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AIBU?

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To want to tell DH to get back in his own bedroom?!

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Writerwannabe83 · 14/12/2014 22:18

For the last 2-3 months me and DH have had separate bedrooms due to a difficult baby and not wanting to keep DH up for hours and hours through the night when he has work.

Whilst this was the set-up I did miss DH's presence in the bed but I accepted that it's just how things had to be.

However, last night we put DS into his own room and DH returned to my our bedroom.

I thought I would love it but I feel SO annoyed He keeps sniffing and coughing, even his breathing is annoying me!!!

I miss the peace and quiet!!!!

I'm counting to ten every time he sniffs so I don't tell him to STFU but it's getting tiring very fast.

The glow from his bloody iPad isn't helping my mood either!

I feel like my personal space has been invaded!!

Maybe I should just evict him again so I can have a restful and peaceful night

He's just sniffed again. Bloody hell.
And again.

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Middleagedmotheroftwo · 14/12/2014 22:19

Bloody hell, you're in bed early!

DorothyBastard · 14/12/2014 22:19

Can't you just offer him a tissue?

joanne1947 · 14/12/2014 22:20

Has your sex life died too? Maybe if you work on that it will help.

NoTedInTheBed · 14/12/2014 22:24

Haha YANBU! I was the same! Bloody DH and his ridiculous notions of missing me and wanting a cuddle. God! Just get outta my bed! And then DD would wake up again anyway and come back into bed with me instead
We had about 4 months (age 5-9 months) of lovely me and DD only sleeps, but since then (DD now 14 months) DH back in our bed and it's even lovelier.
So there is hope, you might want him back in again at some point. Maybe

NoTedInTheBed · 14/12/2014 22:26

Without wanting to kill him I mean

Darkandstormynight · 14/12/2014 22:29

YANBU, I know exactly how you are feeling! Lately dh has gained weight, which is fine and he looks good. Except now he snores, and when he's not doing that he's talking in his sleep, two things he never ever did before, we've been married 14 years!

I've been having sleep problems and now I'm anticipating his snoring which is keeping me up too. My Dr. asked how much sleep I'm getting and told me for my health I had to do whatever I had to to get a block of decent night's sleep. So it's been this constant, leaving our bed to go sleep in the guest bed, or sometimes I'll go directly into the guest bed if the night before was an awful night's sleep.

Well, I'm noticing the same thing! Even coughing, breathing, I'm instantly up and many times can't fall back to sleep! Last night was the first night in several weeks that we actually slept in the same bed all night long, and it was soooooo nice! I get a better night sleep on my own, but I feel better and more 'married' when we can sleep in the same bed!

One of those white noise machines really helps, I've found. And about the sex, we rarely do it in bed anyway (prefer other areas of house) so that's a non-issue with us. For me it's the emotional closeness of just sleeping with your spouse. Too many nights apart and it starts to feel like you are flat mates...NOT something I want after 14 years marriage!

LuluJakey1 · 14/12/2014 22:30

I sympathise. I am 37 weeks pregnant and have ben sleeping in the spare room for 3 weeks because I can't stand heat or noise and am just incredibly irritable. I have got used to it and like the space and the coolness and the peace. DH has been amazingly tolerant of my moods.

We have had a lovely day today and tonight he got into bed with me and I was happy at first to have a cuddle and a chat. Now the bed is hot, he is breathing loudly and I am wide awake and at work tomorrow.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/12/2014 06:32

I survived the night We did go to bed early as DH had ruined his back playing football yesterday morning and needed to lie down

His snoring was really loud at one point of the night but a quick poke soon fixed that

Fixing our sex life is definitely a priority but a trip to the GP is in order first to prevent any other DC's from ever happening

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NoelleHawthorne · 15/12/2014 06:36

Ear plugs

Wonkyparsnip · 15/12/2014 06:58

We sleep separately. It's the only way I can sleep. When we go away and have to share it's really annoying. All hot and snoring and no space!

Eastpoint · 15/12/2014 06:58

Writerwannabe Get to the doctor/family planning this week or there'll be words flowing off your page in the autumn...

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/12/2014 07:41

I'm just dreading having another Coil put back in

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Hatespiders · 15/12/2014 08:40

We've had separate rooms for years and it's bliss. We both prefer it and sleep very well. On holiday we ask for twin beds and push them as far apart as possible! We love each other dearly and get together in my bed in the mornings over our early cup of tea. We're each quite 'territorial' and like our own room with all our own 'stuff' in it. He has all his football items and technology things, and I like china ornaments and lacy mats etc. Our bedrooms are completely different.

I should go back to separate rooms at least for now op; you both need a good night's sleep at this stage. Maybe share at weekends?

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