To think that this is not the best way for school to deal with child pooing on floor?

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I've changed my name as this could out me.

Last week in the email which is sent to all parents at my DC primary school, the HT added an attachment to "all parents of infant girls"

It was a letter outlinging the fact that a girl in the infants had been soiling the floors in the infant girls toilets.

It went on to say that the child must be very uncomfortable as there was a real mess in the loo..on the floor and in a cubicle and that the parent must be aware as their pants would be messy.

It asked that the parent come forward in confidence so the teacher could work with them and their child.

Today a paper letter came home in all infant girls bags saying it had happened again today and that the matter will be dealt with in confidence...that nobody will know it was them....they're concerned to find the child so that she can be helped.

I feel like this...if the child is making that much mess then why can't the child's teacher smell it!?

Poor kid. And to send a second letter out when the parent has not come forward after last weeks...isn't it going to make things worse for them? Won't they feel even more embarrassed?

This is a tiny village primary with a very "naice" intake. Perhaps they'r;e too ashamed or could they really not know? Isn't there some other way of the school dealing with this?

My DD and all the other infants know about this matter and of course they are speculating about who it is....I put a stop to that immediately by the way.

hatesspiders I suggested that yesterday , apparently I was wrong , which I'm not btw

Spiders DH pointed out that it could be a boy. It seems to happen at lunchtime and a boy could easily go into the girls toilets.

There is a possibility they suspect they know who it is but no evidence.

The letters are probably designed to give them a reason so they can start monitoring the toilets - if no one comes forward they will HAVE to.... Probably a hoop they need to jump through unfortunately.

I don't see the issue with the letters

Sorry Cauliflowersneeze if I missed your previous post - I haven't read all the posts, which is a bit naughty.

It's very upsetting about this child. I'm worried that their own parent/s haven't noticed the state of their pants. They could lie low on one occasion, but as it keeps happening, you'd think they'd be dealing with it by now. I do hope it can be resolved, but without identifying the child, what can one do?

By the way, does anyone remember the TV series 'The Singing Detective'? The pupil who was the detective as a boy at school pooed on the teacher's desk and got another lad into trouble for it. He too was very disturbed and miserable about his dad. It's a bit like a 'dirty protest'. Very worrying.

Although not ideal, its not that bad a way to deal with it. Envelopes would have been better. Poor child, she sounds a bit disturbed about something

Could be lots of things other than abuse tho too.