To be annoyed with DP for this?

[MinnieM1]

I've been seriously ill with flu recently and have been in bed for the last 2 days
Yesterday DC were in school all morning and my Mum had the afternoon off and took them to her house for me, I slept all day
DP is supposed to be home at 5:45, he said he had to work late yesterday he'd be home closer to 6:30 but my Mum had to bring DC home for 6 so I dragged my sorry arse out of bed and relocated to the couch, kept telling myself it was only half an hour
DP rocks up at 7pm! I was already annoyed, poor kids had been pretty much ignored for an hour and he swans in with...a bar of chocolate and a bottle of radox I've got flu I'm not on my fucking period! I don't want this shit I just want to sleep!!
AIBU to be thoroughly fucked off that I was dying on the couch with no-one to watch DC and he was swanning round Tesco buying me stuff I didn't want?! He thinks I'm 'ungrateful'

Just because other people have it tougher doesn't mean something isn't tough

It's not that awful or tough though...its one hour of being on your own with your kids. It's not fun when your ill but hey ho, that's life!

AnniDoll - if you can do all that then you really don't have flu

I see the chocolate helped you make a remarkable recovery if you are now well enough to post on here.

Pudcat - I've already said I didn't eat the chocolate
But yes I am feeling better today thank you for your concern

I do love an AIBU bitch fight.

Keeps me totally entertained at work

Poor you Minnie. It's bloody awful isn't it?

I think lots of people confuse a cold with flu which might be why they're so unsympathetic. It's hard to understand if you've never had it.

Hope you're feeling better soon

It really is MovingOnUp, I will never call a cold the flu again this is like nothing I've ever experienced before
Definitely will be getting the jab next year!
Thank you

I've had proper flu only once in my life and I remember thinking at the time 'I understand now how people can die from this'.

I have never felt more dreadful.

Annie if you can go shopping at 40 weeks pregnant with kids in tow then you definitely don't have flu.

I'm with you OP. Although it's hardly LTB territory, I would find it immensely irritating.

I hate it when people do 'favours' for you that you never asked for and which actually make your life more difficult but you're still supposed to be grateful.

YANBU. I don't think leaving you on your own for half an hour of itself it that bad- if he couldn't have got away then you would've had to suck it up.

But it's the fact that he was needed and expected to come straight home from work to look after his children, but instead of just doing it like a grown-up he skipped off round Tesco instead thinking he was bloody Santa Claus.

You won't get much sympathy on here tho. It's too ingrained in us that looking after the children is our responsibility, and we should just be grateful for whatever crumbs "help" get thrown out way from the men.

Seriously ill with flu? Yet you can get out of bed & get worked up & type it all out on here?

The difference is, if it were flu, you wouldn't have the energy to give a fuck, let alone be posting about it on here.

Flu kills people, it is a serious illness. Which is exactly why the op doesn't have flu. She can move & type on MN...she is hardly seriously ill!

The last time I was very ill I could barely lift my phone to see the time, let alone post on MN about being seriously ill.

annidoll I'm sorry, but I don't got one second believe you were out Xmas shopping and walking digs with the flu. You might have a bad cold and feel like crap, but if you had actual flu you wouldn't be out and about - flu is nasty and there's few things more annoying then people bitching about having flu when they quite obviously have a cold.

Differentnameforthis - I feel better today, am I not allowed to recover? I'm still in bed, still taking lots of paracetamol, but can move my thumbs - it's a miracle!

Op this would piss me off too. Partly because half an hour at 6pm is like 5hours at any other time when you have small children!

I'm not one to woman up and get on with looking after my sextuplets when I've got pneumonia and a broken leg like some people on here, and I'm quite happy to be at the back of the queue when the medals are being given out if it means I can go to bed when I'm ill!

It's too ingrained in us that looking after the children is our responsibility, and we should just be grateful for whatever crumbs "help" get thrown out way from the men.

I don't think it is anything to do with that, to be fair. I don't think any of us think it is solely the woman's job, it's just that some of us have to just get on with it & don't have the luxury of having a parent or other half to take over.

So because you're on your own, no one who does have a partner should ever be able to expect them to man up and take some responsibility?

Right. Got it.

But it's the fact that he was needed and expected to come straight home from work to look after his children, but instead of just doing it like a grown-up he skipped off round Tesco instead thinking he was bloody Santa Claus

Lololol at Santa Clause That is EXACTLY why I would be raging. Feebly raging but raging none the less.

I am getting over the flu myself and my dh has been fantastic.

How do I know whether I've got a bad cold or flu?
You're in bed with muscle aches, sore throat and feeling hot. If a £50 note fluttered through your open window, would you a) grab it or b) leave it to flutter out again, unable to drag yourself out of bed? If you answered a), you have a cold b), you have flu.

Oh and I agree with everything SaucyJack said.

Has no one ever heard of the flu jab?

I had flu once, fuck me it was like getting hit by a bus then a lorry.

I remember being in and out of consciousness for several days, losing weight, sweating and generally feeling like I was off on another planet.

Never making that mistake again, I'm always first in the queue for the jab.

Anyone who says they don't agree with the flu jab ain't had flu!

faez

haha

It could be the winning Euro Millions and you still couldn't muster enough strength to grab it!

You feel cold with the flu and shivery. That's what gives you a temperature as your body tries to heat you up.

But for anyone asking about the difference between cold and flu if you Google that and NHS you'll find the info.

Yes I have heard of it Number3. Unfortunately due to another condition I have I haven't been well enough to have it this year. It's a bugger but sometimes that's just the way things go.

op I do have sympathies. I've severe food poisoning with fluid exploding out of each end. I've never been so ill in all my life. spent most of the day lying on the floor in between the toilet and bedroom shaking, DD was feral that day.

Dp had to go to work. 8am - 9pm

I do think only having to get up for a short while is making you a little bit BU.

I'm sorry you're poorly but as someone with long term chronic health conditions and no family help whatsoever I can only think how extremely lucky you are to have your mum step in like that and a dh who cares enough about you to bring you pressies on the way home. Okay so he was a little late but the thought was there.

Trust me if you have no one (and I mean no one, no family, no partner or husband or childcare) you do manage, you have to.

I'd try to forget how angry you feel and put it down to post flu tiredness and hopefully it will pass soon.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut sorry to hear that, hopefully you will be well enough next year.