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To ask if you have ever been to a wedding where someone was "jilted"

105 replies

Mammanat222 · 15/12/2014 10:48

Was talking to MIL yesterday and she said she has been to 3 where this has happened.

One was a classic jilt - the bride didn't turn up, the other two there were issues at the ceremony. Fight between bride and groom at one ceremony and bride leaving another ceremony.

Seriously - 3??? Shock

Although she did say in her lifetime she has been to well over 100 weddings (receptions, she has been to less ceremonies)

It got me thinking that it can't be that uncommon?

Has anyone been to a wedding where this has happened?

OP posts:
muffinmonster · 15/12/2014 14:06

Should have said the dinner was with the jilted bride.

PoirotsMoustache · 15/12/2014 14:08

SuperFlyHigh, Fanfeckintastic said that her friend got divorced this year.

SuperFlyHigh · 15/12/2014 14:30

poirots ha I missed that!

Fanfeckintastic · 15/12/2014 15:51

Yeah she got divorced this year, but I am off topic as this is about jilting and this was the opposite. He treated her horribly straight after they got married though and demanded money and blackmailed her etc.

MmeGuillotine · 15/12/2014 15:52

I was once jilted (and made homeless in the process) two weeks before my wedding day and a few weeks after having a miscarriage. It was totally humiliating and awful.

However, it turned out that my fiancé was an absolutely dreadful person and had apparently been cheating on me with several people behind my back so it was actually a really good thing! I got together with my husband a couple of months afterwards and we've been together for eleven years now. :)

LoisHatesChristmas · 15/12/2014 15:54

I've never been to or even heard of a wedding being called off in my circles but I've lost count of the number who have split within months of the big day.

MonstrousRatbag · 15/12/2014 15:54

Yay, MmeGuillotine, I do love a happy ending!

TerraNovice · 15/12/2014 16:16

A work colleague jilted her fiancé practically at the alter because it turned out she'd cheated on him by, wait for it, shagging the vicar who was marrying them! It was like something out of Chat or Take a Break magazine!

MushroomTree · 15/12/2014 16:24

My Uncle went to a wedding, he was a friend of the groom's, where the bride left the groom at the reception for one of the wedding guests.

Apparently she stood up in front of the guests and told them she'd only married the groom for his money and was leaving him for the guest who she'd been having an affair with for months.

She'd planned the whole thing!

FruVikingessOla · 15/12/2014 16:44

No.

But I heard about an ex-colleague who'd called it off about two days before the wedding. Apparently she'd met someone through work, in the preceding week to the wedding, and decided not to go through with it. She eventually married the guy she'd met - sadly that marriage ended in divorce.

stinkingbishop · 15/12/2014 16:50

No, but I soooooo wish I had myself. Would have saved years, and thousands, and so much sadness, and my dignity and pride!!

I always take care now - probably too much so! - to talk to everyone the week before their wedding and make sure they realise this IS a rollercoaster they can get off, at any time, and people will only think better of them.

Foggymist · 15/12/2014 17:06

We were invited to a wedding of one of my husband's cousins, in a beautiful castle, one of the most fancy (and expensive) venues around. The wedding was called off the night before because the groom was rushed to hospital with chest pains. Turned out to be the stress of the wedding planning, they were hoping he would be discharged by morning but nope, he had to stay in hospital for over a week I think. So the whole thing was called off far too late for anything to be cancelled or to get any refunds.

They married the following year in a small wedding abroad. Must've been difficult to go through it all again knowing how much time and effort you had already lost on the first one!

granny24 · 15/12/2014 17:09

DH has just reminded me of uni friend of his who married a very beautful girl. Nationality rules we very different and she was notBritish. She did a bunk from the reception and he has never heard from her again. Sadly he is still living with his mum and has never had a single date.

Leviticus · 15/12/2014 17:10

My lovely friend was dumped by her fiancé a few weeks before the wedding, just after her parents had paid thousands.

He moved in with the OW, told her it was all her fault for neglecting his needs following the birth of their child 18 months before.

She took him back.

I still hate the cunt.

