To be a bit upset at my mum? Weight related.

[MikeTheShite]

She's just told me I look like Gemma Collins
I'm a size 16.
Used to be a 6,3 Years ago.

I'm actually so upset

Mine calls me Kim Kardashian, btw...

You could ask your pdoc to change you to an SSRI that is not as bad on the weight. Cipramil and prozac are both better for weight

Meech-,I get that but when put weight on I told myself it wasn't as much as it clearly was.

I admit my comment sounded hugely patronising, I was trying to say that maybe the op's mum was trying to kindly tell her she's put on weight (and there is no kind way of saying it!)

my mum said something very similar to me a few years ago. to be honest it was the best thing she could have done as it made me determined to lose weight. i lost 3 stone on slimming world but then met my husband and had 2 beautiful babies in quick succession so put it all on again. have now lost 3 and a half stone with a stone to go. I cried for days when my mum first told me how big I Cried was but now I thank her for the push I needed

To be fair, if you were working on a yard and riding 10 horses a day you would have used up a huge amount of energy and been incredibly fit. Going from that to (what I assume would be) a much less active lifestyle as a student would be a big change. If you are happy as a size 16, then there's no problem. If not, decide what you want to do about it. I am your height and when I was riding fit (many years ago) I was under 8st. I am certainly not that now but spend most of my life sat at a desk.

Don't be bloody ridiculous and cancel all your social plans! That's just self pitying and completely without any cause. Your friends don't care what size you are - they want you there. There are reasons why you've put on weight and your health is the best reason to lose it again.

Download myfitnesspal app and enter a realistic weight you'd like to be based on looking at a bmi chart and your height and get going. I lost a couple of stone last year through doing this and it was an incredible boost for my self esteem and how I felt about myself in and out of clothes and also physically moving about. I'm pregnant now so it's all back on, but as soon as this baby pops out I shall be opening the app again and getting back to a healthy weight.

Now, buck up, no feeling sorry for yourself. Your body functions perfectly well and you are blessed. Go make the most of it!

apologies for the extra 'cried' in my post, predictive text gone nuts!

Myfitnesspal is really fab, I agree, LittleRed. If you are unhappy with your weight Mike, then that is a free way to start checking how much you're eating and exercising.

Maybe I'm being too literal - but op, do you actually look like Gemma Collins? Never mind the size issue.

I once offended a friend because I said she looked a lot like Lisa Riley. My friend was about a size 12 and LR looks like a 24/26 to me so I thought it would be obvious I didn't mean weight-wise but clearly not!

No it is not self-pitying littlered.

If someone feels uncomfortable to attend social occasions due to a lack of self-esteem they are not feeling sorry for themselves. That is quite cruel.

youllshoot your eye out Im a size 16 too. I used to be a size 28! I lost ten stone originally going from 21 stone down to 10 stone 12. Back up to 16 stone 10 and in the last 15 months have lost 3 stone 9 and am currently 13 stone 4 and still losing. I have an hourglass shape.

I AM FUCKING PROUD OF WHAT IVE ACHIEVED. FUCK BODY SHAMING!

Are you on anti depressants because of the experience with your ex boyfriend?

And just to add, why is being overweight considered ugly? Because of the current media and their ideals that a size zero is what we as women should all be fighting to attain. Is fat really the worst thing a person can be? I think not.

However- yes I am.

I feel bloody crap but I'll defo take all the advice on board

I know I am overweight so I don't need anyone telling me. In fact someone telling me everyday will not make me lose it - what will is being in the right place mentally to start

My mum has always bought me size 16 even when I was a 12. Except one year when I went up to 18 she bought me a size 14. Strange

Do you think your mum was trying to pay you a compliment? Gemma Collins is rather a good example of woman who are a little larger but very glamorous and sexy with it.

Do you think Gemma Collins is turning down all her Christmas invitations because she's too fat to be seen?

Those Christmas invites, are any of them from people you've not seen in 3 years or are they from people who knw exactly what you look like and want you there? If you have multiple christmas 'do' invites you are clearly someone with a great personality that friends want to have at their parties.

Call back and say you were mistaken, you would love to still come. If in the new year you do want to change your body, my fitness pal is fabulous. You obviously are someone who thrives on exercise, can you build more back in to your day?

No idea what you weigh. At your height, 7 stone was very very thin.

don't cancel the invites. And why is your mother being so rude? How does this add any value, given you are on meds and may have limited control over weight gain anyway?

OK then, well, I don't know a lot about anti depressants, if what I'm about to say is rubbish, I'm sure someone will set me straight.

Your partner left you high and dry and pregnant and you had to move back home, which is a horrible thing to happen. And you were prescribed anti-depressants? Because you are normal person and anyone in that position might slide into depression.

Can you not think of weaning yourself off them, 3 years down the track? You were depressed because a shitty thing happened to you, not because your natural state is predisposed to being depressed - a chemical imbalance or whatever? And shitty things happen to us all, and we need to (at some point) dust ourselves off and get on with things.

And yes, I know that is easier said than done.

I think the GC comment was to shock me tbh. The pretty but larger lady.
My hair looks like her, extenstions etc

SpecialSubject - why is being compared to Gemma Collins rude? She is really very gorgeous. I can't work out the implication of that to women who are size 16…

I guess I would have taken it as a compliment! It just shows that Mike's mum's comment could be taken either way.

Oh OP .

Even if your Mum is worried about your weight, that is not the nicest way of raising the issue with you.

My guess is that having gained so much weight in a short time, you've been struggling with something quite big in your life - either physically or emotionally. In either case, this is not the best way of offering you a support.

To all those who act like it's just a matter of self-restraint: I have had serious health issues for the last 5 years, and I have gone from 100lbs to 150lbs. I have gone from running marathons to being unable to climb a flight of stairs. I hate, hate, hate the way I look now, but there is absolutely nothing I can do about it because I can't exercise or diet with my condition.

Un-cancel your Christmas invites

Wherever you end up going, look around you.

You'll see people of all different shapes, sizes and weights just having a bloody good time.

Go out and enjoy yourself...Gemma Collins certainly does!

Aww you poor thing. I put on two stone after leaving racing. Me and another girl at the yard did a food diary one week, we were, on average eating over 6000 calories a day and were both under 7stone. It's a huge lifestyle change when you leave. Any chance you can get back into a more active lifestyle? It's hard because in racing you don't actually do scheduled exercise you are just doing your job.

The people saying size 16 isn't healthy? Is that everyone, or just some of us, I mean how on earth would you know? You do know that weight isn't the only indicator of health, and that many studies suggest it's healthier to be slightly overweight.

Size 16 isn't healthy for anyone though unless they are nearing 6ft. It's so normal to be overweight these days that most normal people are already slightly overweight devilinside