Aibu to think that being beautiful is a disadvantaged

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Was watching the 10 hrs walking in nyc as women video and it got me thinking being beautiful Is actually a disadvantage. If you are male or female your more likely to be disliked (jealousy). Also people are more likely to want to put you into situations were you are pressured into having sex.

Yanbu.

I have a truly beautiful friend who was assaulted by another woman for being too pretty. She was just sitting there minding her own business, chatting to us. It was bizarre.

I honestly think some guys don't realize how unnerving it can be!

My lovely sons have seen me be on the receiving end of some really over the top and scary attention of random guys on the street.Thank fully I've raised 3 young guys that don't act the way those men in the film did.YANBU.

It's very creepy that men feel it's ok to harass her in this way, especially the guy who walks alongside her for five minutes! I think it's because she's alone. It makes her vulnerable, a perfect target in their eyes.
I very rarely get harassed when I'm out with my kids, but when I'm alone it happens
It's shocking that these men expect her to be grateful for the attention! Shame on their parents for not raising them to have respect for women. It's down to parents of sons to change this.

I live in a big city and I'm going to say most of the women here seem to be slim and above average looks. So irrespective of whether they get harrassed there does seem to be a theme on who gets employed....

I'm not sure, it can be an advantage because it is so highly valued by our society. My dd is what society deems beautiful( I know she is beautiful in every way)she is 5'7 a size 8 blonde etc., she is regularly commented and praised on her looks. However this seems to be peoples main focus, she is also bright ,witty and works really hard these rarely get a mention.
I take the approach that this is nice addition but not a main focus, beauty comes from inside and out.

I agree with everyone you have missed the point of the video. This woman is not amazingly or differently beautiful, she's just a lovely young woman walking around the supposedly sophisticated and civilized capital city of the world's superpower and being sexually harassed almost constantly (interestingly enough, there was then a similar one done in an Indian city I think, Mumbai, and not one person said or touched the woman in those hours although some did stare).

As for whether beautiful people need our pity, I suspect not! It is clearly a life advantage to be attractive, although you may attract more attention than you want on occasions too. I am not beautiful at all, but I am not unattractive, and this, coupled with confidence and being friendly, makes life more pleasant.

No, it opens a lot of doors. People gravitate towards beautiful people and seem to want to help them.

you'll always get the odd idiot but the benefits massively out way the negatives

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YANBU - being stunningly beautiful makes my life so hard, but we all have our cross to bear I suppose

You beat me to it

Totally agree about street harassment happening because you're young and female rather than because you're beautiful.

When I was younger I was always being harassed by men. I wasn't beautiful in any way but I was slim with big boobs and clearly very shy which seemed to give some men the green light to bother me.

I'm definitely more conventionally attractive now but as I've got more confident and can walk with my head up, men just don't comment like they used to.

Or that could be because I'm 34 and past it

That was interesting! There are other vids by guys, gay men too showing that it happens to all.. The gay one seemed the most threatening and a hijab one seemed to cut the comments. I do think being good looking can be a disadvantage. Dull people do resent ability, intelligence and good looks and project terrible negatives onto people they are jealous of.

wasitsomething I live in a big city and I'm going to say most of the women here seem to be slim and above average looks. So irrespective of whether they get harrassed there does seem to be a theme on who gets employed....

I don't think its that simple - if you live in a big city and work in an office mainly full of smart, slim people, you tend to want to fit in. Its called social facilitation. And working in a city and doing a stressful job tend to keep you thin and make you keep an eye on your hair, your clothes, your general appearance, etc..

It would have been better
If the New Zealand video had the woman walking with two microphones in her hand (like the NYC version).

I notice no men in suits. Where are they (Manhattan is full of them) and did they also catcall? It skews the impression made.

But yabu, beauty is no disadvantage in life, overall. Whatever negatives it attracts are generally outweighed by the positives.