PickledPorcupine · 15/12/2014 17:12

Yikes juliejools, good on you for going on your honeymoon

Besta · 15/12/2014 17:17

I know a girl who married and went on honeymoon. While they were travelling to the destination the groom said "remind me I have something to tell you when we get back".
The bride thought he meant something like getting a new car or trying for a baby.
When they got back, he told her he never really wanted to marry her anyway and that she had to leave.

SixToesLeft · 15/12/2014 17:24

When I turned up at the door of the church the Church Secretary calmly told me that me fiance was not there, and was not coming.

I felt my world falling away, my knees collapsed, and I thought I was going to pass out.

"Only joking!' he said.

He was, and still is a cunt for doing that to me.

WildFlowersAttractBees · 15/12/2014 17:26

Alisvolatpropiis that is tragic.

A I have never been to a jilting but I have been to a wedding that happened on the Saturday and lawyers were involved by the Monday lunch time!
It turned out the groom was not only having an affair with the bridesmaid he was also sleeping with one of the groomsmen!!! Shock
A mate of his got drunk and told a 'few close friends' at the reception and it got back to the brides godfather at the bar. He punched the groom and you can imagine the rest.

Nomama · 15/12/2014 17:49

Well, one of my favourite people to hate was a bitch to quite a few men. We were just talking about her last night as her now 18 year old daughter has been dumped by the love of her life and is living life as a squished blancmange (6 months and counting) and said bitch mother is trying to destroy the bastard what done it - losing him his job, his friends etc.

We remembered the man she jilted the morning of their wedding, he just wasn't exciting enough. About a month later she ran away with the fiance of her best friend 2 weeks before their wedding. Then, on the way to their new life in Australia, the man she 'met' on the plane out and lived with for 3 years before returning to the UK with a lot of his money. The naive bloke who inherited his nan's estate, she married him and stayed long enough to get pregnant and throw him out of his nan's house. And the bloke she moved in to replace him also had money - insurance pay out. He too was bombed out once it was spent.

She was/is the most vile woman I have ever met and even now, at 50, she throws herself at those men who maybe are less, erm, worldly than they might be. Occasionally it still works too. I have never worked out what makes her tick, I have just written her off as a totally amoral bitch.

carabos · 15/12/2014 18:06

A friend of ours was the bride - her fiance called it off with less than a week to go. She has never got over it and it was 25 years ago.

Shockers · 15/12/2014 18:38

DH is in the wedding industry, so probably attends 100 a year. I've just asked him and he's never had a jilted bride or groom on his hands (he's usually there until the end of the evening ).

I have been to a wedding where the bride's mother had spent the previous night having sex with the groom. I found out at the end of the evening, but apparently it was common knowledge throughout. AFAIK, the bride was told while on honeymoon and came home alone.

Wishyouwould · 15/12/2014 18:54

Wow Shockers that is awful - her own mother??!! Shock

I know a bride who called off the wedding with 3 weeks to go.

It was 20+ years ago and the groom went on to marry and have a family with the most beautiful and lovely girl you could meet but he still holds a grudge towards the woman who 'jilted' him and bitches about her at every opportunity - I can't imagine how his now wife must feel about this. Bizarre.

FruVikingessOla · 15/12/2014 18:56

How utterly appalling, SixToesLeft, did you have a chance to report him to the priest/vicar/celebrant?

windchime · 15/12/2014 19:08

I went to a lavish wedding where almost everything went wrong. The bride's car broke down, the chav guests helped themselves to the floral decorations in the church before they had signed the register, the cake was made entirely of sponge instead of the fruit cake she wanted, and the best man announced in his speech the groom had shagged a stripper on his stag night. Also, the prawn starters were left on the restaurant tables for hours on the hottest day of the year, so couldn't be eaten, and the DJ didn't turn up. The couple are still together after 20 years!

Andrewofgg · 15/12/2014 19:23

I'd like to be at a wedding where someone gets up and does the Jane Eyre job and protests that one of the parties is already married.

The best I can offer is a very ordinary middle-class wedding where the groom varied the usual speech by adding:

I'd like to thank my dad for coming and my mum for being there at the time.

A moment's shocked silence; then laughter, laughter, laughter, on and on and on.

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