Getting creepy vibes from someone

[JudgeyHotPants]

I'm not sure if this should be in here or in chat to be honest but here goes...

I play a particular sport. It's one of the few sports that's dominated by women and most of my team mates are obviously women. We do have a few blokes who come along as well and they are all great guys, there's one however who really gives me the creeps. I'm not sure why, but as soon as I met him I thought there was something "off" about him. I pushed this to one side and assumed maybe it was down to him having poor social skills or something, but I usually find socially awkward men quite endearing and sweet. Not this one, he seriously makes the hairs on my neck stand up.

He stares a lot, at me which I hate and also at the other girls, some of whom are still only in their teens (this man is about 40). He also invades personal space. None of which is a crime I know, but it makes me feel uneasy,

Anyway just that really. I've never told anyone on the team how I feel, and I won't. I'm always polite to this man, but my exchanges with him never go any further that "hello" and "goodbye". Not sure what I'm asking to be honest, AIBU to feel this way this way I suppose?

I agree a proper safeguarding policy is the way to go and the beauty us you can be quite open about the group setting one up. You could require everyone's attendance at a meeting describing it and I am thinking and ask people to sign something saying they comply? I am on my phone so thoughts not too well ordered but I wonder if the club going in such a direction may, if there is some issue with this guy, encourage him to back away. There's obviously more to think about here/other angles and in not saying don't talk to others if you have real concerns although I know you don't personally now have evidence as such. You don't want to only move him along if he us dangerous but if he's just a bit awkward you don't want to stigmatise either. Safeguarding a good place to start.

Maybe one of the girls is his secret daughter?
Far fetched, I know.

Personally I would not confront him about his behaviour because, if he does have issues with women, he could start to fixate on you. If he is staring at women and encroaching on personal space it's likely he doesn't actually like or trust women much. I would however speak to a male in authority and get them to deal with it. No harm too in asking the other ladies what they think-in a neutral way, without planting seeds.

I'm one for trusting instincts. Im particularly good at picking up men who don't like women. These tend to be the ones who treat women as objects and stare.

I won't be confronting him anytime soon. I will definitely casually ask someone what they think of him though.

I was searching for 'creepy' to find the creepy stories thread and came across this.

Quite disturbing OP and sad stories from PPs [sorry] [hugs]

OP - did you get any further in exploring your creeped out feelings and get others' opinions?