horrible.

A wedding we went to this year saw the bride and groom have a blazing row and each storm off in different directions. Even though I was 'just' a guest and friend of the brides I was left to separately talk to them and convince them back to the table where everyone was waiting for the speeches. It has never been mentioned.

LoafersOrLouboutins · 16/12/2014 23:42

YES! I know of when which happened 25 years ago. A former colleague was jilted by her fiancé on the day. He didn't turn up to the church and she ran out in tears. She was too embarrassed to see any of her own family or friends so just walked along in her wedding dress before stopping at a river in tears. An elderly couple started talking to her an invited her to their Shabbat dinner that night as they felt so sorry for her and said their son worked at the same hospital as her. She went to the dinner (she isn't Jewish, it was her first Shabbat dinner) and was introduced to the son. They worked in the same hospital but had never met. 3 weeks later she went on the honeymoon she should have been on with her ex-fiancée but took Mr Shabbat dinner who works in the same hospital instead. Try get married 4 months later!!! They have since divorced but had three daughters together and remain friends. Like somethig from Take a Break magazine but it happened to my colleague. And she changed into the elderly lady's clothes when she got to their house Grin

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